Yep. That biological clock is a-tickin’… Three months of condoms and then the practice-sessions end, and the real thing begins. By this time next year I could very well be a dad.
My wife has it all planned out: A few months of condoms to let her body adjust, then in September we are going to a little island in the Aegean (Folegandros) for 10 days of baby-making. Baby-making and Ouzo drinking for me, but hey, I figure I can multi-task.
Hey, congrats, Tom! I’m glad you haven’t forgotten the receipe
Oh, my parents had everything planned when it came to my creation…
This being said, they did not have any way to plan ahead for what I’d turn out to be like… Showed them that though good planning may produce a child, you just never know what kind of child it’ll produce…
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Funny, they had me, and a few years later decided that one was enough.
Yeah, we did try to plan things out. Sorta worked too.
(Potential TMI ahead…)
My sweet baboo is a teacher and we wanted to have the baby near the end of the school year so that she could take maternity leave and then have the summer with the baby. Knowing it probably wouldn’t take the 1st time, she went off the pill in early April. May and some of June were brought to you by our friends at Trojan, and then we went live. No foreign islands were involved, although I believe there was some alcohol.
Had it taken the first time, I think we would’ve been looking at an April baby which was the early end of our desired window. Didn’t take the first couple of times though. Still wanting the above scenario, we used an ovulation predictor and found out that we were a couple of days off in our calculations. My personal feeling was that we should just boink like bunnies and we were bound to hit the target (typical guy response I know, but it’s built-in). She felt that quality was more important that quantity (long story, she wanted a girl, “research” suggested girls more likely if guy “saves it up”).
Anyhow, end of August, her “friend” visits for the last time, and in mid-September we finally get it right. Baby was due June 9th, but ended up on the 14th. My wife got her wishes though, we had a girl (luck I’m sure, I still favor the bunny approach), and due to back problems, she got to have about six weeks off from school prior to birth.
Sooo, it can work, just don’t get disappointed if it takes several months of dedicated effort :).
Good Luck! I know exactly when both my kids were conceived- I have very good swimmers
It only took one try for each one, bummer eh?
::wishing that the saturation method could have been implemented::
We sorta timed ours to fall sometime in the 18 months my husband had off, so he could spend maximum time with the offspring. But we were kinda casual about it (no ovulation predictor, no temperature-taking, etc.). I just started to take prenatal vitamins and we started boffing without protection.
This meant that I was taken somewhat by surprise when I was pregnant (meaning I wasn’t sure that I “was late” and was curious why I was tired all the time…) but it all worked out perfectly.
I believe a matching bra-and-panty set led to the particular seducation that brought on Cranky Jr.
You wife should start taking pre-nates now, by the way. Folate at the very least, but pre-natal vitamons are dirt cheap over the counter so why not just go with those?
I’ll second that. And if you’ve got decent health care coverage, the prescription pre-natals can be cheaper. I think the only difference is that the Rx version kicks the folic acid up a notch.
BTW, I’ve been having mixed feelings about the new search rules, but in this case it may be a good thing. I don’t think kids neccessarily benefit from knowing the logistics of their conception. No good can come of hearing the “back seat of the Camaro” story, or the “I was sooo drunk that night” trilogy. I’m trying to imagine Cranky Jr. searching on mom’s posts years from now and discovering that their existence is a result of a matching bra-and-panty set. (Ahhh! Mental picture forming of my mom in matching bra-and-panty set! Brain melting, denial kicking in. “My parents never had sex. It was the stork or one of those immaculate conception things. If it was good enough for Jesus, it’s good enough for me.” There, much better now).
Let me also give a shout out for the pre-natal vitamins. It doesn’t hurt to take them now and they can only benefit later.
Mrs Chance and I had been going at it unprotected for about 2 years when she caught. We’d pretty much given up hope and then we spent that week in the French quarter. Oh my head, and WOW!
So it can happen. Sometimes right away…sometimes not. But it is fun practicing.
Mrs. Blue and I have been out of the baby making business for awhile now; we’ll be ‘empty-nesters’ in about 4 years.
We never had to try that hard (Potent Pete and Myrtle, the Fertile Turtle) in fact, we decided to bring number two along on a certain weekend in April 1986, and used the Bunny Method both days. Yup. Twins. Conceived separately days apart according to our doc.
So there you have it. And just to make you moms jealous, Mrs. Blue had no labour to speak of; water-break to baby, 18 minutes. On the other hand she suffered violent morning sickness 24/7 for the entire pregnancy, both times. I didn’t even need an alarm clock; I got the elbow signal promptly at 5 each morning to go get the washcloth and bowl.
Yep, she’s starting on the vitamins now, just in case our timing is off (or I get really impatient trying to put on a condom and chuck it across the room- I haven’t worn one in years!).
I think my wife can be convinced about the efficacy of saturation.
you might wanna try the ovulation indicators. We hit the mark first time outta the chute, but I have friends that swear by the indicators. With that as the green light, I would then suggest the bunny method.
Good luck, Tomcat! My husband and I planned things out. I took my last pill almost exactly a year ago and here I am now, holding my 8 day old baby girl after a really easy pregnancy. I hope things work out for you guys!
Jeez! now you tell me. Well, I guess I’d better start wearing condoms…
[sub]Good luck, Tomcat, and you know I’m just kidding, right? I’m not really going to buy condoms.[/sub]
Tomcat, because nobody has mentioned this yet I will.
Stay away from the alcohol.
I care for persons who suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome and fetal alcohol effect. No-one knows how much alcohol can mess up a perfectly good baby, it might be just one drink.
This applies to men and women. The people I work with who specialize in treatment believe that the father’s consumption of alcohol may contribute to a completely preventable and lifelong disability.
This is a chance you don’t want to take, believe me.
I had the same thought you did, Feynn, but you beat me to mentioning it.
Tomcat, best of luck to you and Mrs. Tomcat. It’s an exciting time and great that you’re both so happy about the prospect of becoming parents.
But your wife isn’t the only one who needs to be concerned with her health and what she puts in her body before conception in order to help improve your chances of success.
