:pAt my job, we have a ‘driver’s room’ where bus drivers congregate to get their schedules for the day, find out their assignments, sit point (being on-call) and generally socialize. Its like your typical office break room, except noisier and filled throughout the day.
Some days there is not much going on in the county when I’m on call, so I’m sitting around with a lot of downtime. I have a coworker buddy of mine who is the only one there that’s into this tabletop game I play (Warhammer 40k) so we frequently hang out together, putting together models and discussing the myriad of ambiguous rules of our hobby.
Lately I have been apalled at how nosy people are. They will lean over my shoulder to snatch one of the freshly painted models asking, “What’s this?” as they smudge paint all over the thing :mad:. Maybe it seems like I’m overreacting, but I find this incredibly rude. They have no sense of personal space. I have no problem with someone asking about it (since it does look a little out of place in a room where bus driver’s are playing cards/dominoes and these two guys are in the corner painting plastic tanks ) but I think its messed up to just grab something from someone out of the blue. You don’t see me going up to the pool table, grabbing the cue ball and saying “OH HAY WHY DOESNT THIS BALL HAVE A NUMBER ON IT?” as I’m walking away.
Its rather ironic because these are the same types of drivers who get all kinds of butthurt if a passenger invades their space, even if its just to be friendly- they are so antisocial as to pull up all the interior rear view mirrors so that people don’t even look at them. But they’ll riffle through another driver’s shit, steal their seat at a table even though there’s obviously the other person’s backpack, newspaper and coffee right there, and eat their food. :rolleyes:
I, too, hate people with no boundaries at work. Every now and then at my office, someone will come in to talk with me and, instead of taking a seat at the handy dandy chair in front of the desk, will actually come around behind my desk and talk to me there. (It’s an open office, and my desk is kind of angled, so I guess that makes it more likely?) It freaks me out to no end.
Not yet, but nobody knows for sure if/when it’ll happen or how many people are going to go- its driving me nuts because I thought I was going to get some straight answers this week.
In the meantime I guess I’ll have to take solace in the fact that being in the presence of seat stealing, book-flipping, cellphone picture-peeping coworkers means I still ahve a job
Yeah, that’s exactly what I was thinking. He starts a thread telling people he’s worried about possibly being laid off, people express concern and even bump the thread to ask for an update. Then, before he even lets us know, and within 24 hours of finding out he’s not yet been axed, he starts a thread COMPLAINING about work?
If you kill someone who does this, and I’m on your jury, I just want you to know that I’ll vote for “justifiable homicide”. Or “temporary but entirely justified insanity”. Something like that. I don’t play Warhammer, but I used to play a lot of tabletop D&D/AD&D, and I took great pains to paint my characters’ figurines properly. I used to paint SHIELD EMBLEMS properly. When you paint azure and erminois on the bend, a bend vair, an axe or hilted argent on a figurine half an inch tall (I played dwarves, mostly), then any disrespect to that paint job is likely to meet with an axe attack in real life. Or at least a wooden spoon attack.
I know there are some nosy people reading this thread who don’t know they’re nosy, so here’s some symptoms that might help ya’ll out:
Walking into someone’s office without knocking. And walking in while knocking kinda counts as well.
Asking three consecutive questions about something without good reason. Curiosity can be nosy if it’s too idle. As in:
Nosy:What did you do this weekend?
Normal: Nothing much. Just hung out with friends.
Nosy: Hung out? Like what, watching TV?
Normal: Yeah and we played some games.
Nosy: Games? Like video games or board games?
WTF? Why do you care?
Related to the above. Always asking what someone has planned for the weekend. I know this is just an innocent question and a person isn’t expected to give a dissertation response, but when the answer is generally the same (Nothing, just hanging out with friends), then you’re a butthead if you can’t come up with another conversational topic.
Studying someone’s computer screen and asking what they’re doing. Unless someone is doing something outrageous (like watching full-screen porn shots), it’s really none of your business.
Asking an aquaintance why they’re going to to the doctor or what they’ve got to pick something up at the pharmacy. Even asking someone “Are you really alright?” after they’ve indicated that they are fine is kind of pushing it, because when someone says they’re “fine” when they don’t look like it, it usually means they don’t want to talk about it.
Just generally soliciting and sharing personal informationas with a person who is private, and in doing so forcing them to be nosy. I have a coworker who recently told me she didn’t realize she made so much money compared to most of her peers, and she said it in such a way (pregnant pause and all) that led me to believe she expected me to either ask “How much do you make?” or tell her how much I make. I did neither and gently pushed her out of my office with the excuse of having too much work to do.
I cannot stand nosy people. They’re right up there with people who complain too much and arrogant people.
It probably wouldn’t do a lot of good. To a lot of people “WET PAINT” means “PLEASE TOUCH AND MESS ME UP”
I’m the baker in a cafe located in our public library. One Christmas I displayed and elaborate gingerbread creation, a large church. The art department lent me a display case with a top to keep off dust. Also they explained that even with “don’t touch” signs, when there’s no top people try to reach over it and into the case.
I used to have an ancient Toyota with power windows. The motors on the rear power windows had stopped working properly. The window would go down an inch or so, but to get it back up, you had to take apart the door. Naturally, I didn’t want anyone trying to put the windows down, so I put duct tape over the window buttons so nobody could access them.
One day, as I was driving along, I heard that telltale skreeeek. I turned around to see the window lowered an inch. My passenger had PEELED OFF THE DUCT TAPE to get to the window button!!! :smack: :smack: :smack:
I said “What did you do that for? It’s broken! It won’t go back up!”
She said “Sorry, I didn’t know.”
I said, “What did you think the duct tape was there for?”
She said…wait for it…“I dunno. You like duct tape?”
Incubus, I can sympathize, but only to a point. Yes, you may have personal space, but you are in a much larger. From your description, this sounds like a break room/dispatch room, where everybody is basically asses over elbows on top of each other.
That being said, if you are too concerned about delicate items or private, personal hobbies to be infringed upon (or even broken), why are you taking the chance? You’re essentially dangling that target out there to be shot at. Why take that risk? I mean, you are essentially trying to show off how “cool” you are, and when someone either wants to call you out on it, or is interested enough to examine it–violating your personal space–you get all upset about things.
Dude, you’re bringing it on yourself. There’s a reason I don’t clean my sidearm in the public library anymore.
Tripler
Yeah, people didn’t think that was “cool.” F*ckin’ squares.
Yeah, like I was gonna let someone that dumb get near anything of mine with a screwdriver? It was a friend of some random friend from my misbegotten youth.
) but I think its messed up to just grab something from someone out of the blue. You don’t see me going up to the pool table, grabbing the cue ball and saying “OH HAY WHY DOESNT THIS BALL HAVE A NUMBER ON IT?” as I’m walking away.