I am very sorry to hear about your loss, and I will mention you and your sister in my prayers.
Tincture of time is all that works. But not very fast.
Omega Glory, you and your sister have my sincere condolences. My mother died earlier this year, my father 18 years ago. There is a lot of good advice already posted in this thread, including being gentle with yourself.
This is one of the hardest thing humans have to cope with. Give yourself time - a lot of time, I’m sorry to say - and grieve in the ways that are right for you. One day at a time.
I’m so terribly sorry for your loss.
{{OmegaGlory}}
However you feel is the right way to feel.
You won’t ever “get over it”. She’s your mum, and you love her a lot from the tone of your posting. But in time it will be something that you come to terms with.
Wrap your sister’s presents, give them to her on Christmas day and have a day to remember mum and the good things about her.
i’m sorry for your loss. 
My sympathies.
Don’t feel like there is any set schedule for grieving, or any prescribed way that you should be feeling. This sort of event affects everyone in different ways. You may find yourself crying unexpectedly, or you and your sister might suddenly crack up laughing together over some silly memory.
Take your time with everything; don’t rush into decisions.
Stay close to your sister, and try to talk openly to each other about your feelings.
Particularly if you are still fairly young, many of your friends may not have experienced the loss of a parent or close loved one, so you may find that your friends don’t necessarily know how to react. They may say or do awkward things, but cut them a little slack if you think their hearts are in the right place. Also, many of your friends will want to help, and people like to be able to do concrete things, so you’ll have lots of people asking, “is there anything I can do?” If there are some errands, or you’d like someone to pick up dinner, that’s great, but it’s also fine just to tell them, “Thanks, I’ve got a handle on what I need to do, but I might give you a call sometime just to talk.”
Check in with us here from time to time if it makes you feel better.
I’m verry sorry to hear that
I’m sorry to hear of your loss.
On the subject of the presents tell them they have presents, and they will get them for Christmas. This usually is something they are mostly happy to receive. Saving it for the meant occasion is better than passing them out now. Don’t be afraid to talk about her on the holidays. We all felt like maybe we shouldn’t talk about my dad on the holiday, so nobody got depressed. Wisely we threw that notion out the door, and talked about him. I was a happier holiday for talking about him as we did stuff.
Omega, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your sister are in my thoughts.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss…
Since you stated that this was the first close person to you who’s passed on, you probably have the added confusion/life-reevaluation that comes along with. Plus, it’s your Mom, and like the song says, “Nobody treats you like a Mother will…”.
This was the case in my family when my mother passed, too. She was the glue, and she and my sister, who was 22 at the time, still hadn’t gotten past the mother-daughter-conflict phase. 16 years later, it’s still a deep-seated issue.
So, aside from the great advice already given, Omega, if I may add…if your Mom and sister didn’t have closure, expect this to be harder on her than it is on you.
I don’t know how old you are, but I lost a childhood friend when I was 19 - the first close person for me. Against my instincts, I took some advice and sought professional help. After one visit, simply getting the reassurance that everything that I was going through was perfectly normal was a big help.
That pretty much says it all…
I am sorry for your loss. While I can not offer the advice you seek, I can say that there are good people here that can and do have great advice to offer.
I’m very sorry for your loss.
This year was the tenth year since my mom died. I didn’t really get over it. I just gradually had to get used to the fact that when the phone rang, it wouldn’t be her, or that I couldn’t just pick up the phone and know she’d be there to listen to whatever I wanted to talk about.
You don’t get over it so much as you get used to it.
I’m so sorry. Losing a parent is never easy. My dad died 11 years ago after a long illness, and even though it was in many ways a blessing, it was still so painful. And he and I had never even gotten along, but a parent is a parent.
Give yourself time a grieve, and know that a lot of folks you’ve never met are thinking and caring about you and your sister.
I just wanted to stop back by and say thanks. There is a lot of good advice that I’d like to respond to individually, but I’m not at that point, but I’m going to keep the thread and advice in mind. Someone asked my age, I think- I’m 26.
You are so young to lose your mother. I’m so sorry.
I can remember trying to find comfort when my father died anywhere I could – even looking through the sympathy cards in a store. And everywhere there seemed to be something that would remind me of him: the forget-me-nots on the back path, three lucky pennies, a tree that had been cut down that sent out new sprouts.
Someone told me that there would come a morning when Daddy’s death was not the first thing that I thought of when I woke up – and that that would be a sign that I had taken the first step toward healing. It was true.
May you find peace of mind soon.
Omega, I am sorry for your loss, peace and healing to you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss. 26 is so very young to be without your mother. I’m sad for you. Losing our parents is a natural part of growing up but it sure isn’t easy.
I lost my mom 9 years ago and as others have said, it’s not something that you ever get over, you just get through it one day at a time.
For me, the first year was rough…first Christmas, first birthday, etc., but surprisingly, the second year was even harder. I think I was still in shock the first year and by the time the sescond year rolled around, it was really real. I still miss her so very much.
Everyone grieves differently so just stay tuned to what you want and need.
Godspeed.
Ruby
I lost my mom February 19, 2007. Cancer. She was 65. Too soon.
But Omega? It is always too soon to lose our Moms.
We gotta go on.
So sorry for your loss.
I’m 34 and my mom’s still alive, but when she goes, I’ll be a total wreck for a long time.
(((Omega Glory)))
You’re right that you shouldn’t make any big decisions just now if you don’t have to. And do celerate Chrismas as you usually would - I’m sure that’s what she would want.
Omega Glory I’m so sorry for your loss. You, your sister and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
I lost my dad four years ago and a brother six years ago. It’s still hard sometimes but like others have said it does get easier with time. Just take all the time you need. As for the presents, give them to your sister at Christmas. It will probably be a little sad but I feel she’ll take great comfort in knowing they are from mom.
Your elderly relative gives good and wise advice AuntiePam. Those are wonderful words to remember.