What is wrong with some people? I post on another site (yea that’s the first problem), and one board is geared towards people with a certain view.
Now several years ago, I didn’t hold this view but over the years, I grew up, changed my thinking, etc. and now my views on life and my personal views have changes as well. So some crazy broad who I have been posting with for months and have been coll with all this time all of a sudden is going to “out me”.
Oh yes, apparently she googled my posting name there which I’ve had for years and came up with stuff from eons ago. Of course that stuff showed that I thought differently back then. But she’s going to publicly “mortify” me.
Are people for real? I post on message boards for fun, debate, a little mental stimulation at times, but not to purposely screw with people. I don’t get it.
Posting rule #1: Use a different name for every message board you plan to post to with any kind of volume.
Posters (in other places - not here, really) always seem to get burned for failing to follow that simple rule. Your case isn’t too exceptional, but I’ve seen way too many people get driven from popular online forums when it was found that they’d been posting on boards dedicated to screwing anthropomorphic squirrels, pedo crap, and far too many more messed up subjects to even come close to listing.
Even if you think you have nothing to hide, you never really know what will come up in the future, so it’s always a good policy, IMHO.
Start a thread about the fact that you used to be in the wrong on this subject, but that you came around to the right way of thinking.
Reveal that this person is threatening to ‘out’ you just because you were once naive or ignorant. Point out that you also used to believe in the tooth fairy and that no-one is talking about outing you for that one!
Point out that by admitting that you were once wrong you have essentially confirmed your humanity (to err is human). Add that nobody is right all the time, everybody is wrong about something (actually, many somethings), and that those who never change their minds effectively guarantee that they continue to be wrong.
I agree. There’s no shame in admitting you were wrong, or there shouldn’t be.
Actually, rather than a pre-emptive strike, I’d just try to slip a casual reference to it in some conversation somewhere - then if she ‘outs’ you, you can just respond “oh, yes, that. I already mentioned that”.
Although it might be too late to take such precaution. In any case, don’t let her push you around. If you lose anyone’s respect over this incident, it wasn’t worth having in the first place. Any reasonable person will see that you just changed your mind - it happens even on big stuff.
I haven’t ventured on to the site yet , I was actually thinking of doing the preemptive strike thing.
It actually is kind of a big thing as far as being a life view but come on, don’t people change thier minds? Does everybody hold the same exact views on everything now as they did from 5, 10, 20 years ago? :rolleyes:
Thanksfor the suggestions everyone. I definitely will use different screen names from now on too.
Rather than making it a huge melodramatic thing about you, maybe start a thread like “How have your views on life, the universe and everything changed over time?” or (as I’ve seen here) “Has something someone said on a message board ever made you change your mind?” Start with your example in the OP and invite others to share their own. Totally disempowers her without sounding defensive.
I love it. This chick has a history of doing stuff like this to people that annoy her. FTR, the other 2 people that she’s screwed with have had issues of their own, however, it doesn’t excuse her behavior.
I guess I just don’t get the whole dramatic scene. I know people do it and that many do purposely come online to troll and all that but I still think it’s a useless waste of time.
Why Not I’m still debating that idea. Or I could delete that forum completely and devote more time to the Dope .
I love it. This chick has a history of doing stuff like this to people that annoy her. FTR, the other 2 people that she’s screwed with have had issues of their own, however, it doesn’t excuse her behavior.
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