Hello everyone I just signed up tonight, and I need to post a couple of questions about some Facebook issues. I’d like to not look like an idiot and post in the wrong place so if someone can point me in the right direction.
If this is the place to post, the first my questions are, how can someone (I know both of these people) add me as a friend if I just ignored their friend request. Their request has just been sitting there for about a year. I never accepted or clicked “not now”, but today I saw that they had added ME as their friends. What am I missing?
I guess this is the correct forum, given that it is a question with an objective answer, but you’re probably best to ask on FB itself how it happened.
You could always just de-friend them?? I’m not a big FB user (and from what I can gather, it’s not altogether popular amongst the members here either), but I’m curious as to why you would come here to join to post such a question.
Anyway, welcome to the Boards, maybe check out some other fora. Don’t make a dick of yourself and you’ll be good to go.
Welcome to the SDMB, Ajarian73!
I agree with kambuckta that you might get a faster and/or more accurate answer by searching on Facebook itself.
A good way to ‘not look like a dick’ here is (in case you haven’t already done so) read the ‘sticky’ concerning the rules and regulations on posting.
Also, each individual forum will have a sticky or two at the top of the thread list detailing the specific rules for that forum.
Welcome to the SDMB, Ajarian73. General Questions is for questions that have factual answers, so your post is fine here. If you haven’t already done so, it’s a good idea to read through the various FAQs stickied at the top of the About This Message Board (ATMB) forum. There are also individual forum stickies at the top of each forum page for specific rules.
We do ask that you use descriptive thread titles. I edited yours to make the actual subject of the post a bit more clear (it’s no biggie, and we do appreciate your efforts to try to post to the correct forum here).
If you have any questions about the board, feel free to PM one of the moderators (the list of moderators is at the bottom of the page for that forum) or ask in ATMB. Moderators are not on duty 24/7 (we have to sleep once in a while) but we will try to get back to you as soon as we can.
To address the actual question - to the best of my knowledge, they can’t. If you don’t accept them as a friend, they aren’t a friend. You might have clicked something accidentally. Or…do you have followers enabled? Maybe they are following you.
There is a feature in the privacy setting that let’s you view your page the way other people see it - either a generic person, or someone specific. It might be worth checking that out, to see what this person is seeing.
I’ve occasionally seen (I think on a mobile platform, rather than on a computer’s browser) Facebook tell me ‘so-and-so added you as a friend’ but what really happened when I looked more closely at the various notifications was that the person sent me a friend request. There wasn’t any actual friending going on. My guess is that the person just sent you another friend request and Facebook wasn’t too clear in describing the event.
First off, thanks for not throwing a boot at me…I hate being new to a forum for obvious reasons, I moderate a couple myself, and I will not act like an a** here…lol
I will read the FAQs now to be sure of all applicable rules and regulations.
I tried to understand the FB algorithm for if you will friend/not friend someone (FB help boards are garbage) but it changes often. I searched around but most answers I got weren’t helpful :dubious: so a friend recommended this site. I should have joined long ago. Hell I was born in 73. I only made a FB account because I want to stay in touch with my army Brothers.
I found the answer today finally, it seems that if you are in a group (aka, underwater basket weaving, etc etc) and someone joins that group, bang, they are now in your FB. Im retired Army, so that’s how they got in.
Solution? deactivate FB. Hated it anyway.
Thanks again for all the advice, and as far as the pie, all I have is fruit cake. Lots. Like enough for a 30 year stand off.
Here is part of Facebook’s help page on adding friends. It says that both people much take action - just joining another FB group shouldn’t do it. There seems to be a backdoor method of sending friend invitations through importing contact lists. I wonder if you import a contact for someone when you have a pending friend request from them, if it accepts. Have you done this recently?
[QUOTE=Facebook]
People are appearing on my friend list without me sending them a friend request.
Friend connections on Facebook must be confirmed by both people involved. This means that one person has to send a request or an invitation to join the site and the other person has to confirm this request in order for them to become friends.
A friend request can be sent manually or through features like the contact importer. If you use contact importer, please be aware that multiple friend requests and invitations can be sent at the same time. If someone signs up for Facebook through these invitations, they’ll automatically be added to your friend list.
If someone received an invitation from you that you didn’t mean to send, please let us know.
Um, not exactly. If we were not FB friends but were members of the same group, we could not post on each other’s status updates per se, BUT, if I made a post to the group or commented on a post to the group, it would show up on your status updates and vice versa as all posts to a group one is a member of will. You still won’t show up on each other’s “friends” list, except with the (pending) notation on whoever sent an unrequited friend request.
