Dude, Where’s My Car, Blazing Saddles and The Dave Chappelle Show? :dubious:
Ok, I’m tryiing for a rational reason like…when starting a life together, home entertainment is a viable component, much like clothes hangers and tablecloths.
I’m not quite making it there. Am I missing something? Televisions or DVD players or stereo equipment on the registry would make more sense to me than CDs and DVDs. Those seem like things you get incidentally, like birthday presents or whatever. When I was a young’un just starting my first place, I’d have been much happier if you spent the $20 on a toaster oven not a DVD, just me? Is this common now?
It’s not even nine in the morning and I feel like an old fogey already.
I heard about a young’un (elementary school age, I think) whose recieved a GameBoy from his classmates because they felt he was deprived. parents had decided no GameBoys or other electronic games would be allowed, although they could have afforded it. The kids got together and bought a GameBoy. The young’un played with it for a half hour and got bored.
Thus some of today’s young’uns probably do feel like CDs and DVDs are more important than toasters.
Couple that with the likelihood that the young’uns probably already own large screen TVs, DVD players, Stereo equipment, etc. And either they eat out or eat frozen dinners or whatever and maybe don’t need as much kitchen equipment as you did.
I don’t know if its common, I just fear it is more common than you (or I) would prefer- and I refuse to believe that I am old enough to be an old fogey.
As a “young’n” who’s getting married next May, I think I can safely say that while this may be a rising trend, it’s not that common. I don’t know anyone who would register for things other than household items, and we’re not going to do it, either.
If I was attending a wedding where someone had registered for DVDs and games, I wouldn’t buy them something like that, I’d either get something homey from the registry or give them money.
Many couples live together before marriage, so a lot don’t need as many household items as couples in the past have, because they’ve already set up a home together, so I can see the logic in asking for things like this, but I still dont’ really like it. If there are only a few “registry” items you need, register for those items and nothing else. Most people, seeing that you’ve only registered for a few things, will give money instead of a gift.
I lived alone before I met Bird Man, and we’ve been living together for over a year. We just registered–wanted a vaccum, some dishes, come bakeware, some towels, and a whole mess of DVDs. See, we already have everything we need, it’s not like we’re comming fresh out of our mommy and daddy’s houses with nothing. Some of the stuff we have is really crappy, so we registered for new stuff. But we want our friends and family to be able to buy us something they know we want–so if they want to buy a DVD and just give us the cash to make up the difference of a more expensive gift, so be it! Or, if they don’t have a lot of cash (and most really don’t) they can just get the DVD and know we are totally happy with their gift. (Hell, our friends don’t need to buy us anything, we just want them to show up!)
Judging from the titles, in this case I’d say that the groom had a little hissy fit about not having things HE wanted on the list. So he registered for his favourite films, being smart enough to realise that no-one was going to get him the 42" plasma screen tv.
I’m actually sort of serious. I want traditional wedding registry things, even if I know we probably won’t use them for several years until we have our own home and a bigger kitchen. Irishfella would ideally like to register for things to help him overclock his PC, oh, and a widescreen tv. I’m winning this one, but I’ll probably appease him with some flashy kitchen gadgets or something.
I want one of those badly, but I’m not sure I’ll get it…aren’t they like $300? I’d like to register for things most people could actually afford to get us!
I always seek out the fun (“guy”) wedding presents in registries. I’ve bought couples GameCube controllers, and even the giant Castle Greyskull playset from the new Masters of the Universe toy line (who knew, an action figure collector found a girl!) Most people have lived on their own in college apartments or elsewhere, and just don’t need more towels or kitchen gear. In that case, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with registering for movies, music, games, and even collectible toys if that’s what the people want. Passing judgment on stuff like that seems completely alien to me.
:dubious: You know girls can be action figure collectors, too, right? While I wouldn’t care much for the Castle Greyskull thingie I’d *love * another Master Maze set to add to my collection.
