Non-homosexual People: A Poll

In My Humble Opinion
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Thanks to andygirl for an interesting thread and for getting me motivated to conduct my own poll. Everyone is welcome. I’ll go ahead and answer my own questions here:

1. What do you identify as? Heterosexual male…but please, don’t call me “straight.” I ranted about this in a recent thread, but I don’t know which one.
2. Age/location? 42/Nashville,TN
3. Current relationship status? single (divorced over 10 yrs ago)
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Brought up lukewarm Protestant Christian; atheist through high school; agnostic in college, studied various belief systems, attended various churches; was very briefly “born again;” settled on unaffiliated, sort of Zen-like spirituality that is personal and hard to define.
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? I now look at sexual orientation like right/left-handedness. Should be treated as such. Was always attracted to society’s underdogs, outcasts, rebels, nonconformists, etc…but in high school never said “gay is okay” out loud. In college(and thru my 20’s) I was militantly radical about everything(loudly “pro-gay”). Now I try to be quietly nonjudgemental.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not? Several. In my 20’s I believed in experimenting with anything and everything…especially if it was generally frowned upon(see above). After a while I figured out that I was not bisexual, but merely a rebel without a clue.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? I’m definitely not a sports fan and I hate so-called “action movies”…both are incredibly boring. Then again, I’m not a techie nor am I particularly artsy-fartsy. I love to cook. I dig nature. I am not neat and I hate shopping. I like kissing and cuddling as much as the hardcore stuff…which I also like a lot.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? Persistent prejudice, especially among men. It’s more subtle these days, but it’s there.
9. How good is your gaydar? Pretty good, but I’ve been fooled now & then (false negatives).
**10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc. ** Right now, two very close male friends. For several years(in Knoxville) I had 4 very close lesbian friends. Alas, we scattered across the country and lost touch with each other. I miss them a lot. One in particular…what’s funny about that is that when I first met her she pretty much hated me just because I was a guy. She was a Radical Feminist Dyke(her label, not mine). Got past that. We became roommates and damn good friends.
11. Any other comments? (I’m leaving this one blank, because I want to see what others say first.)

Peace&Love,
TN*hippie

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**1. What do you identify as?**Hetero Male
2. Age/location? 26 7/8, Abilene, TX
3. Current relationship status? Single/Never married
**4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs?**Raised Southern Baptist (hallelujah!) Dropped religion altogether at about 14, hardcore atheist since about 17
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? No real changes. I’ve always been a “live and let live” type. I don’t really understand homosexuality, but someone elses sexual preference is none of my business or concern.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not? Prepubescent experimentation only.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? I don’t think I’m really stereotypical. I don’t like watching sports, but I like playing them. I’m into computers, but not a hardcore techie. I like sci-fi, but I’m not fanatical about it. I like rock music and classical, but not rap or rap/metal or techno or really heavy metal. I read a lot, and watch TV a lot, but not sitcoms.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? I find bigotry and prejudice extremely annoying. Also the systematic emphasis on unrealistic standards of attractiveness in women. (i.e. fake boobs, bleached hair, anorexia)
9. How good is your gaydar? I can tell if they’re flamboyant (“flaming” for guys “butchy” for lesbians} or or “stereotypically” gay of either sex. Otherwise, I’m clueless.
**10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc. ** Not really, I’ve had a couple of gay coworkers and some of the people I’ve dealt with in business have been gay. I tried to get a girl to go out with me in college, and while friendly, she didn’t seem too interested. I later heard that she had come out as a lesbian. I don’t have 100% trust in the source I heard this from, though.
11. Any other comments? Not really, though I reserve the right to chime in if anything comes up.

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Well, here goes…

  1. Heterosexual male.

  2. 21/Kalamazoo, MI USA

  3. no comment (if you haven’t figured it out by now, you haven’t been in the Pit lately)

  4. I was raised Christian, but I don’t know what denomination, which goes to show you how devoted we were. I believe in a something, but I don’t consider myself a God-fearing Christian. I am a death-fearing human, I guess

  5. My attitude towards homosexuality has pretty much always been “live and let live.” Whatever makes you happy, as long as you’re not hurting innocent people, then who am I to stop you?

