Homer,
Jeez, you nearly had me wetting myself with your post about hot chili’s.
Now here is what you should do. It may sound a little harsh.
Get a job. Clean yourself up. you are so much better than the rut you are stuck in.
Tim, I have so much respect for you. I know you can get out of this.
Now straighten up and fly right or I’ll come over there and put a smackdown on your ass.
Kapeesh?
Magdalene -
What? I agreeed with Coldy. So I said so. Happens every day around here.
Damn, what rock have you been hiding under? I thought it was extremely tame myself. If you are that sensitive I suggest you wear tinfoil panties.
Oh and JFT, I agree with him too.
Homer,
Your’re in college. Believe me not only can your life get worse, it will. I don’t mean to frighten you into becoming a hermit, but college is not the real world. Sorry for the news flash. 75% of what you learn in college will be used about 5% of the time once you graduate. This life is on the job training - get used to it.
And have a nice day.
P.S. - LouisB is right. Do something with your writing. For God’s sake don’t become a brain dead office drone. Take it from your old friend Jack - it sucks.
Homer,
Tough to see you in a rough spot. Also tough to see a bunch of people here who don’t remember what it’s like to be 19 years old. Sure, nobody’s dead, and you don’t have some terminal illness, but very few 19-year-olds ever think shit like that’s going to happen to them. So you do what 19-year-olds do–try to enjoy your life, but a heap of little things happen, and suddenly it becomes a Big Thing. I hear you.
Like damn near every person in this thread who has bothered to address your OP, I’m going to give you (somewhat) unsolicited job advice. If there’s one campus job you want to get, it’s definitely working in the computer labs. Here’s the situation with my job. I get there, get on the clock, put on a badge, and sit at a computer with a sign on it that says “Lab Assistant.” If people need help, they come up to me and ask me. Usually this involves very little help–if you know how to load, save, and print from every application on there, you’re about 75% there toward being qualified for this job. Also, most of the time you get to sit around and do nothing. Were it not for my job, I doubt I’d ever really have time to post to the SDMB. All I do, on the average day, is sit around surfing the internet and chatting to anyone who bothers to talk to me (if anyone wants to, I’m on AIM as Drain Bead, same as here). The “work” that takes up the bulk of the time I spend “working” is putting paper in the printers. And yes, they pay me for this.
'Course, every now and then, you have days like yesterday, when the goddamn motherfucking piece of shit network was down for the ENTIRE TIME I WAS WORKING, and then some, and I had to turn away 10,000 people because there was no internet and printing, but you have days like that with every job. And hey, at least I got my homework done. But that’s another Pit thread, for another time.
Another good thing about the computer labs, at both colleges I went/go to, is that they always seem to be hiring, because they have way more hours to fill than they have people. So check it out if you know the least thing about computers. It’s a fun job because you get to help people and then otherwise do nothing, it’ll help your grades because you can do homework and write papers there if need be, and it usually pays a decent amount–maybe not as much as you’re looking for, but the pay cut is worth the free time you’ll get. I make $7 an hour at mine, but I’ve been there for a year and a half.
Good luck, man. Hang in there.
You know, Homer, this has been a very enlightening thread for me. First off, I’m reminded of what a whiney jerk I was when I was your age (as if I’ve changed any) and I have much more sympathy for the totality of your situation than I might let on. All I can offer is the request that you follow the advice your friends here have offered, especially the part about cleaning up yourself. Don’t do what I did; don’t let the peripheral parts of college interfere with the important parts–growing up and getting an education. You’ll be surprised how many of your problems will go away on their own when you do.
Secondly, I’m reminded how fucking petty we all can get! We’re here to have a good time and fight ignorance. Let’s not waste energy flaming our friends. And if you aren’t friends with some Doper ignore them or try to find that common ground. Shit, if I can get to like and sympathize with Homer, for whom I have always had a stupid, unreasoning dislike, then there are no real grounds for any of the shit that has been flying between the rest of you, either. Hurtful words are terrible weapons to use on somebody you scarcely know.
And if this is sounding too MPSIMS for you, or if you think it shows I don’t know what the Pit is all about, then you are invited to kindly twist yourself into a pretzel shape so you can felch yourself.
