odd sex questions that starts with some sort of complaint about previous threads (edited title)

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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In most cases, there is a window of time during intercourse, just as the male is approaching climax, when it may be too late for him to get out of dodge before ejaculation happens. Ballparking it from personal experience, I’d say it’s about… a couple of seconds, tops.

If he is directed by the female partner to cease his activities and withdraw before ejaculation during that window, then he may be out of luck. But it’s a very small window, and in any case no longer than it takes for him to understand the instructions and evacuate his penis from the lady.

However (and this is important): This is the case for an adult with some sexual experience. For a teenage boy having his first go at it, ejaculation may occur very suddenly and with little to no warning, and sometimes very early indeed into the sexual act. This is usually accompanied by a great deal of embarrassment on part of the boy.

The usual caveats apply: This is from my experience. It may be different for others.

As a rule: Better safe than sorry. If you don’t want someone ejaculating in you, then agree on that before the sex starts, and either have the guy wear some protection. or don’t have vaginal intercourse at all. There are lots of other fun things couples can do.

If the male has agreed before intercourse commences not to ejaculate, and still purposefully (or, really, accidentally) allows himself to reach the point where ejaculation may not be avoided, that he is at best an idiot and at worst malicious. And everyone involved needs to take a good look at themselves and reconsider their birth control strategies.

Is it rape? Doesn’t seem like the right question to ask. That’s not what makes something rape. Someone having sex with you without your consent is rape. If you say stop and he keeps going, for longer than it takes him to comprehend the instructions and remove himself, it’s rape. If he starts having sex with you in the first place without you agreeing to it, it is possibly rape and at least attempted rape. Ejaculation isn’t the important factor.

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No, I do not find masturbation immoral. Actually, I think it can be used to express one’s sexuality safely.

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Certainly, but it is overkill for someone who just wants to make a pizza.

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One of the, I guess, not entirely PC opinions I have is that it may be impossible, or at least very difficult, for a woman to rape a man. I mean, go ahead, try it. Good luck. Either you won’t be able to, or more likely, the man will be completely OK with what you’re doing. And there are few, if any, women who are motivated to try it in the first place. In practice, rape is going to be male aggressor, female target in almost all cases, and the majority of the rest will be male on male. Sorry, but that’s how the world works.

For a female-on-male rape, you need a motivated female, who is stronger than the male, and an unwilling male. I guess it could happen. But do all three of those factors meet often in the real world? No way.

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Just add booze.

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Fair point, I suppose. Although, in almost all cases, all this will get you is a willing male.

BTW, I go both ways on that. The same thing goes for adding booze to a lady. If she ingests it on her own accord, and proceeds willingly to have consensual sex with someone that she might not have been too keen on while sober, that’s not rape. Stupid, but not rape.

I do think getting her blind drunk on purpose in order to take advantage is rape, though.

So, yeah, I suppose a lady could get an unwilling male blind drunk and do the same. Does it happen a lot? No way. For one thing, a desperate lady will have much simpler ways of finding a partner. For another, ladies are usually not that sexually aggressive, period. Not motivated, as I said.

Even if a few are, most aren’t.

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Umbridge have you tried watching some of the sex education videos out there?

Usually produced by sex therapists, you do see a couple having sex but it is designed with an educational bent in mind rather than hard core porn.

It would at least help with soe of your questions.

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Umbridge have you tried watching some of the sex education videos out there?

Usually produced by sex therapists, you do see a couple having sex but it is designed with an educational bent in mind rather than hard core porn.

It would at least help with some of your questions.

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Are there any titles? Can I borrow them from the library?

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BTW:

Maybe not in some contexts. On this board, though? Heck, those are our bread and butter. No reason to pussyfoot around any of those subjects here, as far as I can tell. Most people here don’t seem to, at least.

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I just did a quick search on that name, and a short Wikipedia article suggested that he was a character on a TV episode who may be some sort of clown. Penthouse Letters is an adult magazine. By “adult”, I mean sex-focused. A quick scan of the first page suggested that it was very much like a literary magazine, publishing erotica.

