I’m so very sorry, DooWahDiddy. My younger brother died suddenly at age 27- I was 28 at the time-- and that was the most horrible loss I’ve ever experienced.
It’s downright obscene to lose someone so young, and to lose someone you’ve known since birth. It doesn’t make sense, it doesn’t ever for a long time, and then you start to remember all the good things about your shared experience, the special unique person who was your sibling.
One doesn’t ever replace that loved one, one learns to live with the missing part. In time.
My condolences to you and your family, and your sister’s friends. If I lived nearby, I’d bake you a pie, or sumpin. <hugs>
I’m so sorry for your loss. A good friend of mine lost her just-turned-21 brother in a similar way three years ago, and after watching her cope, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. I know from her experience that you will get through it, though I wouldn’t blame you for doubting that right now. If you need to talk about it, we’re here.
My heart breaks for your terrible loss. I hope the coming days find your pain getting a little less each day and your ability to feel joy gaining footing again.
I still wonder about a similar accident that happened in my area. The resulting crash melted the road and created a “sound strip”. Every day going to work I would hit it with my tires and wonder about all the people who were affected by it.
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s not a huge consolation to know it could have been so much worse.
You have my sympathy. I only wish to say that IMO, it does not matter if your sister was an alcoholic or in AA. I think that the important thing is that she is gone and that you and so many others are feeling so much pain because of that. It is, I believe, that loss that is the most important thing right now. It must be quite hard to deal with that, and you have my heartfelt sympathy. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Thanks again to everyone for the kind words, we appreciate it.
As an update, we’re still waiting for the toxicology report to see if alcohol and/or drugs played any part in this, but in the meantime, as I mentioned before, we have pulled up her phone records (which are available to us because she was on my parents’ phone plan) and it appears she was having a 3-hour texting conversation with someone right up until the accident.
We have tried contacting the person she was texting but he is not returning our calls, which of course raises suspicion. But we don’t want to weaken our case by getting a harassment suit thrown at us either. The phone records show us the phone number, date, and time of the texts but of course not the actual content of the messages.
We contacted AT&T, who told us we need a warrant to get this information. Then we called the court office and they told us we need to go through the police department. I left a message there because no one was picking up. So my question is: Are there any lawyers here who might know the correct way to go about this? Are we doing everything correctly or is there a quicker way to get this information? The state is Oklahoma.
Thanks again for the condolences, and thanks for any help you can provide.
