Don’t be afraid to ask for help of those around you. If someone offers to help, the best thing you can do is let them. Friends and family will want to help you, but they probably won’t know what to say (unless they’ve experienced the death of a spouse themselves). Just like me and most of the others responding to your thread. Most people your age won’t have experienced a loss like this before… they want to help. WE want to help. We just don’t know what the hell to say because “I’m sorry” sounds so inadequate.
A horrible thing to go through rwhbyu so sorry. Hopefully you have close friends nearby that will be there for you, take their help if it’s offered. If not PM the people here that have been through the same thing.
rwhbyu, I am so very sorry. I cried when I read your post; my heart aches for your loss.
I don’t have the words, but in looking at the locations of the posters here, I’m hoping you can find some measure of comfort in the fact that there are people all across the US- from California and Oregon to Maine and Washington D.C.- indeed, across the world- Victoria, Australia- that are thinking of you and your family. I wish you strength, love, and eventual peace.
Words fail when something like this happens, rwhbyu. I had a co-worker go through something like this, but without the kids. It’s…hard. Painful. And more.
One of the few things I’ve learned through stuff like that is everyone has their own way of grieving.
Like some others who have commented, I’ve been where you are. I lost my first husband in 2009 and the world no longer made sense to me.
You will have good moments and bad moments and everything in between in the upcoming days. Be as gentle with yourself as you can. Try not to make any big decisions if you can avoid it.
I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. It’s terrible and makes you feel helpless and alone and scared. I can’t make it better, but know that there are a lot of us who would be happy to talk to you and help as much as we are able.
