I’m sorry for people who read this and think this is silly or what, but I’ll just start off right where I think I should…
I’m not a tall guy. Normally I’m not very sensitive to the matter. I tend to deal with it pretty well, and I of course dealt with all the ridicule of when I was a younger kid. Being short then sucks but I’ve learned to pretty much forget about it. With women I’ve never had to deal with taller women. I don’t know why but I guess they never found me attractive.
Now, I recently moved to a new town in Germany and I just met a group of people that are really nice. Most of the speak Spanish which I also speak so we got along well. My german is also pretty good as well. This is pretty strange for an American, I believe to speak two foreign languages well. But that’s besides the point. So I was hanging out with this new group tonight and there were certainly girls there that I would like to know better… If you know what I mean Okay I know that was so cheezy but I had to do it
Well I start getting the vibes from this girl that is at least 6 inches taller than me. Now, I am normally okay in most situations but I feel completely weird in this situation. I don’t know what to do. I have never had someone so much taller than me express interest. Maybe it was because I was the new guy, but it was really strange. I didn’t really make any moves but I did ask for her phone number at the end of the night. It was pretty obvious to me, because she kept winding up next to me or dancing near me the whole evening.
What I have to ask is if ladies are ever attracted to a smaller guy? I am certainly attracted to taller ladies. I don’t look bad or anything. I’m not fat, I’m just short. Basically I felt really intimidated like I never have before, all the while feeling like I should be the one to do something about the situation. I’ll probably get to see her tomorrow night.
Ladies, what’s the deal with the size of a man? Why would she like me? I’m about 5’8, which isn’t so short in comparison to most Spaniards. Its not so bad, but I am just confused and dont’ know what I should do.
5’8" isn’t that short – I think it’s about average for males in the U.S., in fact. (I’m 5’8", but female)
If she’s really 6" taller than you, she must be 6’2", which is really, really tall for a female. This would probably mean that she’s had time to come to terms with where she is on the height thing. So – if she’s acting interested – she probably is.
Yu say you asked for her number – not if she gave it to you. If she did, what did she say?
From the US National Center for Health Statistics, 1979:
“The average male is 177 cm (5 foot 9.5 inches), and 90% of males are between 167cm (5 foot 6 inches) and 185 cm (6 foot3 inches).
The average female is 164cm (5 foot4 inches), and 90% of females are between 156cm (5 foot 1 inch) and 171cm(5 foot7 inches).”
In other words, you’re pretty much average. I’m convinced American males are short in general, though; I’m 6’ and I feel tallish here, but like a midget in Britain.
(Only an inch difference between me and Mr. S [I’m taller], but I have longer arms and legs, so I’m the one who gets stuff off high shelves and has to adjust the driver’s seat backwards. On the other hand, I love looking him in the eye without cranking my neck.)
Why would she like you? Because she thinks you’re a cool guy. Because she thinks you have an interesting or handsome face, or eyes, or smile. Because you make her laugh. Because you’re a great dancer. Because she’s into who you are.
Because she’s not a shallow wench looking for some narrow definition of arm candy, and she doesn’t care how tall you are.
Thanks for the encouragement everyone. I feel better now! Anyway, i don’t really feel like making much progress at this time, considering how I just met her entire group of friends yesterday, so I want to get a little more comfortable first, I guess. I just moved, and I suppose this is the first group of real contacts that I have made. I wouldn’t want to push it too hard. It did make me feel good that when I left for home a little early (around 3 or so) that they wanted to see me
Now that I think about it I should have stayed there. smack but I suppose I’ll have to see about that later. I tend to underestimate myself sometimes although I suppose I could be interesting in the way that I can speak Spanish and German pretty well.
On another note this isn’t going to be good news for my German :rolleyes:
I’m only 5’6" and my wife is close to 6’ (he denies this, saying she’s only 5’10", but she is damn tall, especially in heels.) Our wedding photos are hilarious, with her bending down to kiss me.
As I’ve said before, when we first started going out together I felt a bit weird walking down the street holding her hand. Now I reckon people are looking at us together and saying “wow, what’s he got?”
Shorty-short-short checking in. I’m not even 5’6" (about a quarter inch shy). My girlfriend is 5’10" and a wee bit. We sometimes joke about how short I am, or how tall she is (especially when I have to ask her to reach something for me), but there’s never been any issue with the differential. In fact, I hardly even tend to notice her height unless she’s wearing those monster 2"+ heels that prop her up to over 6’. Then again, I think out of (unneeded) respect for me, she tends to wear flats most of the time when we’re together.
Ok I’m really frustrated. Tonight was the second night that I saw this group. Not only did the tall girl not even really pay attention to me, but the girl that I actually like went home with another guy. I don’t really understand this. They weren’t kissing or doing anything at all. It was strange but the guy went with her to her house… Ahh what can you say. I’m tempted to use the sad smiley, but I don’t really have a good reason to, so I suppose I won’t. Also another thing, a guy that I just met went home with another girl. But this guy just came to the town about a week ago, and so it makes me feel like I could have that kind of progress too, but I didn’t really try hard enough.
But I am really upset about the girl that I actually liked. She seemed very nervous around me, but in a sort of innocent way, as if she liked me. I thought it was a good sighn, but then out of nowhere she goes home with this guy. It would be okay if they were kissing or doing something a little more obvious throught the night. Then I would have known that she was taken. But they were seperate the whole night and he goes home with her that night. Uhhgh. It sucks but what can I do…
Tall girl didn’t pay attention to me tonight and the girl that I like went home with another dude.
Quick update. The tall girl mentioned in my post from yesterday is now no longer my girlfriend. Moral: Stay away from the tall girl. They’re even more evil than normal girls! Run, run away.
True. Well, I don’t really know what the hell to do at the moment. I don’t really know all of these people so well, so its kind of strange for me I think. They are having a party again tonight, but I am not sure if I should ask someone if I can come but rather just wait and see if I get invited. Or maybe I shouldn’t do anything.
Merkwurdigliebe, you sound a bit desperate. You don’t have to go home with a girl to have a good time with these people. Invite yourself to their parties, hang out with them, and with any luck you’ll end up going home with someone eventually!
Uh, sorry. Anyway, I’d say that I don’t know to what extent if any being tall is an advantage, but people are attracted to all sorts of people. SOME people don’t mind, and if you constantly worry, you’ll never meet them.
Okay I know that was so cheezy but I had to do it 
