This looks pretty good to me.
BTW, if you make 40K a year, are you paying rent? If not, you should be a zillionaire by now. Where’s the money go???
WTF.
One more time: WTF.
You are an adult with a job. MOVE OUT. Do this, and the drama ends. You will then be in control of your home life.
Move into a shitty apartment. $40K is more than enough to live on your own in a low end apartment.
If you are unhappy with your world, change it. You have the paycheck that will enable this, unlike many people today.
Lastly, WTF.
Might I ask which country you’re from, sahirrnee?
I’m surprised the mother isn’t the one doing all the biting and spitting. I’m betting her and the dog are in cahoots.
I’ll second this, from recent experience.
You may think it’s impossible to live on your own, but trust me, it’s possible. Moving to another place will be expensive and annoying, but the sudden peace and quiet will make it all worth it.
Thank you all.
I’m trying to talk about anything but this right now
my BP went up to 206/118.
It’s very ugly here.
I’ve spent the last few days looking and am waiting for some info on one place.
My friend in Roanoke is looking for a place for me, the homeless one that I helped get to his parent’s house. Of course he’d love for me to be there so he can move out of their house and into mine.
My mother is having a fit and I said too bad.
She wants me to wait until my son graduates, I’d like to wait until he graduates.
So now she and I are arguing.
She wants me to give her custody (he will be 18 in May), she tells me I can’t take him with me (WTF???), she thinks it’s not fair to move him in his senior year, well DUH! No it’s not but I didn’t create the situation and when I go he is going with me.
Whether I am being selfish, stubborn or whatever, my son is not staying there without me and I doubt if he wants to.
So I have things to do, and more decisions to make. Clients are wanting to book me and I don’t even know what to tell them. I may not be here.
Calling the POLICE in your domestic spat because your sibling spit and cursed at you is being a world class, drama queen jackass. You are as responsible for dialing this thing to 11 as your sister, possibly more so. Your reaction to your idiot sister is absurdly out of proportion, yet you seem to feel supremely entitled and justified to do this kind of shit.
Most of your problems in this scenario are staring you in the face when you look in the mirror. God I pity your poor mother.
How do you know your BP? Do you take medication for hypertension? Have you seen a Dr since this happened? If it’s accurate, you should be in a hospital before you have a stroke. If a Dr or nurse took it, how are you not in a hospital? How is stroking out, or having an aneurism, going to help your situation? You’re worried about your kid moving in his senior year, but don’t mind leaving him parentless when you have a stroke, that leaves you seriously impaired or dead?
What elbows said. A BP that high usually calls for an immediate ER visit, to the best of my understanding.
This advice can be given without the insults and vitriol. Please dial it back, people.
I’m with everyone else here. Start looking for a place of your own, get out. Pick up a paper, or look online, but find a place to move and get out.
Take care of your son in a safer and saner place.
Good Luck.
And I sincerely hope BubbaDog isn’t right…
The OP doesn’t really want to move out of the house.
I have a friend like this. She’s in a dysfunctional love/hate relationship with her mother. It’s pretty obvious she thrives on the drama.
Yeah, I think you’re right. People in codependent relationships just can’t recognize that they are an equal and willing partner, in the dysfunction dance, and the blame. And I understand that people so trapped are wearing blinders so they just can’t see it. But once someone points it out, how do you not see it then? It’s a special kind of delusion unto itself it seems.
She also mentioned something about a husband in this thread. Where is he in all of this? Is he not working that he can’t contribute to an alternate place to live?
It’s not her dog, it’s the sister’s.
The OP has a dog as well.
Oh yeah, that’s right, now I remember her mentioning it in one of the other threads.
Thanks!!
(Still would like to know about the husband though.)
Boy I really messed that up. It’s the sister’s husband. I’ll leave now so I don’t get anything more wrong.
You’re going to take your son out of school for the last 5 months of his senior year? How long has he been in this school?
Insults and vitriol?
What I posted was as tame as could be mustered under the MPSIMS rules. Had I posted what I actually wanted to say…well, it seems that others have done my job for me!
If your bp is that high you should be in a hospital instead of posting to a message board. Seriously. I was hospitalized two years ago with a bp of 191/120 (due to severe postpartum preeclampsia). Those numbers indicate a hypertensive crisis.
Regardless of what your mother says or wants if the stress of living with her is causing you severe health problems you need to move out NOW. It’s not worth having a stroke or dying over.
If you’re making 40k a year I don’t see how you couldn’t afford a one bedroom or studio apartment. Sure, you’d rather have more cash in your pocket but if your living situation is really affecting your health I’d like to think that you’d choose quality of mental/physical health over money. Obviously, there’s more to your story than not being able to afford your own place (codependancy issues?), and a message board isn’t going to help you when you don’t seem to be able to help yourself by doing the obvious thing, which is to MOVE OUT.