Need some help please, with job changing advice in later life

[DorkVader]

This feels a little weird to me, but alla yalls are a really good source of advice and support.

So here’s the situation; some of you(most?) saw my thread about the company I worked for being sold a number of months ago, got some advice then and quite a few empathy and sympathy posts then.

Well, things developed, I came to the conclusion that I didn’t like the new bosses and that things were going to come to a worse end, probably sooner.

Two weeks(ish) ago, I quit my job. I really liked my job, and the people I worked with, but the culture was already changing, going from merely cultish to having religious and political overtones.

Got a new job with better pay, worse hours, and more strain on my knees and legs. I don’t think I like it very much.

Can someone who’s done a later in life job change from something they liked and had done for 10 years to something else successfully tell me what they did? Did you vacillate between happy and unhappy everyday? Stress related insomnia and body pain?

I know booze blow and hookers are therapy options but not for me at this time, I’m really having an unexpected hard time with this and could use a little guidance.

[needscoffee]

You might see something useful in this thread:

I quit my progressively crappier job and got a dream job

TL;DR: My old job was going to shit, so I got a job as a carpenter. So my old job (gosh, I love typing that) was ok for a while. I worked for the state government, in a regulatory position for an industry. Investigating violations etc. It was getting progressively worse though; one thing I liked about it was being able to go out and see people, and obviously that’s not a thing anymore. And I was getting really tired of babysitting “customers” who were not cooperative. Used to be I could just sh…

[snowthx]

Are you still in the change phase? Meaning, any change we make has a transition period where we may wish for the old situation, warts and all, while adjusting to the new situation. Given time, the new situation may become the routine while the old disappears in the rear-view mirror. Do you think after giving it a chance for a few more weeks your feelings may change?

Also, it sounds like the environment you enjoyed previously no longer exists, so a change was inevitable (either getting accustomed to the new owners/culture, or changing to another company, which is what you did).

[DorkVader]

@snowthx

Meaning, any change we make has a transition period where we may wish for the old situation, warts and all, while adjusting to the new situation.

Yes, this is exactly where I am. 3rd day doing the work in fact and I am really struggling more than I expected. I mean, I didn’t expect it to be unicorn farts and rainbows but I didn’t expect to feel this down and for my body to go into ultra high stress mode. Hell, I can barely tolerate more than two cups of coffee a day now and…I rarely drank anything but until this last weekend.

[puzzlegal]

I gave this thread a more descriptive title. But if you think it’s not quite the right note, DM me with what you’d prefer.

[DorkVader]

Thank you, thats ok with me. I do tend to try to keep thread titles short, sometimes it’s a bad thing.

[not_what_you_d_expect]

Change can be very hard for some people and it takes time to adjust. You say it’s been two weeks and that’s not very long at all really. Especially if you’d been at the previous place for a long time.

But, sometimes a job is not a good fit. At one point in my life I started and quit about three jobs in a very short amount of time. My husband was very critical and worried I’d really make a mess of my resume, but I just left those places off. I’ve never had a problem getting a job and I would not stay at a place that made me need alcohol after work or made me cry myself to sleep.

So for me, sometimes it takes time to adjust, but sometimes I knew right away that it wasn’t going to work and I beat feet to get out.

Good Luck. The job market is hot right now, at least.