FTR, I don’t like confrontation and that’s probably what I’d do as well, but it doesn’t seem fair.
Think about it
1)She doesn’t like it when you say certain words.
2)She doesn’t like it when you talk to her about her not liking the use of certain words.
3)I don’t like being judged by her but can’t do anything about it without setting her off.
In a ‘regular’ workplace environment, these are the kind of employees that make managers/employers uncomfortable because everyone has to walk on eggshells around them and results in a lot of complaints and whining about them.
You got it with the eggshells comment! Exactly. It’s a good thing we get along well otherwise, plus she really is good at the job itself. In home care, it’s pretty personal though. The workplace is my house. I am always compromising somewhat because it’s worth it to me.
I guess in deference to her religious beliefs you could switch to a different set of profanity. Maybe switching to Carlin’s 7 words would make her more comfortable.
The above “1) 2) 3)” certainly doesn’t seem right – with the client’s being reluctant to provoke confrontation and acrimony, the nurse is getting to “have it all ways”: especially wrongful, in that per a PP, she is failing here to follow the policy set by her church for such “work” situations.
In the OP’s place, I reckon that I would think (probably wouldn’t dare to say it out loud, with the wish being to minimise nastiness): “You ought to try a spell in prison – which is what adherents of your faith automatically get in some parts of the world. That would show you real bad language, to the max – and maybe cause you to get that issue, and possibly others, into some kind of perspective”.
Geez = Cheese
Oh My God = Oh My Goodness!
Jesus = Cheeses
Doesn’t seem that hard really! Just insist you said, Cheese not Geez, cheeses not Jesus, etc! I don’t know how you could more clearly illustrate how silly she is being.
The patient is not the employer. The patient is the customer. The customer can not create a hostile work environment in his own house. The actual employer has recourse, they can move her to a different client without any change in employment if there is a conflict.
I would just start using “Jumping Jesus on a pogostick.”
While I do understand that harassment doesn’t have as much to do with the intent of the person who said it as it does to do with the person on the receiving end, I think it’d be pretty hard to argue that you’re in a hostile work environment when the only thing hostile about it is that one of the people occasionally says ‘jeez’ or ‘oh my god’. Especially when you’ve only just recently made the decision to be offended by it.
It all comes down to whose ox is being gored (a phrase I overuse, but hey). If she were a homosexual man and objected politely to you saying “That’s so gay!” every time something exasperated you, the board police hereabouts would be down on you like a metric shit-ton of building blocks. :rolleyes:
It’s the optative subjunctive, equivalent to “May God damn it”: they’re not asking God, they’re wishing that he would. See also “God bless America/save the Queen/defend our free land”.
I’m not sure why, but I do know she’s anxious she might be falling off from her faith because she decided to go back to school. My guess is that she’s being defensive/sensitive for that reason plus the flack she’s catching from her non-JW family as she gets more sensitive, she becomes more insulated, then she gets more sensitive…