  6. OK … I kissed a guy once. On the mouth. But there was no tongue. It was weird. Not really uncomfortable, since it was a good friend of mine. The only awkward thing was that there were a whole bunch of people around at the time. But I’ve never been one for hetero PDA, either.

  7. I fall into certain stereotypes but not all. I like watching football on TV, but I also cry at the end of sad movies. I prefer cuddling over sex, but I can go for sex, too. Depends on my mood. I am very affectionate, so I guess that goes against the stereotype of the “not showing emotions” male thing.

  8. What annoys me about the heterosexual community? I’d say the community in general bothers me, heterosexual or not.

  9. My sister is a lesbian and I am close to her and her girlfriend. (I believe the term “lover,” when used in reference to a homosexual reference, is condascending) and I have a few friends who are bisexual. One of my good male friends (really more of a drinking buddy) is gay, and he’s a blast to hang out with.

  10. General Comments? People, sex is not about getting off. Sex is about love. Let’s stop worrying about who we are having sex with, and start worrying about who we LOVE. Gay marriages should be just as legal as heterosexual marriages, because the love in the relationships is just as real and just as strong. We should celebrate love, not condemn it.

Peace.

-Syko

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My gaydar is so-so, by the way. I knew I was going to do that …

-Syko

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Genseric…thanks for bringing that up in #8. I meant to say something about that. Really, it’s the unrealistic treatment of women in general by straight men in particular. The ridiculous standards of beauty (a lot of which is not so damn beautiful, IMHO), the objectification of women, of sex, and of women having sex with women. I understand that we are wired a little differently. I’m a hetero male; I know how we feel. But there’s just no excuse for so much of the immature garbage that men dismiss as “boys will be boys” mentality. What really gets me (note similarity to my grammar rant in another thread) is when seemingly intelligent guys participate in Cro-Magnon behavior.

Sometimes I am amazed that women are attracted to men at all.

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[QUOTE]
Originally posted by TNhippie *
**Thanks to andygirl for an interesting thread and for getting me motivated to conduct my own poll. Everyone is welcome. I’ll go ahead and answer my own questions here:

1. What do you identify as? Female, straight not bent
2. Age/location? 34 Near Houston Texas
3. Current relationship status? Divorced, celibate and stir crazy :eek:
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Brought up Christian, even stonger faith now
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? I was taught a person that was homosexual would be sent to hell. I was predjudice for years, I thought it was a choice. It sounds silly, but one day I was watching tv and it was an interview about to gay men who adopted 2 children with full blown aids I realized I was wrong to judge and what wonderful HUMANs they were and that God acceptes you as you are and meets you where you are in life.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not? When I was about 16 a girl said she was in love with me, she kissed me, but that was all. I think of women as attractive, but I am not attracet to them, also they are missing my fav. body part :wink:
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? No, I am a freak-- I have alot of quirks, some that are more than quirks, but actually a disabillity (Panic attacks) I have always followed the beat of my own heart (how corny huh)
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? Prejudices by anyone especially Christian community like how I was falsly taught.
9. How good is your gaydar? hmmm, I have very good instincts in all areas.
**10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc. ** No, but I have a small family and I am in a small enviornment
11. Any other comments? If you had to watch a couple, would you prefer 2 women or 2 men? Actually, I guess I would rather see to 2 women, I think I get hung up on the thought that guys together looks painful, yes such a LAME comment.

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  1. What do you identify as?

Heterosexual male

  1. Age/location?

29/Dallas, TX area

  1. Current relationship status?

Married

  1. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs?

Brought up non-religious, currently atheist

  1. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how?

Strangely enough, this is one of the few issues where my stance has never changed.

  1. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not?

No, because the idea of being physically intimate with another man feels totally unappealing and unnatural to me. I find a few men attractive (Owen Wilson being one of them) but I don’t desire physical intimacy with them, they are just appealing in a way I can’t quite put my finger on.

  1. How are you stereotypical? Or not?

About the only thing I can think of that’s stereotypically heterosexual is an intolerance for emotional weakness in other men. I don’t like it when men get emotional and/or whiney, though I tolerate it in women.

  1. What annoys you about the heterosexual community?

Nothing that I haven’t seen in the gay community as well. I hate closed-minded intolerant people, but I’ve known gays who fit that description too.