Because I was talking about a sex position, and I knew that some people can easily feel sexually aroused whenever there would be human nakedness or behavior relating to sex, presumably exciting those mirror neurons, I wrote that post in a way that would be least sexually gratifying. The deadpan, observational voice contrasted the behavior. I thought the portrayal of sex in a least gratifying manner would actually be most ethical, because I believe it is intentional lust, not always the behavior, that soils a married man’s heart.

From a literary standpoint, it’s just irony, which may have been Hapley’s style of humor.

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His character isn’t a clown, but his way of talking is very concrete. The juxtaposition of him saying nonsensical things in a very structured way is why it is humorous.

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You might want to go easy on the assumptions and what you think you “know”, considering that you are, by your own admission, not exactly a leading expert on matters of the [del]crotch[/del] heart.

Are you saying that your extreme level of deadpan is a stylistic choice as well, like with the paragraph thing before?

If so, good to know.

Anyway, just talk about sex like you would talk about anything else. We’re all grown-ups here (mostly). We won’t fall off our chairs. :wink:

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Umbridge, I strongly urge you to visit a mental health professional.

You keep denying that you have mental problems, but truth be told you are not qualified to make that judgment. Neither am I. So, please, for your own sake, visit somebody who IS qualified to make that judgment - i.e., a mental health professional.

Mind you, to the best of my knowledge, a lack of sexual feelings might by and in itself be fine and dandy - asexuality need not, I think, necessarily be pathological - but your complete lack of understanding of human thought and human emotions, generally, MIGHT (I repeat: MIGHT) very well be a sign of mental problems.

Again: For your own sake, seek help.

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Yes. In literature, there is this literary style called stream of consciousness. Well, having the aid of the keyboard and being a touch typist, I just typed a stream of consciousness of my impulses. For a moment, I was in a trance-like state, reflecting on the mixed messages that I observed everywhere about sex, and just talked in “performance art monologues” for the whole time, only responding to other posts as if they were merely text on a page generated by artificially intelligent algorithms. It was the feeling that you would get when you may experience a phenomenon known as “Internet depersonalization”. I talked that way, because I thought it would fit the category of “mundane pointless stuff that I must share (MPSIMS)” and figured that few individuals would ever go into the message boards where the things would be mundane and pointless. The stream-of-consciousness writing style was also a bit disorganized in thinking, because my mind could easily jump from topic to topic, taking on the interest of whatever item I said in the previous sentence. A more severe case of this phenomenon might be someone with Wernicke’s aphasia, usually caused by brain damage. If I were to describe my earlier posts, then I would say that they did not resemble Wernicke’s aphasia, because that might also imply word salad. I would say that they resembled reflections of the sexual messages in the world.

Then, one person went to a slightly different topic and wondered who was behind the computer, suggesting a “bot”. Then, at that time, I thought carefully and changed my manner of speaking. This time, I focused on every word and every letter, and I structured my sentences in an organized, coherent fashion, remembering the old adage, “Every word counts.” I also minimized the expression of emotion by speaking in a deadpan voice.

I think I am going to experiment with writing sex scenes. I have searched on the Internet about “virgins writing sex scenes”, and I have decided to give that a try as a writing exercise and as a way to express all my knowledge about sex on a page. I have read a Romance novel before, seven years ago, so I KNOW what sex scenes are supposed to look like. If I were to reread the sex scene with my current sexual knowledge, I would most likely know what they are talking about.

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Autism?

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I say this with the utmost sincerity: Please share that with us when you’re done. I simply must see it.

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Or maybe 1/4 of a page?

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And I say this as a Mod, don’t share with us. This is not Penthouse Forum. There are plenty of places to share pornographic fiction. This is not one of them.

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Not to dispute the rule, but I think it will turn out a technical manual, anyway. Penthouse, not so much.