I am in my second marriage, with a blended family. My wife and I have two biological kids together, and she is a great stepmom to my older two bio children from my first marriage.
My wife gets only one week off from work the whole summer, and it is the break between her camp’s first and second sessions–so, zero flexibility. But she knew months in advance which week in July it would be, and we also knew that my ex usually likes to do some combination of having her parents come visit (from Seattle), going out there with the kids, or sending them out to spend a couple weeks there without her. So *months *ago (like, three months at least), we told her we could be flexible with custody the whole summer, except for that one week.
So we booked ourselves a whirlwind Midwestern road trip: up to Minnesota and North Dakota to visit the wife’s family, then on to Winnipeg to meet up with my mom and check out the Francophone district (nous sommes tous francophiles), and back. We booked two rooms for two nights on Priceline, a big splurge for us at a nonrefundable $160 + fees.
Today my sixteen year old son, our eldest, comes over and is all excited about how his grandparents are going to take him to New York City (they grew up in Jersey and have lots of extended family there) “as long as it’s okay with” us. Sure, that’s great–with the obvious point that of course it wouldn’t be scheduled during our one week that we staked out months ago.
So, you know, we contacted my ex just to make absolutely sure on that point. Need I say more? :mad: (This is in the Pit, after all.) She “thought it was a different week”, despite the fact that we emphasized it over and over and OVER. :smack:
So, no problem…we just have to tell an excited sixteen year old who’s never seen NYC “sorry, you have to stay in the Midwest with us instead”. Where the **FUCK **does she get off, getting his hopes up about this trip without checking with us first?! Gaaaahhhhhh!!!