  1. How good is your gaydar?

Pretty good with gay men, it’s picked up many gay men that nobody else knew was gay, though a few slipped under the gaydar. I’ve never thought a guy was gay and found out I was wrong, though of course there are some I suspect are that I have no confirmation on. I’m not so good at picking out lesbians, probably about average when it comes to them.

  1. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc.

I have several gay acquaintances and coworkers, but none I would consider close friends, just people I am on friendly terms with. I have one male friend who is bisexual but I’m not supposed to know and as far as I know he hasn’t been with a man in years, and I’ve had a few close bisexual female friends, including my wife.

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  1. What do you identify as? Heterosexual male
  2. Age/location? 43/New Haven, CT, USA
  3. Current relationship status? single, never married
  4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Brought up generic Protestant. At one point I asked and was told we were Methodist – coulda fooled me. Been hardcore atheist since about 16.
  5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? Not really. Ever since I was old enough to understand it, I figured it was just a matter of different strokes. Now I think in terms of whatever gets you through the night.
  6. Ever had a homosexual experience? A little pre-pubescent fooling exploration, nothing since.
  7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? I pretty much loathe the whole concept of professional sports (don’t get me started!) I’m a non-drinker – beer, blagh!
  8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? 9. How good is your gaydar? Pathetic.
  9. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian? I have a step-brother who’s gay but we’re not close.
  10. Any other comments? I’ve never told anybody this but when I was a teenager, I had an aunt in her 60’s who was a lesbian. I remember hearing stories about some of the things she’d been through, like being committed to a mental hospital for a time in the 1930’s because of her orientation and then later getting married and having a child. I only knew her husband for a short while; he died when I was about 7 but their relationship struck me even then as pretty odd. Much later, I came to suspect that they both went into a marriage as a cover and were never happy with it.

Anyway, knowing a little of what she went through, and with some adult perspective, I’ve long carried some guilt over the way I thought of her then. By the time I was a teenager, I saw her as an elderly, very large, and extremely odd woman who was using personal ads looking for another woman to live with – a female companion as they called it in those more genteel times. At the time, I found the idea pretty appalling. Not just because of the sex aspect, which I really didn’t understand at the time, but like I said this was a pretty odd (tends of thousand of old newspapers and magazines stacked around the house – that kind of odd) woman in general, so the whole idea struck me as unpleasant and I avoided even thinking about the subject whenever possible. Later, after she’d died, I began to feel bad about my own reaction to her search for a little warmth after a pretty difficult life.

It’s too late to change that but my memory of it colors how I feel about others. To refer back to question 5, I figure anything that helps to keep you warm at night and avoid the demons of loneliness is not a bad thing.

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  1. What do you identify as?
    Heterosexual female

  2. Age/location?
    Old and tired/West Coast

  3. Current relationship status?
    Carnie and I have been living together for over a year.

  4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs?
    My father was a firm atheist and my mother was a militant agnostic. (“I don’t know and you don’t either!”) All of their children were encouraged to read mythologies and folk tales. We were neither encouraged nor discouraged from attending any sort of church. (Except when I was 14 and my mother found out that my summer job was with the Moonies. That was a bit of a problem.) My current beliefs are… nebulous. Mostly agnostic with occasional forays into atheism.

  5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how?
    Hasn’t changed a bit. Two consenting adults? No problem.

  6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not?
    Sure have. I wanted to know what the fuss was all about.

  7. How are you stereotypical? Or not?
    I don’t get PMS, I don’t much care for chocolate, I don’t like “chick flicks,” I don’t like sappy romance in my books or movies, I don’t hang out with women who can talk of nothing but men, clothes and babies; I also don’t hang out with men who expect me to be that kind of woman. I rarely wear make-up, I don’t wear short skirts or dresses, I tend to channel my biker chick persona when angry, I don’t like PDA, I love being a science major, and I don’t have cable.

  8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community?
    I’m gonna go with the “persistent prejudice” response. It irks me no end and I believe it to be seriously damaging for everyone involved. It’s not just the way heterosexual men treat women, it’s also the way women treat each other. (On the other hand, I’m not looking to do any bonding with someone just because we have two X chromosomes. Go paint ceramic unicorns or something but leave me alone.) The reverse applies as well; men treat each other as competition for something that doesn’t belong to any of them, women treat men as sex-crazed half-wits, to be used for money and shiny things. (Yes, I know I’m making gross generalizations. No, I don’t think all heterosexual men and women treat each other so poorly.)

