Well, that’s a little bit of apples and oranges. You can’t even find something as lame as a lap dance in Thailand is what I was saying. If the girls want to get you all hot and bothered, they generally, er, take matters into their hands, shall we say.
However, the phenomenon of coyote dancers has appeared in recent years. Do you have those in the West? Scantily clad uber-hot dancers dong some rather acrobatic moves on the very bar tops. Some bars started bringing them in to boost customer numbers, but they’re generally not available for play, so it’s almost as lame as a lap dance. But it was only a handful of bars that were trying this, and it seems to be fading out now for the most part.
The one lap dance I’ve had was nice. Since I was too broke to buy myself one, or to buy booze, another guy at the bachelor party declared me the designated driver and paid for a dance for me. The girl was absolutely beautiful and quite good at her job. I enjoyed the “tactile 3D porn” but it’s not like I rushed out the next day to do it again.
It was fun, but I wouldn’t go back unless maybe with my wife as part of foreplay or something.
I’ve recv’d two and I gotta say Meh!! First one at the local strip club between small towns here. There wasn’t a lot of “foreplay” per se, all she started doing was directing her snatch in my face. Sorry, seen it. I was expecting more eroticism and less in your face.
The 2nd, my wife paid $100 in downtown Vegas so I could get a professional lap dance. I choose the girl and it was nice but she didn’t have much repertoire and for $100, I was expecting somehow more. I know Vegas is expensive, but $100 in ten minutes is simply not worth it.
I think for some it can be a bit of a power trip or big shot trip. I know of guys with families who would blow their whole pay check on lap dances and even pay for their friends. I have had a few women want me to take them for a lap dance. Does nothing for me but if they are having fun I have no problem with it.
Bisexual female here. I like strip clubs, I’ve been a few times in a mixed group of friends. They aren’t just feebly gyrating on the stage over here. They are extremely fit and they do some serious poledancing acrobatic shit up there. It’s like Cirque Du Soleil, but with boobs! And 2 dollar beers once a week!
As far as lapdances go, I’ve only gotten one, once, from a girl who assumed my much-older male friend and I were a couple. It was… awkward and extremely hot at the same time. Some of the Bourbon street places do them in little booths in the back room, which makes you feel super skeezy and reach for the hand sanitizer.
I haven’t had many lap dances, mainly because I haven’t gone to a lot of strip clubs. But I have had a few, enough to know that some girls know what they’re doing and some are just going through the motions. A really sensual lap dance is hot, not just ‘rub my snatch on your leg’-raunchy.
Whenever I attended a bachelor party that was going to involve strip clubs, my wife would get me off before I left the house. Her rationale was, ‘you’re going to a strip club and the girls are going to give you a boner, and you’re going to come horny and want to get laid. I’m going to be asleep. So you don’t have to just jerk off in the bathroom before coming to bed, I’ll drain your balls now.’ And then she drops to her knees.
It’s possible your wife/girlfriend/whatever(?–I don’t know enough about you to know which may apply) is only interested in your money too, isn’t it? And wives generally get a lot more of a man’s money than lapdancers do!
IME lapdancers get really confused and awkward when you are a woman and someone buys you a lapdance as a joke. The dancer actually seems somewhat embarrassed about doing it to you, and they will start talking about things like “so, do you have any kids?” Seriously…
That’s not been my experience - at least as a spectator. When I’ve seen women give women lapdances, all the inhibitions go out the window. The lapdancee usually gets some of her clothing taken off, and the dancers do things that they would never do to a man.
I’m another dude who doesn’t get it. I’ve never had one, but I assume the guy tries to memorize what the woman looks like so he can run home and shank.
I can indeed. Together for 20 years, married for 15 (this week!). She’s the best.
The last time this happened, we were at the club and my buddy said “does [wife] realize you’re going to come home and jump her bones?” and I replied, “no, she took care of me before I left the house.”
I can understand it, but a lap dance wouldn’t appeal to me. I don’t care for strippers, gogo dancers etc. I find looking but not touching to be pointless.
Well … for the reasons *askthepizzaguy and others mentioned, that doesn’t appeal to me to such an extent that I can’t see the appeal to anyone who doesn’t have specialized tastes, given all the other options available.
I might be overanalyzing/overintellectualizing, but I do manage to have actual sex without getting lost in my own head.
It’s possible, but I get more out of that arrangement.
You don’t even have to be one of those guys. 99% of the male population will never have a girl as hot as a stripper. And there she is, naked and on your lap.
This exacty. My pals don’t get to see me with wood or getting off, and if there’s no actual chemistry there’s no difference between a paid woman and my hands. Oh, except my hands don’t get me all worked up and then stop if I run out of cash.