Is that a proposal? I’m flattered. Too bad you’re taken
I’m going to have to chime in with Drain Bead here: if you’re looking for an easy job, it’s difficult to do better than the campus computer labs. I make $5.50/hour to read the SDMB, do my homework, and tell people “Sorry, that’s a network problem. I can’t help you.” And next semester, they raise me to $6/hour, just because I haven’t quit on them. The shifts fit around your classes and, if UMKC is anything like UMC, you can get ahold of some late-night shifts where you do absolutely nothing and get paid for it.
Trust me, even if you think they’re not hiring at the campus job you desire (library, computer lab, res hall desk, whatever) apply anyway. I had an application on file for a month with the labs before they called me.
Also, it can’t hurt to start trolling the malls with applications right about now. They’ll be hiring for xmas soon, if they haven’t started already. Seasonal retail isn’t the most glamorous job, but money’s money, and it’s better than slinging Heisenburgers at Mickey D’s. At the very least, it’ll bring some money in until you find a job you like better. (Try Waldenbooks if there’s one near you. They’ll be hiring for the little calander stand that they set up in the middle of the mall for the holliday season. I worked there for two holiday rushes, and I got to read all day as long as I made an occasional pass through the merchandise to keep everything straight.)
Good luck, Homer. I’ve been in a position similar to yours before, and all it took to make me feel better about life was to get my ass in gear. I know it seems like the last thing you want to do right now, but it’ll help.
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A-fucking-men.
I sure as hell wouldn’t want to open a new pit thread for it, so I said so here. And as said, yes, it was not just about her reaction here, typical as it was.
Having read about her carefree lifestyle, I now see even less reason why she should be judgmental about ANYONE. A few points, though:
Rape does occur in the Netherlands. Don’t tell me how bad the US of A is - I don’t live in a Fairy Tale Forest. Amsterdam was rated just last year as being the third most criminal city in the world, right after New York and Washington DC. For some reason, people are still friendly over here, at least in general. So don’t tell ME I’m being naive. Even though, granted, I am not a woman.
The issue of the 4 interrelated problems refered to THIS thread. How that went over your head is beyond me. Instead of explaining us what your day looks like, you might have acknowledged the fact that your response to Homer was extremely patronising, to say the least. But hey, if you wanna talk about yourself, I suppose I can’t stop you. Even if no one asked.
Anyways, now you know how I feel about you. And about how a few more people feel about you. I just had to say something, that’s all. I’m sure there’s plenty of people on these boards that don’t like me (well, there’s one now, that much is certain :D), and maybe someday someone will lose his patience and tell ME how they feel. It’s all in the game.
Homer, sorry for the hijack mate. I hope you’re able to solve your problems. You’re certainly smart enough to do a lot about them.
Homer,
You kill me. I’ve got a 16 year old daughter in high school who dragged herself all over town and interviewed with 27 different businesses just so she could get a job. She doesn’t HAVE a car, she’s working to buy one. I take her to work or she gets a ride from school. In addition, she has an active social life, maintains her grades, and takes violin and is active in church. She is pretty much buying her own clothes now, too. I give her $10 a week in spending money–not much but all I can afford.
So, Homer, you have obviously neglected to think this through–if a 16 year old can figure this out–so can you!
Quit the damn fraternity–it costs you money each month and you don’t have any money. Next semester get a job as a resident assistant and live in the dorm for free–voila–no rent, no commuting costs, no commuting time, no living at home. Make friends in your dorm–normal kids, not rich frat boys–you’ll feel much less resentful. Get another job if you need to–the cafeteria is great–I did that and worked about 15 hours a week and got calls for catering events. Buddy, you need to get over this stupid job-status idea.
Your resume will look impressive if you:
Make good grades–for pete’s sake go to class and study!
Work anywhere–the students who look bad are those who don’t have any employment history. A kid who works at MacDonalds, on campus, retail, ups, wal-mart is a kid who KNOWS HOW TO WORK! One who works while going to school is ambitious, knows how to schedule and manage time, understands the value of productions, and is much more likely to get hired after school!
Participate in better groups–find a better group to use your skills in–where you can contribute to society not hone your drinking skills. There are plenty of groups on campus where you can be a leader! Find a service fraternity or become a tutor or big brother. Join Toastmasters.
Good Luck!
Now get to work!