  9. How good is your gaydar?
    Generally good but works best in person. I haven’t been wrong yet, although I have been confused.

  10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc.
    You bet, both men and women. Mostly friends and co-workers but I suspect my sister may be a closet lesbian. She’s a Fundie though, so I doubt we will ever know for certain.

  11. Any other comments?
    Why is boron’s detection limit for atomic absorption in a graphite furnace so darned high?

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1. What do you identify as?
Heterosexual.
2. Age/location? 18/female/The Netherlands.
3. Current relationship status? Single.
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Raised without any kind of religion whatsoever, and I’m still an atheist today.
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? Maybe a little. I’ve always been a “live and let live” type of person, but since I’ve started reading slash fiction, I’ve become more and more out-spoken for gay rights.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not?
Nope, but I wouldn’t rule out the possibility.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? I like watching sports (especially soccer) and action movies. I hate romantic comedies with a passion, and I don’t watch Buffy/Angel/Ally McBeal and soaps. I love reading and I rarely go out with my friends.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community?
Prejudice, hate, and general ignorance
9. How good is your gaydar? I don’t even I even have one.
10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?
I have a few friends who are gay, and one of my closest female friends is a lesbian.

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1. What do you identify as?
Heterosexual male, and a damn good one, too.
2. Age/location?
26/Lexington, KY
3. Current relationship status?
Engaged, although the wedding plans are in the fairly distant future
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Raised Southern Baptist; now recovering, one day at a time.
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how?
I can’t say that it has. Even though I was brought up in the sort of church that condemns homosexuals, with parents who are usually pretty open-minded but not in that regard, I never bought into it.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not?
Never. It never even occurred to me to do so. I guess I’m at whichever end of the Kinsey scale that is.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not?
As I mentioned in another thread, given my taste in music and my dressing habits, I would be very stereotypical, if I were a lesbian. I can’t say I fit neatly into my gender role. I do love to drink beer and watch basketball, but that makes me more of a Kentuckian than a guy.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community?
Their inability to pair off successfully. Most of my female friends have now given me veto power over their boyfriend selections, as I am apparently much more adept at spotting the losers and sociopaths than they are. I’m surprised our divorce rate is as low as it is, frankly.
9. How good is your gaydar?
Not that great. Lots of false positives.
10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?
Not really. Lots of acquaintences, but no one really “close”.
11. Any other comments? (I’m leaving this one blank, because I want to see what others say first.)
Nothing like a good sex-related poll when you’re really, really tired of studying. :slight_smile:

Dr. J

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1. What do you identify as? Heterosexual female.
2. Age/location? 28 (for at least another few days)Calgary, AB
3. Current relationship status? Single, single, oh so single.
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Brought up in an almost completely secular household, although mom dragged us to church once or twice. Now, I’m really not much of anything, but if I was going to go to a church service, it would be Unitarian.
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? Not at all. My parents were always very open and accepting of homosexual people. Mom and dad had many homosexual friends that both my brother and I spent time with growing up. As far as I’m concerned, it’s a trait, like eye color, or hair color or whatever.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not? Not really - I kissed a girl once, but there was no tongue, and we were just doing it to annoy our BF’s. I did have a girlfriend invite me to a 3-way with her and her boyfriend, but neither one of them particularly turned my crank, I turned her down. Apart from that, the opportunity has never presented itself.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? I’m really, really girly. I love to shop, makeup, clothes, hair, etc. I was in beauty pageants when I was a little girl. I like to talk about “feelings” (future Counseling Psychologist here). However, I love watching CFL football (The Stamps won, the Stamps won, hooray, hooray, the Stamps WON), I spar/box on a regular basis, and I really dig muscle cars.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? Persistent prejudice.
9. How good is your gaydar? Eh - not bad. In my younger days I dated 1 homosexual man, 1 bi-sexual man, and lived with one homosexual man. In my defense, with the exception of the bi fella, neither of the fellas knew either, or at least hadn’t accepted it yet.
**10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian? By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker, etc. ** I have a few good gay male friends. Less now that I know longer live with Gay Guy #2. I don’t have any lesbian friends, but that’s because I don’t know any lesbians.
11. Any other comments? Um… I like cheese?

