That depends. I had a checkbook stolen once, but I reported it right away and put a stop payment on all of them. I did not have to pay for the fraudulent checks, but I had to have a police statement and a notarized document showing it was not me who wrote the checks or signed them. I am not sure if this is something that is the law, or just something my bank did for me. I also don’t know if there is a time limit on how long you have to report a check stolen - once the checks are cashed it might be too late.
This did not get me off several stores’ bad checks list, however, as the stores where the bad checks were passed ate the cost, they were not reimbursed by the bank. Even after I was cleared I could not write checks at those stores.
Yup. The little fucking piece of shit who stuck a gun in my side and robbed me (and tried to do worse) got 27 years, and only served 13 months (plus 5 for time served whilst waiting for trial).
You’re correct. Been there, helped with that, and it always seems to work.
For everybody that said, “Holy crap! How could you not notice $6000!?” Please ease up on the guy. It started out small and took place over a ten month period. The OP kept track of his balance and didn’t bounce checks - he just didn’t balance his checkbook diligently. I’m the same way. It doesn’t give anyone the right to steal from me.
And phooey on those who say he was exploiting a woman for free sex. She got free sex too.
Bruce_Daddy, you did the right thing by going to the Sheriff. It’s obvious she can’t be trusted to pay you back without a court order hanging over her head.
I can empathise. I have a similarly casual attitude towards my finances. It just doesn’t occur to me not to trust people. Luckily, no one has taken advantage of that, but I guess your story will serve as a cautionary tale.
I can also understand how you didn’t notice $6,000 missing over 10 months. I never bother to read my bank statements; I only occasionally glance at my ATM receipts. It’s not that I’m wealthy – heck, I was a starving student for five years – more the fact that I don’t like to dwell on money.
A few weeks ago I absently noticed my bank balance was $2,000 or so less than I thought it would be. I didn’t bother to check out the discrepancy. For a week or so I ignored it, until I suddenly remembered I had arranged to transfer the “missing” money to another bank.
Thanks for the support, everybody. The cops say that they are going to pick her up sometime this week. I popped in on them unexpectedly yesterday and my file was on top of his desk, so I think they’re on it.
And to the bitch who did this, thanks for sending me a check with your address on it so the cops know where you live.
They’re also having a good laugh that I was fucking the maid. (Insert crude cop joke here) :rolleyes:
Wow, I wish I had the luxury of being able to ignore a missing $2,000 Narrad. I can’t remember the last time I actually had 2,000 in my banking account.
Lucky bastard
Now Bruce_Daddy, please please please tell me you’re going to be more careful with your finances. It drives me up the friggin’ wall when people are so dismissive with their money. That’s just inviting something bad to happen. My X was like that, he never wrote anything down, never balanced his books or anything, then would wonder why he was a couple hundred dollars short or was bounceing checks or whatever. I would just look at him, roll my eyes and walk away.
If you treat money like it doesn’t matter, people are going to assume that it doesn’t and feel free to take it from you, cheat you, ect. Assuming of course, that you’re not surrounded by 100% honest, trustworthy people, which most of us aren’t.
Here in Massachusetts there is legally no such thing as a postdated check. A check is good from the date it’s written - doesn’t matter if you date it for Christmas five years from now. As I found out when I once wrote a check for the day after I would get my direct deposit, not expecting the friggin’ thing to get through the mail before then anyway. I have since switched to online payment for most of my bills.
If this happened to me, you’d better believe I’d use that knowledge to go cash the check right away, put her in a bind like she’d done to me, and still press charges. Kid or no kid. If that helped lead to the kid being taken away and placed with another relative, so much the better for him.
Now I’m wondering if I should have cashed it. I thought that somehow it would have screwed up my case so I just gave it to the cops as evidence. I know the police aren’t super interested in my finacial situation but when I gave it to him and it didn’t matter if I cashed it or not would he not have said “Um, aren’t you going to cash that?”?
I (obviously) can’t afford a lawyer, so I don’t know what in the hell I’m supposed to do.
Myabe I watch too many court shows on TV, but it wouldn’t surprise me if she decides to sue you for back wages. I believe you, but I wonder if a judge would believe that she was just cleaning your house from the goodness of her heart.
Well, as I said that’s in Massachusetts law. No idea if that would apply to where you are. The law had only just been changed a couple of months before I got screwed by it, which was 3-4 years ago. Luckily I was friends with the bank’s manager at the time so she got it taken off my record and refunded me the bounced check fee. (She has since left the bank and become a stuck-up twat.)
You bring up an excellent point Kalhoun. How exactly is her kid being “taken away”.
Is Social Services currently knocking on her door … ummm no.
Is the Sheriff coming to remove her children … ummm no.
Is the criminal justice system preparing to prosecute her and potentially put her in jail because she decided that it would be an acceptable risk to commit theft, forgery and steal $ 6,000. from someone. Ummmm… yes.
She will potentially “lose” her child by being sent to jail. Do you think convicted felon moms should be able to stay out of jail so long as they have kids Kalhoun? How is the system overreacting?
Astro, I was referring to some of the posters who feel she should lose her kids, wolffgrl, for one: “If that helped lead to the kid being taken away and placed with another relative, so much the better for him.”
I personally don’t think she’ll go to jail or lose her kids. My comment was to posters who think this is appropriate punishment. Yes, what she did was bad. But I personally don’t think it’s bad enough to lose custody of the kid.
My point was exactly what astro said - should she stay out of jail just because she has a kid? Is that a reason to feel sorry for her and let her get away with it? No. If she goes to jail as punishment for her crime, maybe the kid will be placed with another relative who’ll be a better role model. I never suggested that she should have the kid taken away as punishment. Just that maybe if her punishment (i.e., jail time) causes her to lose custody of the kid, the kid will have a chance to grow up learning something other than how to take advantage of people for a living.
So based on your conjugal relationship and your sharing of your bank account via the cheques, has she made a claim against you for spousal and child support?
Um, I am suspicious of this thread. It just doesn’t smell right.
We’re only getting one side of the story here, remember.
ON the one hand, we have a woman who allegedly wrote 6,000 in checks that she had absolutely no right to write.
ON the other hand, we ahve the fact that a guy who’s supposedly been unemployed and going through all sorts of financial straits as a result, not being aware over the loss of $6000 from his account. Strange.
Furthermore, he’s having sex with this woman whom he never really cared for
Furthermore, she once cleaned his house for money, and he claims she’s now cleaining it for free. Strange behavior, to say the least.
I’m not sure exactly what’s going on, but I have the feeling that if I could see things with an omniscient eye, I might see a lot more balance in the situation than has been presented to us.
If I had not noticed the money missing, we wouldn’t even be talking about this.
Since when is caring for someone a prerequisite for making sweet sweet love?
Technically, she’s not cleaning it at all now. But I didn’t find it incomprehensible that a “friend” would take 30 minutes to take a sweep of the bathrooms and kitchens and straighten the clutter.
