So I guess this means any observations that your issues are much deeper than friendships and Superbowl parties, and that you should seriously seek out a school counselor will be ignored.
That said, my extended hand to you …
You should know by now that circle arguments don’t work well around here. You sought out the collective wisdoms of the Doper community, yet you choose not to to even address their views of the personal concerns you raise to all of us. Sure, snarkiness is a predominant feature in this place and often times a thick skin is a requirement. However, as just an ordinary Doper who has been here a bit longer than you it’s my view the Doper community as a whole, as well as the Doper individuals, are a caring and concerned, helpful bunch.
Biting the helpful hands that have been extended to you – when you asked for our help – is never a good thing, be it in your daily life or virtually here. Those Doper hands will never be withdrawn because you’ve bitten a few already, because that’s who we are. But we are also individuals with our own feelings, our own issues (bright and sunny as well as those other places). As I said, those hands will never be withdrawn, but next time, not so many may be extended.
You are at a difficult age. Lots of us here; been there, did live through that. The advice being offered is genuine, sincere and sound. We’ve built the path for you and covered it with wood chips to make it a bit easier for you, as you asked. No charge. No strings. Every journey you take, be it a walk to the store, a thousand mile walk, or life itself, all begin with a single step. Only you can do that. Only you can decide that.
A cliche perhaps, but very sound advice: Get busy living, or get busy dying.
True, but it will likely result in you never being invited over again. If you don’t go and were invited, they’ll apologize and try to make sure they don’t overlook you again.
I think you’re okay with your party and won’t hurt anyone’s feelings. I’m 26 and have been using facebook as long as it has been around, and the same goes with most of my friends. We all do casual party invitations the same way you did- the host will invite people, make the party public, and post something like “everyone welcome, bring your friends” or whatever. That way people can invite other friends through facebook, or just tell them about it in person, or other people can see the party and just RSVP that they are coming. In the vast majority of cases, it’s no big deal.
Come on, guys. Surely this must make it very clear that the OP is yanking your chains here. I admire his his deft touch on the fishing line, but why the hell is everyone still rising to the bait after an admission like this? And a moderator, no less. Right now, you should be issuing a warning, not continuing to play along with his game.
Perhaps he is the social gamer extraordinaire, he has us all played for the collective fool.
If so, then I will be happy to have learned a little something from the encounter.
Unfortunately, as I read the words, I hear a real voice in my head, one I’ve heard before. It is not a surprising voice today.
When I was young I thought older people were granted the wisdom that comes from experience, the years added to their knowledge and their counsel was worthy of my attention.
Now I am aware that is not the case, that many of the older folk are just worn out jaded young folks that made mistakes and didn’t learn. I’ve found a lot of people with power and wealth are not particularly better than anyone else, indeed they often have amazing character flaws that would spin your head right around when you recognize them.
In short, if PSXer starts a thread that asks for advice, then decides to say he will only accept the advice he wants to hear, than my observations of the normality of humanity are confirmed and I will observe with moderate interest the failures that are bound to happen to someone who has been offered good advice and has chosen the comfort of ignorance.
Here’s another answer you don’t want to hear. You can go to this party uninvited and maybe, possibly, no one says anything to you there. So enjoy that party and I hope it’s the hill you wish to die on because it’s the one you will.
You won’t get invited to another party and if you end up crashing a second one they WILL make a scene in removing you and embarrassing you in the process. Oh and in the meantime, all 40 of those people will hear about the loser who crashed the party
“oh dude? Was it that same kid who posted on facebook begging for an invite?”
Enjoy your party. Bring a bag to take extra snacks home.
yeah a lot of stuff I post on this board is a joke/trolling but this topic is sincere. This is another problem i have: that a lot of the stuff I say even irl is just a joke so I don’t have to have serious conversations.
I don’t want to fix my problems I enjoy getting attention for it on the internet
I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt this time, PSXer, assume that the OP is legit, and let you off without a warning.
This is mostly because I’m taking Monday off, so I’m looking at a three-day weekend and I’m in a really good mood.
We do take trolling seriously around here, and now that you’ve admitted you do it, you have been given the last doubt you’re going to benefit from. From here on out, any time *any *mod even thinks you might be trolling, you’re going to get a warning.
I recommend that you take that possibility very seriously.
