As you can see, I have only recently emerged, purple and slimy, into the SD world. Now that my arse has been spanked, I feel that I am entitled to cry out loud. What about? This…
{{{fellow poster}}}
Now call me hard-hearted but the chain bracket online hug wrecks my head. I have a hard enough time dealing with how the embrace has become all-embracing IRL. Now I have to deal with it on the net as well. Virtual hugs, my hole. Could we not just shake hands like civilised people?
And, by the way, can I just say a big “get your fucking hands off me” in advance to anyone who replies with {{{manwithaplan}}}
This has been done before. I guess everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I’ll try to remember (after this: ////manwithaplan\\) not to hug you in the future.
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Having said that, I guess some people are huggers, and some are not, just as in off-line life.
Because I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggonit, people like me!*
Yep, the hugs are overdone, but I’m not sure if that’s a valid observation, or if I just lack the needed degree of empathy. FWIW, I’ve normally avoided the touchy-feely, but rarely criticize those that get something from it.
TwistofFate, you’re right. Beneath this uncaring, stony exterior lurks a damaged individual who was never held as a child. Any chance of a ride as well?
Ethilrist, is that a handshake or a wave? In either case, I think we’re getting somewhere.
Spider Woman, apologies for the lack of research. But I’m glad I’m not alone in my distaste for empty online gestures.
**Venoma[/b, I actually enjoyed that. But keep your hands off me.
**Waverly[/b}, hugging yourself online? That’s a slippery slope - I’d keep the kleenex close at hand.
I’m going to hijack this like the “bad mofo” that I “is.” Deal. Am I the only one who isn’t into physical contact from people I don’t care about? If someone walks up and touches me, especially near the face, I snap away and either glare or shoot them a “don’t fucking touch me.” I don’t know why… I’m really jumpy to uninvited contact. This girl was walking around sniffing people’s necks today at lunch and when it became “my turn” to have her face buried between my shoulder and neck for an instant, I less-than-politely declined. Now if I’m aware of the reasons or if I care about the person then it’s different. I dunno… this thread brought this up in me. This train is back on sched-joole. My hijack is through.
I usually never have a real problem with people touching me, because most people are usually only hugging me, tickling me, rubbing my back, high-fives, and other friendly harrassment/comforts. What does disturb me is when guys who I know from prior experiences have found me attractive (be it they hit on me, asked me out several times, stalked me for months, etc.) touch me, and suggestively. I was lying on the grass at lunch two days ago, just dozing in the sun, and I came to when someone was rubbing my back, my lower back mind you, in gentle circles. I rolled over and was disgusted to find that it was this creep who asked me out two years ago 11 times. (I wish I was kidding.) An asshole guy who stopped talking to me after I told him how annoying he was randomly stops me in the hall to try and give me hugs. Excuse me if you think I’m a bitch for it, but hell no don’t touch me. I don’t like you, haven’t spoken to you in months and don’t plan to touch you, much less let you try to grab my ass.
And there are other times too. Like when you’re pissed about something, and the person who pissed you off tries to hug you and make you feel better. It’s like FUCKER DONT TOUCH ME!
Hugs, on whole, are generally good. Even the online kind.
