So, for reasons of his own, my husband is not willing/able to give The Talk to our almost 13 year old son. I think it’s about time. He knows the mechanics of Where Babies Come From, as well as some interesting visuals from the internet (le sigh), but I want to get some other, practical stuff into his head.
Of course, this will be excrutiating and embarrassing for both of us. I don’t care. His health is worth some embarrassment. But I would like to make sure I include all the important stuff, so I’m not going “Oh! And also…” for the next week.
Things I want to cover:
- Sex makes relationships complicated. I highly recommned getting a few practice relationships in before adding sex to the equation.
- Don’t say yes unless you mean it. Don’t pressure her (or him, I suppose) to say yes unless she means it. If she says yes, then changes her mind, even *during *sex, the answer is no - stop immediately! (Likewise, if *you *change your mind, even during sex, you should stop. If she can’t respect that, she’s a bitch.)
- Don’t gossip, brag, or talk about it later with other people. It’s private!
- At this moment in time, condoms are your only birth control choice as a male. It needs to be put on before any sort of genital contact, not just before you come. (I’ve talked to people who think they have a safe window for condomless sex for a few minutes, as long as they stop and put on a condom before ejaculation.)
- Even if another male contraception comes along, condoms are your only STD prevention choice. You can buy them at Walgreens.
- Don’t keep a condom in your pocket, wallet or (later) car. Heat destroys them.
What else should be included?