That’s the difference. When Mr. Neville and I got married, we weren’t young’uns just starting our first place. We had each been living on our own for several years, and had most of the household stuff we needed or wanted. In fact, since we hadn’t been living together, we generally had two of each of the household things we needed.
Worse - they’re $370, but it never hurts to add one to the registry, in case a rich uncle wants to get you something. Otherwise, if you register at Bed Bath and Beyond, whatever you don’t get, they’ll let you buy for (IIRC) 10% off. Otherwise, there’s always the BBBY 20% off coupons that show up in the mail at least once a month.
I never thought of the guy-appeasement angle, that may be it indeed.
I should have mentioned that these are the proverbial kids who’ve never lived away from Mom and Dad, they both stayed and home and did the community college commute even. Maybe she’s been working on a hope chest for years that I just don’t know about, maybe they were throwing stuff on that their friends could afford.
I wasn’t trying to be judgmental, not at all, just have never seen DVDs or toys on a registry before, apparently I’m a sheltered old fogey.
Hey, it’s cool. I was stunned when I got invited to my first peer-group wedding in college, and they had a registry! I had never heard of that practice before, and at first I thought it was rather rude, making a list of the presents you wanted everyone to buy you, like spoiled kids at Christmas. But then I realized they’re going to get lots of presents anyway, so why not ask for the stuff they want and need in advance, rather than get stuck with lots of junk, deal with returns, etc. The registry makes sense, even if sometimes the people I know seem like they’re getting a little greedy with them, or forget what kind of income their friends have.
My parents still think wedding registries are rude and avaricious, though.
I know a guy from college who not only put DVD’s on his wedding registry, but also things like soda, candy, and condoms. I think it is just part of his personality to put funny things on, but also it made the guests smile when they thought of him.
I try to get something serious and then a fun thing. I would wrap a dvd in a towel set. I have a lot of friends who love movies, so I want to help them out with their collection. It does depend on the couple though.
Or, according to a friend who got married a couple of summers ago, it could be a case of getting too attached to the ‘zapper’ that adds stuff to your registry. She told a lot of us to ignore certain things, because her then-fiance was fooling around with the code-bar wand and accidentally added some strange and odd items, which they didn’t notice were on there til much later.
What Anne Neville said. Probably 90% of couples getting married these days are not fresh-faced kids moving out from mom & dad’s for the first time. Most have been living together for a few years already, so most of the “needs” are already taken care of. This makes the registry a large list of “wants” with a few unrealized “needs” smattered in.
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Then, of course, you get the folks who decide that just because you didn’t register for something doesn’t mean you don’t want it (and it never occurs to them that you may already own it).
Anyone want one of the three crock pots or two ice buckets that’ve been sitting in the garage since our 1999 wedding?
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Oh, I get a feeling that when I get married, I’m going to have oodles of things that I neither want nor have a need for given to me. The SO and I already have the greater majority of the things we’d need in order to live on our own together, but the things that we’d want or need to upgrade are things like furniture, some good flatware, cooking knives and getting a better set of high thread count sheets. We aren’t likely to need much more than that, considering that we both like cooking and thus have most of our kitchen needs covered. I also realize that, despite anything we might register for, we might end up getting something that’s completely different than what we registered for but in the same category as that item. Considering we have a few years before we’ll be setting a date or being official, I’m sure that the list will get smaller and we’ll end up registering for books or something.
Am I the only one who finds registries somewhat tacky? No offense to those who use them, but I wouldn’t feel right registering for people to buy me things.
A lot of us have even been out of college for a few years before getting married, and making enough money to buy nice household stuff for ourselves. I don’t believe in
waiting for marriage to buy good pots & pans
It doesn’t help that I have no nesting instincts, and don’t really care what color my sheets or towels are or whether they match, as long as they don’t show too much dirt.
Mr Neville and I would have put that on ours, if we hadn’t already had a copy.
Mr Neville and I would have put that on ours, if we hadn’t already had a copy.