My brother, who is usually good for hosting Thanksgiving, is skipping town this year. Because he has been so very good about hosting it, I’m refraining from trying to inflict any family guilt, and I’ll be having dinner for the rest of the group, which consists of my father-in-law, brother-in-law, Mr. Legend, our two daughters, and me.
Back when I was first married, our combined families used to have a giant meal together. My mom, my brother, and I took turns hosting the actual dinner; the host household would make the turkey, stuffing, and mashed potatoes. My mom and I made pies, my brother made rolls, and my mother-in-law would bring a whole bunch of side dishes. My cousins would stay at my mom’s house, and once we all had kids, I had a giant sleepover with all of the little ones at my house. At the peak of things, we typically had 20-25 people, including cousins in the region and their kids, but now the kids are all grown and many of them have spouses and kids of their own, so they have their own gatherings.
My mom and mother-in-law both died three years ago, leaving me and my brother as the only people with both a house to host the dinner in and the skills to produce it. With him out of town, that means I’ll be pretty much it, although my daughters will be here for the day and will help. If I were smarter, I’d cut back on the fixings, but whenever I try that, someone gets wistful and I give in. So we’ll be having turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy, cranberry sauce, cucumber salad, Harvard beets, succotash, green beans, mandarin orange salad with candied almond dressing, baked sweet potatoes with apples, and homemade rolls. For dessert, we’ll be having apple, cherry, and pumpkin pies with real whipped cream. My older daughter also claims she’ll be making pumpkin bread, but her flight gets in at 9:30 Wednesday night, so we’ll see about that.
This is way more work and food than is warranted for a group of six, but we’d all be depressed if we didn’t have it. Each of the above items is something that means Thanksgiving to at least one of the people in the family, so it’s worth doing. And with all these preparations, we can easily accommodate strays, so there’s a chance we’ll pick up a couple of extras we can impress with the spread.