We may have all come across here as lustful and wanton creatures, but several pages ago we were discussing emotional connections and meaningful relationships. The flirting and banter that have taken place here have been play, pure and simple. Just blowing off steam, goofing off, enjoying being adults who have the freedom to make a game out flirting, and who also understand the limitations of this message board and its connection to our actual lives.
My impression is that everyone on board here, male and female, is intelligent, warm, caring and kind. We have made friends here, and I personally am emotionally invested in the happiness of many of the posters on this thread. I would happily be locked in a darkened room with any male (or female) here for a few hours, and I would guarantee you that neither of us would be expecting sex.
And I believe Optihutlost some of his feeling in the translation; he and I have discussed “the chase” on another thread, and agreed that it is true that some (most likely younger) women prefer a cocky and overtly sexual approach, and a man would be most likely to score (for lack of better word) with a bar chick if he is one of the cockiest guys in the room. As far as long term relationships, I would wager that Optihut has a different idea about intimacy with a loved one.
I have had 2 relationships in my adult life; the first 12 years, the second 2 years, and though each man has been vastly different in their approach towards intimacy; both have been nothing but generous and considerate with me. Neither would think of demanding or expecting a physical favor from me, though in truth, I wouldn’t mind if they did, because I loved the first one, and I love the present one. Each would do the same for me.
My advice (and I am not too young to give advice) is to reserve your body for those that you love. The physical act of love can sometimes seem foolish and self-sacrificing, but so is a back rub, or washing someone else’s clothes, or any other favor you perform out of love for your partner. And if you are with a partner who is in love with you, simply stating: “ I will not have sex with you unless my body is inclined” would prevent a world of guilt and hurt feelings. But don’t be surprised or disappointed if that man should privately choose to take matters into his own hands; there is a physical drive there, an itch that likes to be scratched. Testosterone is a biological feature that influences both men and women- but the degree of importance varies widely from person to person. Differing levels of that hormone can create issues, but before the first encounter a discussion of each partners wants and expectations should be discussed. Simply put: don’t have sex until or unless each of you can clearly communicate your feelings.
Men exactly like the men in this thread are the most appealing and attractive men to me- and I believe all here to be gentlemen who would prefer a mutually satisfying emotional and physical relationship to a one night stand. The men who would not use your body in such a selfish way are right here. I would happily date any one of the men I have been chatting with here, and would promise you even before they chime in their opinions that all would expect and appreciate ladylike behavior from me as well.
mipiace, please back me up here- though I prefer quiet, intelligent professional men, I can also hold my own in a room full of drunken football players. Those guys know that none of them will be in my bed if their behavior is less than respectful. Even cocky men can turn out to be gentlemen if you set the tone of the relationship. Though I blush easily, I can handle a dirty joke or a curse word without bristling- but if a man puts his hands on me without my permission, he can expect violence, not a sexual favor. It is generally up to women to set the initial tone for a relationship. Ladylike women attract gentlemen.
