I never knew that about the 25% thing. You could get a profitable business going entering into sham marriages, loading up a registry with all kinds of valuable stuff that doesn’t depreciate immediately upon purchase, and reselling it all.
Does that place allow people to put money towards an item? I had a wedding in the US last century and one of the options was to put, say, “$200 toward the china.”
You may need to pay for only part of the 2K fridge 
And no, I don’t think the “wishlist” makes you a Bridezilla, not until you start screaming that you absolutely MUST have that fridge or your life will be ruined forever. Specially if the store does have that “money toward an item” option.
While I understand that this is a very practical idea, I would advise you to tell you prospective parents or other family members that you don’t really want anyone to shell out $2K on your behalf. That way, when they get the “What the hell are tehy thinking??!?” They have a ready answer.
If you’re worried that you might be turning into a Bridezilla, you should be okay. In my experience, most Bridezillas lack that level of self-awarness.
A couple of serious questions though:
1 - Are you seriously expecting your wedding day to be the happiest day of your life?
2 - Who are you putting on the reception for?
3 - Does everything have to be perfect?
Well, I’m aware of the registry discount thing because I got married recently too, but I doubt that a lot of your guests are. So I would either wait to add this stuff until right before the wedding, or spread the word about the discount.
It’s always good to have a posse of friends around to let you know when you’re being a Bridezilla. However I’ve been in and attended a lot of weddings, and I’ve rarely had to deal with 'zilla behavior. I guess I’m blessed with cool friends! But I also think a lot of brides are undeservedly paranoid - I know sometimes I felt like calling any attention whatsoever to the wedding might be perceived as Bridezilla-ish.
I tend to agree with most of the sentiments voiced in here. If you have lots of stuff in the “reasonable” price range that your guests are most likely to gravitate to, throwing a couple big ticket items on the list as well is no big deal.
It IS your special day!!! Just don’t take yourself or the event too seriously, have FUN and keep some perspective and you won’t turn into a bridezilla.
No, of course not. That’s absurd. I expect the day that I win $100,000,000 will be much happier. 
I don’t think I understand the question. There are people who are coming in from all over the damn place to watch us get married and it doesn’t seem right not to feed them.
Well, there are already hundreds of things that won’t be perfect, so no. I’m hoping people have fun, the food is good, and Walter doesn’t actually wear his hockey uniform to the ceremony as he’s threatening to. Other than that, I’m not too bothered.
Well, I also hope the dress fits. I do have fears about needing to be greased up and shoehorned into my dress because I’ve somehow put on 30 lbs over night.
I thought about it. At first, I thought it was Bridezilla-ish. But then I realized, I don’t really “shop” through wedding registries; I just look for somehing in my price range and I’m done.
However, I would not be surprised if lots of people did look through them and comment on them. Women can be catty. Not all women, certainly, but some of us do have that trait.
Keep on with the rumor thing, I guess.
Don’t people often chip in to get in a single high-price item, rather than separate lesser gifts?
Sure. However, a $2,000 fridge would still require at least 20 people/couples chipping in before it would be anything other than outragous.
Just don’t let the snickering about it behind your back get to you. I never shop off registries, never registered when I was a bride to be - bridezilla to be - but if I did and I saw a $2K fridge on the list I’d probably have a good laugh and think, “yah, good luck with that!” LOL
If you really think this is Bridezilla behavior, you really need to start watching Bridezillas. You wouldn’t make it past the first interview. (Especially considering the registry is for both you and your husband.)
Hey Dopers - I hear Alice and Walter want a fridge! Who wants to chip in?
(I too don’t think people care about seeing one or two high-end items on the registry, as long as you have a good range.)
I don’t think I could stand it. I’ve never watched the show, but I gather it focuses on women acting like douche-bags just because they’re getting married. I’d probably wind up throwing the remote through the TV.
However, you have made me feel a bit better about putting a dumb item on the list. (FWIW, the next most expensive item is the surround sound system that Walter picked at $500, the deep freeze is $300 and a Le Creuset cooking pot at $300. Everything else is between $5 and $100).
I have to ask though - do some of the women actually only register for themselves!?!?! What on earth do they put on there? Colthing and make up? And how does anyone wind up on the show - are they nominated by their friends?
IIRC, the first season of Bridezillas was much more “real” than what it has become now. The cameras were following around brides under the pretext of a reality show about wedding planning. By the second season, the secret was out and that was when we started seeing brides who were a lot trashier and over-the-top, behavior I’m sure was strongly encouraged by the producers.
And I believe that the couples who appear on the show receive a free honeymoon. All the more incentive to act like a spoiled brat.
Most of my friends know about it, but it might be a more popular store for registries here than elsewhere, so word gets around. Most us have friends and family outside of Québec, so HBC and Canadian Tire are safe bets in terms of having one near everyone rather than registering at Dumoulin or LaCordée (electronics and sports store respectively) which are only really in this province, AFAIK.
Most of the registry items at HBC were my choice, but most of the CT items were my husband’s choices. I had one cousin register at Home Depot too, because they were renovating their house, and had some fairly expensive items on it. They pretty much let people know that gift certificates in whatever amount were the prefered gift, and the registry items were for the discount later on; basically the list was just an indication of what plans they had for the house!
I’ve watched a few of them, and the one that sticks out in my mind is the bridezilla bitch who was making* her friends exercise hard outside in 110 degree heat. She kept saying, “I am not having any FAT BRIDESMAIDS at MY WEDDING!”
She, of course, was standing there, with megaphone yelling at them what to do. :rolleyes:
I would’ve told her where she could cram the megaphone, myself.
- “Making” in the sense that she totally cowed her friends into submission.
Aren’t the kind of shops that accept bridal registries ridiculously overpriced anyway? I mean, you might to find that fridge, or something much like it, for far less at another (online) store, save far more then 25 %, get to use it now, and avoid lookign Bridezilla-ish.
You have now started five threads about your wedding since your engagement just over a month ago. By my calculations you are still two away from Bridezilla status.
Interesting. You don’t HAVE to read them you know. While your post was informative and helpful, I probably could have managed without it, shockingly enough.
Maastricht, I’m not sure The Bay is much pricier than anywhere else we would get a fridge (or other glass wear or dinner wear or whatever).