I’m not a new dad, but it hasn’t been too ago to have forgotten.
We were out today with some friends. One of the women is 4 1/2 months along and she and her husband were asking advice and what to expect, so I was thinking back about when Beta-chan was brand new.
I jumped right in and did my share – I was in charge of walking her around the block in the evening when that was the only thing that would keep her quiet at 2 months.
I’m really glad I did, though. The other family today have baby about the same age, and they said that when she really cries, that she needs to have her mommy. I would outlast Beta-chan’s crying spell and she got used to how her father would comfort her, so she didn’t ever develop a need to just have mommy.
We didn’t run into many issues, which could be surprising considering an Amercian and a Taiwanese are raising a 13-month-old girl in Tokyo.
Both my sister and I are less “protective” of our kids than the average. My wife and my BIL want to bundle everyone up in layers of clothes, for example, while my sister and I let the rug rats play with objects which our spouses wouldn’t, but it all works out.
One of my friends commented the other day on how well my wife and I pass Beta-chan back and forth at the restaurant to let each other eat, and I think that is just one of many ways that we cooperate really well with each other.
You do forget about the tough times and those little smiles make it all worth while.