I have a strong affinity with my own version of the second quote, which is “You work to live, not the other way around”.
In my mind, there is strict compartmentalization between “work”, which is whatever tasks you perform to earn scratch, and “life”, which is what you need that scratch for. Designing software, translating technical literature, building monuments to humankind, killing the enemy of the motherland or teaching children in Africa - that’s work. It’s ultimately meaningless, or rather their only meaning is putting cash in your pocket. What one does with that cash - that’s the message. That’s the “real” me. Having fun, loving friends, eating weird stuff, writing stuff I’ll never publish, playing games, taking that 8th shot on a dare because whatever happens next it’ll be worth not remembering in the morning. That’s what’s really important. Carpe fucking diem. Great causes, messages, social benefits, duty and sacrifice… where will they be in a hundred years ? Ghandi’s dead, mate. He’s not even remembered right.
And if you manage to land a job that furthers your own goals, then bully for you lucky person guy. Or, possibly, you’re one of the cursed ones.
My parents, on the other hand, are full-on former mode. Their marriage, their home, their kids were always subordinate to their respective passions for their work. Oh, sure, they made lots of money, bought lots of stuff, went on lots of travels and ensured my sister and I had good starting blocks (or good faffing arounds figuring what the fuck they wanted to do in my case) - but as long as I remember for example, whenever The Family went to the US, or Italy, or White Castle, there was someone banging away at the computer in the down times. Or answering work emails. Or making calls. So, like the butterfly dream thing, were they working people whisked away on vacation because that’s what people do, or holiday people who happened to do a little work on the side ? You tell me.
They’re now both past retirement age, their little egg nest “for a rainy day” is thoroughly built, and yet both are reliably putting retirement away every year - they’ve got this contract to fulfil, that merger to make sure happens right, this project to finish first, this interesting case to see through, this new hire to set straight before they cock everything up, yadda yadda. Dad is already talking about the job he’s going to pick up* when he’s retired* *and he can do whatever he likes *(emphasis mine, but also his).
To me, that’s strictly perverse. I really don’t get that. Not one bit.
I also strongly suspect that, should some ladder climbing douche force them out of their work (they sure as shit aren’t giving it up on their own, retirement manor in the Loire valley all bought and renovated or not), they’ll end up simply letting themselves die, out of simple lack of purpose and boredom. See ? Perversity.
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Sometimes your job IS who you are. Richard Feynman was a physicist. I don’t know, but I’d guarantee his “resume” WAS read at his funeral in the form of a list of his accomplishments.
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Wow, talk about picking wrong examples :).
Judging by his autobiographies, I strongly suspect the opposite. Feynman was the epitome of having your own fun while on the job. He worked on the atomic weapons program fer chrissakes, and what did he do at Los Alamos ? If you listen to him, his contribution consisted in fucking with the heads of mail censors and teaching himself lock picking/safe cracking.
Also probably hash out the details of making the basic components of the universe explode. But that’s not what he wanted to talk to you about. What was really fascinating to him was how hardly anybody bothered to change their factory lock combinations, even after he told them their safes were anything but !