In all seriousness, I’d encourage her to discuss it with him privately. I realize he’s got the weight of the world on his shoulders and all that, but I also don’t think it’s her responsibility to try to be intimate and otherwise fake happiness at home if she really doesn’t want to.
If he at least knows where he and the relationship stand, he can contribute to the discussion about whether they split before or after his term is up. And who knows? Maybe the open discussion will allow a path to something that saves the marriage altogether.
Yeah I can’t imagine that two professional people with busy schedules and two addresses (still have a house in Chicago right?) and a palatial main residence can’t manage to avoid each other and simultaneously be civil together in public for a few years.
I guarantee that less classy, less powerful people do it all the time.
I voted for the top one and SpolierVirgin has crystalized my thoughts elegantly. Barrack hasn’t done anything wrong, per se, so no need to make this all noisy and messy. Keep it together for the next few years and then if it absolutely is irreconcilable differences, then move on with your lives after 2017.
Except in cases of abuse or similar, I would never council anyone to get a divorce. In my mind that is always the last, and most extreme option. If your spouse has done nothing wrong, you have to decide to love and be happy with them. So not only would I tell her not to divorce before 2017, I’d tell her to suck it up and try to love the perfectly good man she married.
Neither you nor WhyNot are on my list of terrible persons, I am afrad. If either of y’all wish to be added to the list, you will have to commit a felony from the approved list. Talk to Arrangements.