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**11. Any other comments? **

Yeah, I came up with something. This also ties in with #8, although “annoys” is not strong enough of a word. The concept of “gay bashing” makes me sick to my stomach. I can’t believe people get off on this sort of thing. A background story. I was dating a woman who was going through a divorce. By coincidence, the new District Manager of the store I work in had the same name as my girlfriend’s husband (man, that sounds bad). It’s a pretty common name, so that’s not much of a surprise, let’s say it was Bill Jones(it wasn’t). He was supposedly prowling around the store, and no one really knew who he was. An aquaintance at work asked me “Who is Bill Jones?” and I said, “Well, I’ve had sex with his wife.”, and the guy said, “Oh man, I thought you were gonna say you had sex with him, I was about to deck you.” I couldn’t believe it. I asked him “You’d hit me just because I was gay?” He didn’t give me much of an answer. I’m not a big fan of physical violence of any kind, but that sort of thing is just asinine.

I’m not sure if I buy the “repressed homosexuality” theory of this sort of behavior, but I’m comfortable with my sexual orientation, and I don’t feel threatened at all by anyone elses.

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1. What do you identify as? A heterosexual male. (We say “normal” when not in mixed company but probably shouldn’t).
2. Age/location? 41 on Nov 29. Hong Kong.
3. Current relationship status? Single. Never married. Occasionally ravaged by early 40s Chinese divorcees.
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Catholic childhood, converted to Atheism after seeing other religions in other parts of the world and deciding they were incompatible, so either one was right - or none was.
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? Had gay friends at HS, Uni, and today. Don’t even think about it.
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? A few truck drivers in Greece and North Africa tried it on with me (unsuccessfully) while I was hitch-hiking in my teens.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? Totally ignore sport and most popular/consumerist culture. But very keen on politics, arts, history, stock market investment and food. Would kill a woman (reluctantly and painlessly) rather than go shopping for clothes with one.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? They sometimes think I’m not one of them because I’m not married. Otherwise, impossible to generalize. But you knew that.
9. How good is your gaydar? OK, but sometimes think a guy “is” when he “isn’t” (and have people think the same about me - I can’t help being this good looking)
10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc. Not especially - just a few regular male and female friends are gay - we don’t really talk about it.
11. Any other comments? Yes - this was fun!

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Sorry if my last post was too heavy for this thread. Carry on!

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1. What do you identify as?
Het female.

2. Age/location?
31, country Australia.

3. Current relationship status?
Single. Vaguely looking, but not stressed about it.

4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs?
Raised Catholic and stayed that way until my early 20s; I took it seriously, to the point of being a lay minister of communion (19 year old female l.m.o.c. caused a small stir in town). Now I’m an eclectic Wiccan.

5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how?
No. I’ve always been a live-and-let-live kind of person. There’s a lot of things I can worked up about, but that’s not one of them.

6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not?
Not yet, but I’m curious. Should the opportunity ever come up, I’d take it, like a shot.

7. How are you stereotypical? Or not?
Mostly not. I’m not typically feminine, and never have been. Even when I was a kid, I was far fonder of my Lego and Meccano than my Barbie doll.

8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community?
With regard to sexuality? Any comment starting with “I’ve got nothing against gays, but…” makes me want to throw something heavy at the speaker. Apart from that, I get irritated by all sorts of things, none of them exclusive to heterosexuals.

9. How good is your gaydar?
It’s pretty lousy when it comes to, say, casual or work acquaintances. It’s out of practice for one thing; the only time I give a damn about anyone’s sexuality is if I’m considering jumping ‘em. Close friends, it’s a little different but that’s not gaydar, it’s just knowing what’s going in your friends’ lives.

**10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?By “close” I mean parent/child/sibling/best friend/roommate/favorite coworker,etc. **
Not that I know of but, as noted above, I’m not the most reliable detector in the world.

Oh, hang on, I just remembered. A friend of mine from a local theatre group.

11. Any other comments?
Can’t think of anything just now.

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2. Age/location?
21/Virginia US.

3. Current relationship status?
Single, never married.

4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs?
Methodist, then crossed over to Babtist…Haven’t been to church in a while though.

5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how?
Whatever floats your boat. It is not for me though.

6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not?
No.

