The other day my SO, his mother and I went to see Harry Potter 3. SO decided it was his turn to shout me, so he went off down the escalator to get some cash from the ATM. I went with his mother, who was lining up to buy her ticket. We got to the counter, and his mother ordered 3 tickets. (I don’t know why she was going to pay for all of us…) The server asked if the card was EFTPOS, and it was, and the theatre doesn’t take EFTPOS. Well, SO’s Mum had given her credit card to SO’s brother. So, I asked her if she had any cash. She didn’t, so I handed over $10 and paid for her ticket.
I handed her the ticket and we walked to the top of the escalator.
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That’s it! No “Thank you for buying my ticket.” No “I’ll pay you back when I see you next.” Nothing. I got her out of a sticky situation, and she said nothing. I am entertaining the thought that she was embarrassed that I had to buy her ticket for her, but she (IMHO) is not the type to be embarrassed about something like that.
Anyway, afterwards when I was alone with my SO, I mentioned it to him that she hadn’t said thank you or anything. His response? He said that when people get familiar/close to people they don’t have to thank each other any more, because it’s just implied. :dubious:
For example (he said), if I take you out for dinner, I already know you appreciate it, so you don’t have to say thank you.
Well, I’ve always been taught to say please and thank you whenever someone does something for you. Just to be polite!
E.G. “Mum, can you please pass me the salt.” ::gets passed the salt:: “Thank you.”
I had a bit of trouble with my family thinking SO does not mind his P & Qs, and now I know why!
So, what is the consensus? Do you continue saying “thank you” when you are familiar with people? Or not? Was SO’s Mum’s (un)response impolite? Or not?
Whose family is the weird one?*
- Direct quote from SO “But, your family’s the weird one!” (In jest)