Awwww! So awesome! I agree with your concerns about her thinking that’s just the right thing to say, and I’m glad you were supportive about her perhaps changing her mind sometime down the line, or not! (I certainly know people all over the spectrum from waited-until-married to waited-until-puberty, and I think all of them are happy except the ones who thought they’d been pushed into something that wouldn’t have been their free choice, whether that was abstinence or sex.)
You have absolutely, positively earned it! You are Awesome Aunt! (Not just because of The Talk, though that was awesome. I’ve just been completely impressed by your aunt-ing skills!)
Almost certainly! But wait till you’re hanging w/ your niece and her friends and she introduces you as her ‘cool Aunt ZSofia, the one I told you about’ because she’ll have bragged on you to them. Mine did. Teenage girls appreciate it when they’re spoken to as an adult, or at least not as a child.
You done good!
Back in the dark days when I had “sex ed” in public school in Virginia (1990-ish), the practice was that girls and boys had the same curriculum. That is, we boys also got fed the “for girls” sex ed materials, and the girls got to see the “for boys” material. I honestly can’t remember if we all sat in it together or not.
Awwww. That’s so sweet. The SO’s 13 y.o sister said that to the 8 year old. “Lindsay and I have a special bond”. Yikes! I have to now take the 8 year old out for something special.
We had some together, and some separate. I exchanged notes with my male friends after sex ed. We got periods and pregnancy, they got wet dreams and spontaneous erections. According to friends from other schools, this was pretty normal. Is it any wonder kids start off with very different views of sex and pleasure?
Currently in our district, it’s taught together, but with one session at the end with girls and boys separated with a same-sex teacher for more personal Q&A and discussion.
I don’t know if you’re planning on having her go to a doctor soon, but one additional reason to take her which I haven’t seen mentioned is to get an HPV vaccine. If she’s not currently sexually active then this is an excellent time to get the vaccine, because she’ll be protected if she’s exposed in 3 months or 10 years. I’m sure the Planned Parenthood has information on the vaccine and its benefits.
Zsofia, is your niece quiet and shy? If she is, she just may listen and respect what you say… Quiet and shy isn’t always a good thing though…
But, if she is outgoing, I’d hate to say it but your words won’t affect her. There is nothing personal, but it is all a part of life.
I don’t want to go into details because I don’t know her personally so you’ll just have to accept what I offer… See, with teenagers who aren’t afraid of their family they will do as they please so your only option is to support them and perhaps share the warning but understand your warning will barely have any meaning these days… Your warnings probably aren’t anything new…
These days, sex is nothing new to 16 yr olds, it comes with the freedom…
Once again though, some females may have strong beliefs about religion and what not and therefore may respect your talk… But that shouldn’t be hard to determine for you.
Finally, if it will make you feel better to have a talk with her no matter her decisions, then by no means, have that talk with her…
It’s always best to support [them] then to discourage… Tell them to do what makes them happy, you are the aunt so if she isn’t looking up to you like a guardian then I would just support them…
This may have nothing to do with your situation personally but I just want to throw it out there… I have noticed that a lot of adults want to be role models for younger people but they never know whats best for them… Usually, they want the younger person to live the same life they have lived whether they were happy or not… This is perfectly natural but it isn’t always what is best for the younger person.
Schools aren’t teaching anything the average person wouldn’t want them to teach, there is nothing to be worried about in that matter. Again, it’s up to the teenager if they are going to listen. Also again, if they do listen, a sex drive is a sex drive, which is natural…
It’s nice your worried, but you should focus on not worrying, worrying is AKA stress… The older you get, the more stress, worry about you and rid that stress…
Hopefully, I haven’t seemed rude in this thread, good luck to you…
