Just out of curiosity, how many of you have experienced a horrible online date? I met a man from West Virginia. He came to Illinois and picked me up. I parked my car at my daughters house and jumped in his van, to talk. He left later that night and came back a week later. By this time, I decided to go back to his place. I parked my car again and the man wanted the tires off my car! I don’t think so!(1st red flag) We’re on our way to WV when we pull into a gas station. I withdrew $200 from the ATM. He tells me to wipe out the account. (2nd red flag) I said no thanks, I’m good. The second gas station stop, I hand him $40 for gas and I give him another $20 to buy us each a pack of cig’s. He hands me a dollar back and says he bought his daughter’s cig’s and some lotto tickets. (3rd red flag) As we got closer to his place, his daughters calls and says they’re hungry. We pull into a Pizza Hut and we order to go but he doesn’t pull out his wallet. (4th red flag) I buy the 2 Pizzas and the pops. We pull into his trailer park and he reverses up against his small rv. The rv door opens and two huge girls (his twin daughters) come walking out along with one boyfriend and two little boys. We get to know each other over pizza, outside in the dark. The man tells the boyfriend to “hook up his pc.” The boy goes into the rv and comes out with a desktop. He hooks the pc up inside the van we just pulled up in! He runs an extention cord from the rv. This poor guy slept in his van! There was NO room inside that small rv, for him to sleep. So, by this point I’m freaking out. We slept in that van! The following morning, I go inside and ask to take a shower. They told me they had no hot water and no shower. They told me I have to heat water in a pot, on an elec. burner. They also said that I was lucky I’m 'thin" otherwise I wouldn’t have fit in the bathroom. Once my friend heated water for me…and I locked myself in the bathroom, I jumped on my cell and sent my daughter a text to come rescue me! She came and got me five days later! That was pretty wild!
After all those red flags, you still agreed to stay with a guy you had only met once? Even without the red flags, that’s not a great idea. And why were you there for five days? Your daughter couldn’t have gotten you the same day? Were you planning on spending the night with him or a whole week, or what?
Good story for this time of year. I would of been out of there before red flag #1.
We live and learn everyday.
Crazy huh? I’m just glad I got out of there…Could’ve been worse.
Yet-another-really-messed-up-relationship-story-teller-who-just-joined-today reported.
I see you got jokes. Does it bother me? Hell no…You’re nobody to me. If it bothered ya, block my ass.
But why did it take you five days to leave? Were you planning on spending that much time with him originally? That’s a really long time to spend with someone on a second date. To be honest, you’re not coming off a lot better than the guy you dated…
At the time, I had no clue how long I was staying or how I was gonna get back. I just wanted out of a “bad” relationship. He was willing to come for me and I was willing to take off. It wasn’t a smart move at all…I wasn’t thinking at the time. I thought for sure, it was alright because we’ve known each other ‘online’ for 2 years. Guess I learned the hard way. I consider myself lucky, today…It could’ve been worse.
Sorry, not buying it. For your second date you went on a 500 mile (each way) road trip? Not only that, you continued said road trip when he asked you for your tires? If that wasn’t enough you felt it was a wise move to keep going after he asked you to wipe out your bank account? Either you’re leaving out some major plot points that are important to the readers for help us understand why this wasn’t a terrible idea or you made some really bad choices.
Let’s just assume this really happened. He might have been the nicest guy in the world, but who just hops in someone’s car and heads from Illinois to West Virgina for a second date?
ETA…that ‘2 years’ part would be a ‘missing plot point’. That post wasn’t there while I was typing this.
I lived it…I experienced it…There’s no reason to make this up…It’s your choice to believe what I’ve went through, I’m not twisting any arms here. I asked for any online dating horror stories and I shared one of mine…Excuse me to posting here. It may be hard to believe, but it’s a true story and I’m sticking with it.
I never said he wasn’t a nice guy. The comments he made, didn’t seem right at all. But I didn’t let them bother me. I continued to go with him. His living situation was so sad. I felt for them babies. I failed to mention how we went shopping and I bought them babies things they needed. I didn’t leave there hating him or his family. I felt sorry for them. I could never live that way, let alone bring somebody there.
But you’re old enough to have an adult child. This is the kind of mistake that a teenager would make. There are five year olds who know enough not to go with a random stranger…how is it possible that you’ve made it to adulthood without knowing this?
I’m guessing you’ve never been in a bad relationship before. Been with the same man, my whole life. I took off with this man right after our youngest daughter left home. He was willing to come get me…That was the “push” I needed. It was a mistake. Guess it’s true, nobody’s perfect.
Because that is not an online dating horror story. An online dating horror story would be this one: I once was friends with a guy online, who wanted the relationship to go farther. I was seventeen, and fairly naive, so I believed him when he said he was 24.
So we agree to meet at the mall, and then we’d agree on going to a restaurant. He shows up, and he’s at least fifty. :eek: Chasing, and talking with, a seventeen year old, and a naive one at that. I agreed with meeting him at a restaurant…and then I just drove home and blocked him on my AOL chatline.
What happened to you is far, far scarier, IMO. I mean, the fact that you just got in a car with someone on your second date and drove 500 miles with him is crazy and has nothing to do with being online or not!
I mean, I kind of wonder if his family talk about you as the ‘crazy date’…girl drives home with dad and then stays for five days…whoa. 
And upon preview, I admit, I’ve never been in a really bad relationship.
We met online…and talked for 2 years online and on the phone. So yea, it is an online dating story. When we met the first time, we spent the whole night talking till morning. He left and came back a week later. That’s when I took off. His family members were really sweet. They didn’t think bad of me, at all. They were happy for their father actually. We did keep in touch after I left there. There were no hard feelings.
Ooooookaaaaaay. I just meant the “horror” part of it had nothing to do with the “online” part of it.
ETA: You know what? I take back the bit about being a naive 17 YO. I was never as naive as the OP in this thread…
Ahhhh…ok…sorry bout that…The horror part was…the living situation there. It was really bad. Other than that, they were really sweet people.
LOL…That’s okay, I’ve been called worse and it really doesn’t bother me a bit! Sometimes ya just gotta take that big step.
“them babies”? I’ve never had so much explained to me in such a tiny chunk of terrible grammar. I think I understand quite a bit more. Between the RV with the tiny shower and no hot water (or space to sleep. You still getting in the car with him after he asked you for your tires and ‘them babies’ I think I have a clearer picture of the situation.