7. How are you stereotypical? Or not?
Well, I don’t think I am. I don’t really watch sports, but I like to play them. I like guns, but I don’t hunt.

8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community?
Well, it has treated me well so far :wink:

9. How good is your gaydar?
Decent.

10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian?
Worked with a guy who fit the “stereotypical” image. He was really cool, and we got along great. Worked with another guy who tried to hide it, and I didn’t like him at all. Not because he was gay, but because he was a f**king moron.

11. Any other comments?
Nah.

Plato? Aristotle? Socrates? Morons!
~She’s not crazy, just a little misunderstood… -Better Than Ezra

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  1. Hetero male
  2. 28 omaha,ne usa
  3. divorced and living with my preggers gf
  4. Went to church at least 3 times a week for the first 21 years of my life. Only go to church now when i visit home. I’m a non practicing christian.
  5. Yes. I grew up “hating the sin, not the sinner”. Now I “dislike the sin and your just another person”. I’m not anti-gay, whatever you do in the privacy of your own home is your own buisness. I dont like heavy PDA of ANY kind. But, call me a bigot, I cant stand to see 2 dudes kiss. Blech!
  6. No
  7. I dont consider myself stereotypical, but i bet most of my friends do. I know my girlfriend does. Yes I drink beer and watch sports(to include WRESTLIN of all things). I like to be on top. I like computers, cars, sports, tech stuff and drinking. But I’ve also never been in a fight. I cry at sad movies and books(every time I read “of mice and men” I cry). Other than that I am typical genX white midwestern male.
  8. There is a heterosexual community??? I thought that WAS the community.
  9. Non-existant unless you are a FLAMER or militant dyke.
  10. I have a lesbian cousin and some of my friends friends are gay. Aquantences if you will. I have no problem with any of them. But I refuse to go to the “gay” clubs in town (yes omaha has gay clubs, shocked me too) because I have heard horror stories from people.
  11. No, but I’m pretty sure I’m gonna get bashed here. Call me paranoid. Or call me…
    dead0man
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1. What do you identify as? Saucy!
2. Age/location? 37/Los Angeles
3. Current relationship status? single
4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Atheism
5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? Nope
6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not? Nope, never met a man I found personally attractive.
7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? Baseball fan. Into porn. Can’t dance. But I’m into ‘art’ films, and actually enjoy ‘Will and Grace’.
8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? There’s a community???
9. How good is your gaydar? Don’t have it. Maybe because I don’t care.
10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian? Several close friends. An uncle_____________

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  1. What do you identify as? Heterosexual sissy.
  2. Age/location? 42, New York NY
  3. Current relationship status? actively involved
  4. Religious/spiritual upbringing? Current beliefs? Family was Methodist, with emphasis on social responsibilities and ethics rather than theology. Currently I have my own religion, which has similatities to Wicca, pop Hinduism, pop Buddhism, and Gnosticism.
  5. Has your attitude about homosexuality changed? If so, how? Once I got past the shadow of “hey sissyboy, this is what happens to guys like you and what you like or want doesn’t count”, I started feeling a bit of kinship.
  6. Ever had a homosexual experience? Why or why not? I took it for a test drive when I was 19, and it was the discovery that this really wasn’t it for me that provoked me to get serious about figuring out my sexual identity.
  7. How are you stereotypical? Or not? Most stereotypical: I have the conventional male thing about appearance provoking immediate jolt of sexual appetite. Aside from that, not very, and the appearance ==> sexual appetite thing doesn’t have much carry-over into actual related sexual behavior.
  8. What annoys you about the heterosexual community? Rigid insistence on personality/behavior sex “roles”, condemnation of the “misfits”. Patriarchal attitudes towards male/female roles, what it means to be male /female.
  9. How good is your gaydar? Ultra-oblivious. I’m also ultra-oblivious to hetero vibes, so I advertise in personals, otherwise I’d scarcely know that there existed other people with sexual interests.
  10. Are you close to anyone who is gay/lesbian? Not so much right at the moment. As far as I know, I mean. See previous question.
  11. Any other comments? It would be fun if there were hangouts and social scenes frequented by people who did not conceptualize themselves as “men” versus “women”, let alone “gay” versus “straight”, and had no sexual behavior expectations of anyone else tied to their gender, and when you liked someone you’d hint a bit and see if they hint back.