In this thread about suicide, Ruby said:
Um, NO. Fuck NO.
There is almost nothing I hate more than when suicide “survivors” turn around the death and make themselves out to be the “real” victims. It is fucking self-centered and so obviously ignorant of the reality of mental illness. Boo fucking hoo, you have unanswered questions. Like that really compares to feeling your own mind imploding on you. Like that really compares to feeling like such a shitstain on the collective ass of society that you manage to override millions of years of evolution to “self-slaughter.” Do you have any idea of how strong the compulsion to self-destruction is once it surfaces, how fundamentally it warps and shifts your own version of reality, just how fucking out of your mind you have to be to consider it as an attractive option? No, of course not. Because it’s ALL ABOUT YOU. You’re the victim, you’re the one who suffers, they’re just a “self-murderer” who probably just committed suicide to wreck your life! How dare they make you feel pain! Why, if they weren’t dead you’d like to wring their neck yourself!
And for the record, yes, I have known people who have both attempted and committed suicide, and while I feel bad for the family’s loss in the cases where the person “succeeded” I never forgot that the true victim is the person whose mind was so compromised that they felt forced to take their own life. Would you say that the true victim of cancer is the cancer victim’s family? What about murder? Yeah, there are repercussions for survivors but there’s no greater “repercussion” than BEING DEAD.
Don’t fucking blame the victim. You’re just fucking lucky you didn’t have to live in their reality. Do any of you “survivors” honestly think it is harder to live as a relative or friend of a suicide victim than to live with a chronic and incurable mental illness?
You are not the victim. THEY ARE. Get it straight.