I’m terribly sorry for your loss, that was beautiful, what you wrote. I experienced something similar when my mother died.
Please, if you could, share with us a zany story or two. You’ve moved us all with your words. I long to know a little more of this enchanting woman, who gave us all a piece of herself in you.
My sincerest condolences to you and your family.
My condolences Jill. You were very fortunate to have such a good relationship with your mother. Once the pain passes you will have the memories.
My condolences, Jill. You are blessed to have had such a mother, and wise in your resolve to share your memories with your daughter now. I remember my own zany great-grandfather only through such stories, but he is still present in my life because of them.
My sympathy goes out to you, Jill.
My heart goes out to you, Jill. What you did was such a tough thing to do, to sit there with a loved one knowing that when you leave the room, they will have departed this life. Not only were you brave, but you also demonstrated the depth of your love for your mother, by being there till the end.
I can remember being in a similar situation when my gandfather died. I hope I handled it as well as you have.
I know it’s painful now, but in time you will realise how special those final moments are, and how they become one of the defining moments of one’s life.
Please accept my condolences for you and your family.
Jill, there is no greater service you can provide someone than to help them move from this world to the next. I pray I can have your strength when the time comes.
{{{{{Jill}}}}}
What a wonderfully life-affirming way to cope with death. I’m awed by your grace.
:Thoughts and Prayers:
May her memory be a blessing to you - it sounds like it already is…
Laugh and cry all at once, and let your daughter see and feel that toughest, most human of combinations.
My sympathies to you all.
What a beautiful and touching story! It reminds me a bit of my own mother’s passing. Yours is a wise and loving Spirit. As a mod, you have access to our e-mail address. Feel free to use it if Edlyn or I can help support you in any way. God go with you always, JillGat
My deep sympathy and condolences to you. It sounds that you were blessed to have spent some special time with your mom before she left this earth in a peaceful way surrounded by your love. It also seems that she has given you a great deal of herself to carry on into the world now. May you find peace in this tough time…
salutes
Well, it sounds like her life was full of joy, and with such a wonderful daughter to usher her into the next life, I can’t think of a much better way to pass on.
Reading your post made me so happy for you and your mother. You made her passing a time to celebrate, and what’s a rare and wonderful thing. I’m touched that you would share such a personal story with us, and I thank you for it.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Jill. The grace with which you assisted her and the quiet dignity of her passing are great tributes to her as a person and to you as her daughter. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I lost my father this past January, Jill. I can relate to quite a lot of what you said. Dad went rather suddenly, so I didn’t have the chance that you did to say what needed to be said. Cherish that memory, and take comfort in it.
I’m crying a whole bucket of tears for you, Jill.
You gave your mom the best gift one person can give another. You and I know that death is not the worst thing that can happen to a person; death is as natural as birth and sometimes it is a thing to be embraced, not feared. You let her die surrounded by love and comfort, not machines and strangers. It takes a strong person with strong love to do what you did for her.
When we grieve, we cry for ourselves. Only those of us who are left behind are hurting. Your mother is free.
I hope you will be comforted whenever you miss your mom that you told her what you needed to say. My dad died ten years ago, and I still miss him; I regret that I wasn’t able to tell him those things. I was just young enough that I didn’t even know that I had things I needed to say to him. I can only hope he knew it anyway.
I’d gladly bear some of your pain for you if I could. You’re in my thoughts.
Sincerest sympathy,Jill
We lost my Dad a month ago. To lung cancer. He was strong and fought until the last hour when my mother told him he didn’t have to fight anymore.
Like your Mom he quit fighting and in 20 minutes his breathing stopped.
It is hard losing a loved one. As difficult as it is I think your being there helped, as I think our family being around helped Dad.
Jill, you are an exceptionally strong woman to have been present for your mother in such a loving way. To have such a deep caring beyond the wailing point, and grace your mother with attention to her appearance is moving beyond words. She must’ve been a humdinger if she raised as fine a person as you are.
My deepest sympathies. Take care, Jill.
From your story and from knowing you, your mother was a wonderful person.
I join you in celebrating who she was and, through you and your daughter, who she still is. It sounds like she had a marvelous life and a peaceful death, having accomplished what she set out to do on earth. Would that we all had her good fortune, and yours.
My best to you during this time.
jill, what a wonderful way for your mum to pass from one world to another; surrounded by your love, and memories. love is the only thing that can be taken from this existance to the next.
may her memory be eternal.
Jill, your tribute to your mom was very touching. If I wasn’t at work, I’d probably be bawling.
It sounds like you and your mom were both very lucky to have each other.
I never know what to say, but you have my condolences as well as my respect for not only dealing with this in this way, but also for sharing it with us.