Last year, Mr. Rilch woke me up after the second plane had hit the towers, but before they had fallen. I had four cigarettes, and by the time the second tower had collapsed, I’d smoked all of them.
Reasoning that if LA was going to be hit next, it wouldn’t matter if I were at home or two miles away at the smoke shop, I hopped in my car and drove over there. Unfortunately, I had no cash. Told Mike, the owner, “You know I wouldn’t ask if it weren’t an emergency—” He just handed me a pack.
See, at that time, nobody really knew what the rest of the day held. Rumors were flying: truck bomb in front of the Capitol; Cheney stricken by a heart attack. LA might have been next, although we don’t have a big physical target. I’m fairly certain that Mike was reasoning that by nightfall, it might not matter if he got his three bucks or not.
And I wasn’t even able to pay him until Thursday, because my check was held up in the mail. I did pay, and it was never spoken of again.
Today I went in with a tiny stuffed St. Bernard.
“You remember last year, when I wanted a pack of cigarettes and had no cash, and you trusted me not to rip you off…well, I thought this little guy would be a good mascot. You know, brandy and cigars…”
He thanked me, but couldn’t accept it on account of he’s “superstitious about dogs”.
Sigh. Years ago, the owner of a totally different kind of business did a rush job for me on something, and did exemplary work on it, thereby saving my job. I wanted to thank him with candy. But he didn’t eat chocolate. Five years ago, Mr. Rilch was ill, and the nursing staff in the ER tended to him, long before the doctor got around to him. Without their efforts…well, let’s just say the MD would have been telling us something very different from what he did say. I wanted to thank the RNs with gourmet coffee. Can’t accept gifts, I was told.
So now I finally get the message. Don’t try to give a gift to someone you don’t know well. And I have the sneaking sense that it’s “tacky” to reward someone for what they feel is merely doing their job. In all these cases, I think these people went above and beyond, and deserved some appreciation, but I can’t force someone to accept something, especially if they genuinely don’t like it.
[sub]Just MHO, but I think there’s not enough money and time in the world to properly compensate RNs and EMTs. However, that is hardly up to me![/sub]