What’s with the rolleyes? That was a compelling and relevant story.
There’s plenty of empathy in this thread you seem to be missing. Sounds like you’d be better off with a blog.
You’ve got a degree in baloney! [blasts him with a firehose]
-Bryan Ekers, Bachelor of Commerce 2001, Bacheolor of Engineering 2011 (pending)
I’m not sure that I understand the issue here. Your father pushed you work study program? You had a bad living arrangement in college with your brother? I’m not sure I get what the big deal is.
Hmmm, how should I put this . . .
Alice, you took the words out of my mouth.
I’m sure all the asshole critics here would have done much better in the same circumstances as the OP.
etv78, it’s time to move past it all. You can’t fix it and if you want to maintain a relationship with the rest of your family, you’ll have to get past the idea that people are going to see things from your perspective. Or cut the cord and move on. That baggage will just hold you back.
Say the nice things that will make them happy. They’re already fucked up more than they fucked you up. And we don’t even know what hands fate gave them to play. Maybe they did pretty good with the cards they were dealt
Congrats. Welcome to the Too-educated-now-it’s-time-to-go-out-and-have-a-career-or-at-the-least-some-sort-of-life- Club!
mnemosyne, Bachelor of Science (Honours) - Biochemsitry 2003, Bachelor of Engineering - Mechanical 2011 (also pending).
It’s okay to not forgive him.
But, you can also move on while not forgiving. Really. That’s what I’ve done with my selfish, abusive, superalcoholic mom. She’s a total bitch for doing what she did to us kids. She still tries with us as adults. The difference is that I don’t let it affect me the same way it did as a kid. I don’t believe her abusive lies. I don’t take the bait for the fights. I don’t cover for her. I don’t try to fix her crappy life. And now, I’m actually happy. She’s still a horrible human. Oh well.
Lionne, you doddering twit! The OP doesn’t want empathy, he just wants to vent.
You’re right of course! Just wish it were so easy!
I don’t really understand what your father did, but I get the impression it’s about money. Did he sabotage your future in order to get money or something? Or did he just make bad decisions and guide you the wrong direction, but not out of any greedy ulterior motive?
Another person who’s NAILED how I should handle this.
So all that self-pitying stuff in the OP… you were just testing us?
I like the part were you said that you had teenage issues and its all dad’s fault because he raised you.
I had issues too and I totally forgot to hate my dad over that. I just asked a bunch of my friends and apparently they too have this same situation.
And crap, I just realize that my son had some issues as a teenager.
Could be a lot worse – at least Curlcoat is not your mom. NO CRAYONS FOR YOU!
And all issues are equal!
Things are so much easier when they’re oversimplified. 
Life never works out as you planned it.
Deal and move on.
You’re eating a shit sandwich every time you let this get to you.
Astro Thanks for sharing your story. You’re Uncle sounds like a pretty cool guy to say something like that to you.
Could somebody summarise etv’s story in coherent English please?
“Still a man hears what he wants to hear, and disregards the rest.”
-Paul Simon
He found holding a part-time job precarious, then lived under non-ideal circumstances with his brother instead of moving to an accessible apartment. Consequently, he became unmotivated and did not graduate college.