I’ve been debating on whether to post this particular rant since before I even signed up for the SDMB.
Let me start by saying that I am generally a difficult person to anger. I get annoyed often, but when it comes to full-on anger, it’s pretty rare.
I have a pair of acquaintances, we shall call B and G. B and G are married. This isn’t necessarily relevant, but I mention it for clarity.
B and G were both a part of my roleplaying group. Basically, every Friday at 6:30, they and the other members would gather at my apartment for a rousing four hours of adventure. The time for these sessions was never changed, and if someone had a problem making it, it was a minor inconvenience (roleplaying games demanding a certain level of continuity amongst the players) but it was a minimal hassle if they’d call ahead.
B and G would often not show up. And not call. When I say often, I mean 20-30% of the time. When I would re-iterate the idea that when one is not going to show up to a commitment, one should call the other parties involved, they’d fire back snarkily that it wasn’t any of my business what they were doing. That’s well and good… I don’t care WHAT you’re doing… I just need to know you’re not going to be HERE. One Friday, I wasn’t expecting G seriously because I’d learned earlier in the week that she had some homework to work on for class. But I was expecting B. Alas, I was destined to be disappointed. I called them about half an hour after my game had started to see what was going on. B says he won’t make it, because they’re going to a party.
Now, let me sidebar for a second here. I live in Morgantown, WV, home of West Virginia University, and there’s a party in town about every fifteen seconds during the school year. Seriously.
Early the next morning… on Saturday, when I usually don’t awaken before noon, I received a call around 10AM. G is half-coherently telling me about the party. Grah. I wrangle myself off the phone and go back to bed. When I finally get out of bed later… I’m mad. Not only did they not show up, and not call me to tell me they weren’t showing up, but they woke me up early on a Saturday. And that was the last straw.
So I called and had it out with B. (and indirectly, G) I asked if they even had any interest in the ongoing game sessions, pointed out that the absenteeism hurt the other people playing, and that it was just rude to ‘break’ an commitment without informing the other party. G assured me that her attendance would improve. (Ha! I need to do another pit thread on the dishonesty inherent in these two… ) B decided the best thing for him to do was quit. I agreed. Before closing the conversation, though, he uttered the phrase “I don’t see what the big deal is.”
Okay, yes, it’s just a game, but it’s also a regularly scheduled social gathering in which an absent player must be adjusted for.
A few months later.
I had remained on relatively friendly terms with the both of them, and was participating in a game being run by B. One of the other players in that game, we shall call her D in fitting with our mono-character pseudonyms, missed several sessions, without calling.
B threw a hissy fit. The phrase ‘She’d better be dead!’ was uttered.
Me? I smirked inwardly and kept silent.
I ask for the judgment of the court … be he hypocritical, or nay?