A couple of months ago, a co-worker with whom I got along well was fired. She had quite a large set of job responsibilities. Everything I needed from her was done quickly and well - I had no problems working with her.
However, she apparently did not perform satisfactorily in other areas. Although I am not a first-hand witness to her failures, I tend to think her shortcomings were real. Also, she had a subordinate who is quite incompetent; I think one reason she failed to meet expectations is because she could not rely on him to get things done in a timely fashion.
She asked me for a reference and I agreed, figuring I could give her an honest reference that was good without being misleading (“everything she did for me was excellent and her work for me involved these skills; I cannot comment on other areas as I didn’t work with her on those activities”).
That worked pretty well, especially as I was given a written form to complete and that gave me a chance to carefully consider my replies. Also, the company that asked me for a reference was completely unrelated to my firm, so I thought it would not come back to bite me in any way.
Unfortunately, she then asked for another reference, from an organization in the same community of organizations with which I work. I said yes, figuring I would do the same as before. However, they called me, and while I did follow the same path, it was much harder to be simultaneously positive yet neutral. As soon as I said “well, I would hire her for a job that involved skills x and y” the woman who called was ready to terminate the discussion - clearly, they wanted confirmation from me because they hoped to hire her.
They also asked why she left and I stated that I didn’t know for sure but that she had had health problems related to the stress of the job, it was too much for her. (This is true but incomplete - she DID get sick a number of times, probably due to job stress, but although I don’t know the precise details of what took place in the HR office, they asked her to leave.)
I also told the person calling for the reference - and this is true - that the job duties of her replacement had been reduced, suggesting that there may have been recognition that she had trouble getting the job done without stressing out because the workload was unreasonable. I added that I had NO inside information on this, but simply knew the job duties had been reduced after her departure. (No qualifications here - that is absolutely 100% correct and I have no buts or caveats to add.)
What worries me now is that she’ll get the job and not be great at it, and the people there will harrumph to themselves “huh, CairoCarol’s office gave her a good reference - what’s with THOSE jerks?”
I feel a little traitorous now. I like my boss, office, and co-workers. I don’t want my employer to look bad if the ex-employee doesn’t work out well at her new job. (Maybe she will, and then it won’t be a problem. But what if it turns out to be a bad fit?)
One last bit of possibly relevant info: I always stuck up for the person who was let go - not in a defensive way, but when her performance was being criticized I would say “look, I know all of you work with her in a different capacity than I do, but she always does her work very promptly and competently for me. Also, her subordinate is totally useless and there is no way she can get the job done while being forced to rely on him - HE’s the one I would target, not her.”
So I don’t think it would come as a huge surprise to anyone that I would give her a decent reference.
Am I under any obligation to tell my boss that I have just given the ex-employee a decent reference for an organization kind of related to ours?