I thought I posted this Reply last night before I went to bed but when I opened the MMP this morning, it doesn’t appear that it actually posted. Hope that’s not a message that I shouldn’t have posted it. Here’s Try #2.
When our daughter graduated with her Masters from SAIC, her first job was at NDSU in Fargo. She lasted 2 years in that cold, barren place with very little culture/social. She returned to Chicago where she has lived very happily ever since. Perhaps Fargo has improved, it’s been 11 years since she left. Although it’s still in North Dakota, enough said.
This is very common, particularly for women of a certain generation who were married for 50+ years. Here are 3 examples.
My Dad passed in August 2014 at 89. One of either my brother, my sister or me and sometimes Hubs visited Mom almost every single day and she would often say she was lonely, she missed Dad so very much and yes, she would say she just wanted to die. She passed in December 2015 at 89 so 16 months later. They were married for 62 years 10 months.
FIL passed in October 2010 at 85. MIL was heartbroken. She so wanted to have a 60 year anniversary; they were married for 59 years 8 months. She was a VERY social person but after FIL passed, she really wouldn’t do anything. She stopped going to the clubhouse in her condo association or visiting friends. She was supposed to go to visit Hubs’ Sis’s family in VA for Thanksgiving but she wouldn’t get on the plane. She was supposed to come to the Mitten for Christmas and stay with Hubs’ other Sis but she was very morose, depressed and said she wasn’t going to come. Hubs told his Sis to tell his Mom that if she didn’t buy a ticket and come, that he would fly down and pick her up and carry her to the plane and put her on it. So then she bought a ticket. She had COPD and was having trouble once she was in the Mitten so they ended up doing surgery in early Feb 2011. She never woke up from the surgery and passed one day before their 60th at 83 so she got to be reunited with her husband for their 60th. She passed 4 months after FIL.
The person who took the cake was my baby sister’s MIL. Her FIL passed in September either 2007, 2008 or possibly 2009. Her MIL was so depressed that she passed in October so barely 30 days later. I don’t know exactly how old they were or how long they were married but I believe they were in their late 70’s/early 80’s and had been married for 50+ years.
The 49th anniversary of the day I met Hubs was last week. We married 5+ years later.
I’m glad to hear it’s easier for you to walk now. You’ve certainly had a time of it in the last year. Please watch your step 
Sunny I love that shade!
I’m sure all the way out on the left coast you just heard me yell out OH MY GOSH!!!
She loves FCD and likely you and her grands and great-grands but none of you are FIL. It seems like she was married more than 70+ years and her person was FIL. Maybe FCD needs to do like Hubs was going to do to his Mom and go pick her up, put her in the car and bring her over. But there’s no guarantee that will lessen her depression. My Mom didn’t get over Dad’s passing for 16 months; she asked that her headstone say “E_____ is my gift from God”; Dad’s headstone says “I____ is the love of my life”. I’m very sorry that this sounds kind of a downer but just keeping it real.
The rain here was very steady and not at all hard, barely medium and the grass has greened up quite a bit and the vegetable garden is responding very nicely. I just don’t understand why my day lillies haven’t bloomed when many others in the neighborhood have; guess I just need to be patient.
They might have been shocking it; some youngun might have left a Baby Ruth looking deposit in it.
Great job by the young ladies!
The 3 of us went to brunch this morning. Poor Bella was put in her crate. But I had salmon toast and brought home some of the salmon for her. Then daughter & I went to an art gallery that was supposed to have an outdoor market in a garden area. Unfortunately they were spooked by the weather forecast and decided to cancel but didn’t put it on the web yesterday. We still had a nice visit with the gallery owner and I bought a piece of pottery. Then we tried to go to a specific candy store in the vicinity but the sign on the door said CLOSED FOR THE SUMMER. Shucks. Stopped at the BowWow Baketique and Bella made out with a beef stick and a squirrel shaped cookie from me but she won’t be too happy to find out that her Mom bought some dog shampoo. Then went to the cemetary to visit Mom, Dad, Babcia, Dziadzia, my godmother/aunt and uncle and plant a marigold for Mom. Came home, made lunch and helped daughter get the car packed then the 4 of us went to the Kroger gas station where we got a dollar off per gallon so $2.39 so we saved $27 on gas for the 3 cars. Then hugs and daughter and Bella were off to Chicago.