It’s neither, it’s science. Men just say stuff that isn’t to meaningful and women use their superior brain architectrue (when it comes to language) to read deep meaning into it. I am frequently looking at my wife with the expression, “How did you get THAT out of what i just said?” and then she will explain and I will be like, “Oh, I geuss that makes sense, but seriously how did you get THAT out of what I just said?”
It’s a reference to the video game Portal.
In the game, the protagonist is forced to solve a litany of increasingly dangerous puzzles under the watchful eye of a computerized video monitoring system, which talks to her. It keeps promising her cake if she completes all the levels. At some point in the game you find an abandoned hidden space in which presumably previous failed participants had sought shelter. Scrawled on the wall among other nonsensical ramblings are the words, ‘‘THE CAKE IS A LIE.’’
It’s a funny game.
Wow. You are oversensitive.
pdts
Yes, it is. Its fans typically aren’t, however.
“The cake is a lie” has become a nerd handshake much like “May the Force be with you,” said by everyone regardless of whether they’ve actually played the game. When you’re a big time nerd you hear it fairly regularly and it never gets funny.
I can’t begrudge it too much, considering it was hearing that phrase repeated over and over on this board that prompted me to buy the game and see what the fuss was all about. Not to minimize the annoyance experienced by hearing it over and over… just to find the silver lining.
Don’t worry, I begrudge it enough for the both of us.
I used to have a friend who would say things like “Get your fat ass over here,” when the person addressed clearly did not have a fat ass. But I seriously doubt whether he’d say it to a person who actually had a fat ass. In a restaurant, instead of asking the waiter for the check he’d ask “What are the damages?” That sort of thing. It took people a while to get used to this, until they realized he was just trying to be funny and overly-colloquial. It’s just the way some people are.
It’s actually some sort of meta-irony, that in a thread about how what one person thinks is humor can be taken badly by other people, someone says something that he thinks is humor, and it’s taken badly by other people.
The fact that DIO said it, then claimed it was humor just takes it to a whole nother level higher than meta.
Higher than meta? What’s higher than meta? Post-meta?
meta-meta
Looks like somebody’s got a case of the Mondays.
To some guys “repairing” something sounds a lot more satisfying that “cleaning” something. This might have something to do with it. He probably didn’t think there would be any qualitative difference to his wife.
A sense of humor implies that you are creative enough to come up with a different joke from time to time. 95 year olds with dimentia are excused.
I clean up, and I have never, ever imagined it as a repair job. I also cook (not as much as I’d like to), so I know that dirty pots are part and parcel of cooking. We both clean up during cooking when possible, but for some meals doing this isn’t feasible. But I also enjoy cleaning up, probably from my touch of OCD.
Doo doo, da doo doo
Doo doo da doo
If you hesitate when you say that you can create a post meta pause.
Mega-meta
There is a issue, some resentment, where the fault is I don’t know. Having him apologize for something he doesn’t understand is not going to help, just delay and intensify the problem.
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From your other post, passive aggressive usually (always?) is from the submissive partner trying to express some form of resistance to the domination of the other, it is usually a put down to try to get to submissive partner to submit more. From this I tend to see it as you are demanding too much and he is near the breaking point.
Is the kitchen a complete disaster area when you’re done cooking? Food bits scattered everywhere-- counters, floors, fridge, ceiling fan? Dirty pots sitting on top of the food bits? Utensils left where no utensils have gone before? Open spice bottles with no caps in sight, egg shells with dripping goo, sprigs of parsley in the burners, shredded cheese on the dog?
Some people are a hurricane when cooking and do nothing as they go along. Everything is just left where it drops, where it was used, where it was spilled- never to be picked up until after dinner when it’s all had the opportunity to cake and dry and harden and rot.
That might be what he’s referring to in a subtle, joking manner.
When I cook, I can be messy-- spills, etc. As I’ve gotten older, I tend more and more to clean as I go along. Veggie peals right to the sink to be cleaned up in one big sweep after the salad’s done. Wipe the counter. Move on. Why? Cause I’m the one cleaning up, too. So if I leave it all to the end, it’s going to be twice the work. If I do it as I go along, the kitchen stays clean as I go. The cleaner it stays, the more motivated I am to keep it that way.
But from the cleaner’s point of view, if you’re making a total mess as you go and leaving it for him to deal with, when it’s much more work to do, he may be resentful on some level.
Does he ever cook? If so, how does he manage the kitchen? Is he a “clean as he goes along” type or a “leave it til after dinner” type?
I apologize for stuff I don’t understand all the time. That’s part of being married. It seems like I spend half my life going “what? What? What did I do?”