I really hope not. I have a number of friends on retainer to tell me to get the hell over myself if I start to get out of control.
Last night and the night before Walter Lang and I went to our Registry store. We wandered around choosing stuff to register for. Heh. For anyone who’s never done it, it’s like the crack cocaine of shopping. You get to choose all sorts of absurd stuff and, in theory, someone else will buy it for you. We haven’t even received a gift and I already feel guilty. HA!
So, we registered for a fridge, and a deep freeze, and a surround sound system. We have no illusions, whatsoever, that someone is going to buy us a $2,000 fridge. In fact, we would be horrified if they did. HOWEVER, when nobody buys these things, we get to purchase them, for up to one year after the wedding, for 25% off. That’s a pretty good savings. So, essentially, we’ve decided to make ourselves look like greedy douchbags to save 25% on a fridge and deep freeze a year from now.
Does that make me a bridezilla? FWIW, we also chose a number of $5 and $10 items. (Well, and a number of $50 and $60 dollar items).
Jesus - I’m desperate to avoid the bridezilla creep and it’s making me nutty. GAH!
As long as you put stuff on there people expect to see for newlyweds, that’s fine. My brother put shit like video games and Lego sets on his registry. Pissed us off since it was obviously things only he wanted. Yeah he also put a $1500 tv on there too but that’s a normal thing a newly married couple would need and could use together.
I don’t think it’s Bridezilla. You should have a wide variety of prices on your registry to accommodate everyone. I have a cousin getting married this month and the cheapest thing on the registry was $200! We barely know or see him, so mom and I sent some votive holders that matched the rest of their silver pieces.
If you threw a public screaming fit because no one got you the fridge, then you’d be Bridezilla. And if anyone asks you can just explain to them like you did here, “Oh God, I hope no one gets it for us, we’re just trying to get a deal on it to buy for ourselves later. If someone gave that to us I think I’d owe them my first born!”
Good job checking up on yourself. I know I crossed the line a couple times in my wedding planning and had to apologize to my fiance and bridesmaids after reigning myself in.
Honestly? If I saw a stainless steel side-by-side fridge/freezer combo with ice and water in the door on someone’s bridal registry – price $2000 – yeah, I would think it kind of ridiculous. (“Who the hell do they think is going to buy then that?”) The 25% of discount is completely reasonable, though; obviously you’d put even the most expensive items on the list – especially the most expensive items – for that sizeable a discount. So if I were you I’d be dropping that factoid to every person who mentioned the word “registry” to me. Because without the explanation, it does seem a weensie bit bridezilla-ish. Not a ton, just a tad.
Yes exactly! I think we were hoping people figured that one of our sets of parents would be buying that kind of item if they hadn’t heard about the 25% post-wedding discount. Or something. Or perhaps we have a number of rich aunts? GAH! I don’t know.
I am spreading the word about the discount thing. I’ve told the gal at work I affectionatly refer to as ‘Chatty Cathy’. I’m hoping she’ll get the word out so my co-workers don’t think I’m a psycho. Apparently they’re going to have a big shower for me and I was going to refer them to the registry if they have a deep, burning desire to get a gift.
I kind of hope that people go for the $5 and $10 items. a) I don’t want people spending a boat load of money and b) some of them are totally cool! (I’m a sucker for KitchenAid doo-dahs.)
Heh, if the store happens to be one whose name starts with a B and ends with a Y, I think everyone knows about the 25% discount on registry items, because that’s where every good Canadian registers!
Well, there, and Canadian Tire.
I don’t think registering for something like that is Bridezilla-ish at all. Expecting to get it would be, but being given a scanner gun thingy and the run of the store, it’s hard NOT to add crazy expensive things!
Yeah, I ain’t ever seen anything on a bridal registry even approaching that kind of money. I’d look askance at someone who put such a high ticket item on the registry. Why don’t you ask the store if you could get the discount on the items without putting it on the registry? Back when I was richer, I 've bought twice the exact same item for two different couples which was the most expensive item on their list, a $300 set of Henckel knives. Both of them said they thought they were pushing the limit on that particular item. But I love good knives, and they usually mention the fact that I bought those knives when they are using them at their house.
uh, could you take it off and just put it back on 2 days before the wedding, when most people are done looking at your registry? Just tossing it out there.
Although personally I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a couple of high-end items on the registry as long as there’s enough reasonably-priced items for people to purchase. If everything on the registry is $200+ I’m going to raise an eyebrow, but if my budget is $50 and there’s plenty of stuff for me to choose from I don’t really care if there are expensive items. I’d assume they were either doing it for the discount or they wanted some more expensive items there in case friends or co-workers wanted to go in on a present. It’s also not unknown for close relatives to spend a bit more for a wedding present. If my sister got married and wanted a $2000 fridge I’d totally buy it for her (I’d wait for the discount though!)
We had a $1500 coffee machine on the registry because my husband’s grandmother asked for something at that price range. Later we found out three groups of people had wanted to buy it. Go figure.
Plus everything’s more expensive in Australia. A lot of things are twice the cost. Kitchenaid mixers that cost $300 in the US are $700 here. It’s incredibly depressing.
