What would cause a man’ testicles to shrink to less than the size of a pea?
Would alcoholism do this?
Does alcoholism really cause a man to be unable maintain an erection?
Does it prevent him from ejaculating for a long time?
Does it actually take roughness for him to feel anything (sexually)?
What else does alcoholism do that I should be aware of?
I am dating a self-proclaimed high functioning alcoholic and want to know these things before I actually sleep with him. I know it is probably a bad idea anyway, but he is such an awesome guy that I need more DIS-incentive to keep me away from him. Maybe I can help him see his true self (nicely) when I go my not so merry way.
As Shakespeare observed in Macbeth (paraphrasing), alcohol makes a man, and mars him–provoketh the desire, but taketh away the performance. That part is sometimes true for some men, though I’ve never been afflicted with that one. Being too drunk to get it up is fairly common from what I’ve heard, though IANA acoholic. It can definitely delay ejaculation–sometimes preventing it entirely until a later act. This I have experienced while snockered. I don’t know that alcoholics experience shrunken testes, though that does result from steroid abuse. As far as this champion’s bid to convince you he needs rough sex to feel anything, that sounds like a snowjob ahem.
Alcoholism does *lots * of other things that you should already be aware of, if you’ve been living in civilization for most of your life. A few that come to mind are bad breath, unreliability, stupidity, extremely risky sexual practices (hint hint), paralyzing or killing you while driving you in his car, unpredictable behavior, blind rage, insensitivity or outright abuse followed by tearful heart-rending apologies, bizarre mood swings, unemployment, sullen withdrawal, blaming you for anything and everything…sounds like a real winner, doesn’t he?
Just out of curiosity, what’s going on with YOU that you think a self-described alcoholic is such an “awesome guy” that you’re wanting to get intimately involved with him instead of running at top speed for the hills screaming? Why don’t you think you deserve better?
Better? He is a human being. I don’t consider one better than the other. If we click (which, for me, is rare) then I consider the way the person treats me, who he is, and how he treats others. He is a fairly intelligent and talented carpenter. He has a lot of friends who love him. He is extremely creative, pays his bills, and has physical characteristics that just turn me on and on. Besides being a great conversationalist, we talk for hours and hours and I am not a talkative person anymore. I miss that and I haven’t had that in more than seven years. It is hard to walk away from that small amount of pleasure. But I have already begun to and he knows it. I just need to know if these things are true, and if there is more. They will probably be a big part of my final goodbye. Hopefully they might have an affect on him. I know he will be as sad as I when I stop even talking to him. Which I think is best for both of us.
Don’t know the first, but it isn’t alchoholism. (Why, are his testicles really less than the size of a pea?)
Being drunk may adversly affect his ability to have an erection. Alchoholism per se shouldn’t.
Same answer. If he is experiencing sexual dysfunction, maybe it’s due to something that arose from his drinking. He should see a doctor about it.
Again this isn’t a necessary result of alchoholism per se.
I can’t advise you what will or won’t happen as the result of your man’s drinking problem. Have you talked it over with him? At any rate all of the negative consequences posted by hyj are possibilities, though none are certainties.
Note: I am not an MD. If your man has sexual dysfunction, he should see a doctor. If your man’s testicles are smaller than peas he should DEFINITELY see a doctor! :eek:
Some of the sickest people can seem to be the nicest! Though I wish to make no accusations I ask, if a man has a set the size of :eek:ouch too painful to say you know he’s got to have already seen a doctor. Or maybe a doctor has seen him? And maybe I’m wrong but isn’t chemical sterilization another cause of testicular atrophy? Which can also cause emotional instability…
Please someone tell me I’m wrong I’m feeling sick.
Yes they are (We came very close). I feel so sorry for him. This may be why he didn’t have children with his wife of five years. Possibly why they grew apart too. He is only 35, but he has been drinking since he was in high school.
Squink, Your medical links were very helpful and confirmed some of my questions. Thank you.
I would still like to know about the loss of sensation in his penis.
I wonder if it would do any good at all to tell him these things or would I only hurt him further?
Folks, there were six factual questions in the OP.
Please keep your responses to those questions (supplying facts, not speculation).
Any questions or comments regarding the personal life of Sensualips should be addressed in the MPSIMS or IMHO Fora (preferably in threads opened by Sensualips), not in this thread.
(Unless Sensualips chooses to ask us to move this thread to one of those Fora.)
Legitimate questions, however, that do not have factual answers.
I’m going to leave this here, for a bit, to pick up any answers on the physiology and medical questions, but I’m pretty sure that this thread is headed toward IMHO since you’ve opened the topics a bit wider.
If he is circumcised, he may have lost more than the average amount of sensation when he was cut - it does happen sometimes. Also, if he typically masturbates using a dry hand and very rapid hand-motions, then he may have build up calluses/keratinization on his glans. Also, I gather that some men become so accustomed to the sort of stimulation they give themselves, that they must be extremely rough to achieve the same level of stimulation using a partner’s body.
Now, I don’t know much about ‘high functioning alcoholics’, but I know that if I have alcohol in my system, I lose considerable sensation in my skin, including my erogenous tissues. Could this be a factor? Could he simply be chemically numbed?
It would seem to me that if these testicular and sexual issues are caused by alcoholism, they’d likely be the least of his alcohol-related health issues. My understanding is that it takes an incredible lot of booze to shrink one’s testicles, and by that point most people would have massive liver damage, nutritional deficiencies, pancreatitis, and the other health issues commonly associated with alcoholism.
It also occurs to me that if his pancreas is all mucked up from the booze, he could conceivably be having diabetic-type symptoms. Poor circulation and loss of sensation in the appendages are both pretty common in diabetics. Far as I know that wouldn’t explain the testicular shrinkage, but it would account for the erectile dysfunction and loss of sensation.
Thank you all…unfortunately, after doing some research on the net and all the extremely helpful advice you have offered I have decided to make it short and sweet. There is nothing I can do for him, even in parting. So I will not attempt to be his savior. He has to be aware of what is happening to his body and he must feel powerless to do anything about it. He has to make this decision himself and it is a long process to become “clean”. Even then, his medical problems will not heal. I consider myself fortunate that I did not become sexually involved.
About the emotional issues…so far, he has not shown any signs of the ability to be abusive, but his passions tell me he is capable of overly emotional behavior. Which, in the Yin/Yang of things also say to me he is capable of the opposite extreme as well. Since allowing his health issues and drinking to become so out of control, it also shows me he should care more for himself before he enters into a healthy relationship with someone else.
Moving on. Taking the lessons with me. I am taking much better care of my body after this. This week I am quitting smoking and going back to the gym.
Since the reasons for the factual questions and the eotional issues appear to have all been resolved, rather than moving this to another Forum, I’m going to close it. Further discussion may be opened in the appropriate Fora.
