I do whine occasionally when he leaves a big mess in the kitchen to clean up. He claims he doesn’t have time to do it while he’s cooking, but I cook often too, though not as often as him, and I nearly always have time. When things are simmering, instead of running off to your computer, you could spend a minute cleaning up? But it’s a tiny aggravation and I hardly notice it most days.
Oh, and fart jokes are totally not funny unless I made them.
Wouldn’t that be sarcastic and couldn’t it still be tongue-in-cheek?
Has this been bugging you for 16 years and you just now brought it up? Then he’s entitled to say ‘what’d I do wrong?’ Is this a new thing that you dealt with promtly? Then meh.
I had a friend who’s spouse would come home and ask her what she’s done today in a very causal way until one day, after years, she went off on him because she’s always heard it as what did you accomplish today. He was apologetic, but said ‘I really wish you’d told me that 8 years ago.’
Sarcasm can often be expressed ironically, but id doesn’t have to. Sarcasm is basically any use of humor or mockery to belittle or wound. It can be ironic (“oh, you’re sooooooo smart”) or it can be direct (“you look like a monkey and you small like one too”).
“Tongue-in-cheek” just means something that is not meant to be taken seriously and can also be expressed either directly or ironically, but it isn’t really sarcastic in that it generally doesn’t carry a nuance of being cutting or mean, and doesn’t have to be directed at another person.
What’s this about cake being a lie?
That isn’t sarcasm…
Kay, that’s sarcasm.
That isn’t sarcasm… that’s hyperbole.
Again, sarcasm doesn’t have anything to do with being cutting or mean.
Yes it does. That is the dictionary definition.
My ex was terrible about this. We would alternate, one of us would cook the other would clean. I am a “clean as you go” cook. My ex? Not so much. Without fail, every time it was the ex’s turn to cook, the kitchen looked like a frickin’ bomb went off. It was ridiculous. I would be in there for a solid hour cleaning up every time. I don’t think I could’ve made such a mess if I tried. Was a bit of an uneven split, which eventually started to breed resentment. Eventually I just insisted on cooking all the time.
My current boyfriend cleans up despite who cooks, because he is a neat freak. Works out great. 
Hm.
Well, either way, you can mean the opposite of what you say and be tongue in cheek.
“Sure, and I love Phantom Menace. :p”
The opposite of what I mean and tongue in cheek.
Yes, but you can also be tongue in cheek without being either ironic or sarcastic.
If I look outside and see that it’s raining hard, and I say, “I think I’m going to need to take the boat to work today,” I’m being tongue in cheek, but I’m not saying the opposite of what I mean, and I’m not being sarcastic.
Aha! The point is it’s possible to pretend that you’re constantly being tongue in cheek and thus interpret everything you say as its opposite.
Good Lord, what the fuck? I am not saying that you made up your wife or that there isn’t an epidemic body image problem in the US! What I said was that what your wife does is not what all wives do. That’s it. When you say “wives do X” instead of “my wife does X,” (especially when my wife doesn’t do X) it just sounds foolish and sheltered. I’m also not making a value judgment either, about our respective spouses, I’m just saying that different people are different, and that your personal experience with gender roles isn’t a complete description of the state of gender in the US.
Not necessarily opposite, just not seriously.
Chillax, brah. I seriously doubt that Dio genuinely believes that his wife is representative of every woman that exists.
And Diogenes the Cynic takes down yet another threat with his divisional tactics. A textbook effort of that which shall not be spoken.
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You are one funny guy. Cheers.
Oddly enough, I kinda like the guy I live with who cleans the kitchen, and I like to make his job easier when it costs me very little to do so, and makes me feel good to boot. I’m such a doormat like that.
This was an episode of I Dream of Jeannie.
Dr. Bellows wanted to make sure that Maj. Healey and Maj. Nelson would be compatible as companions in space travel, so he made them live together. They had this deal in which they took turns cooking dinner and cleaning up. But when Roger made his specialty, tuna casserole (which Tony hated!), Tony went into the kitchen and found an unholy mess for him to clean up.
I forgot how it ended, but it probably had something to do with the sexy chick in a harem costume.
I’ll pretend you aren’t being tongue-in-cheek, ironic or sarcastic.
Something like “jam yesterday, jam tomorrow, but never jam today”, I think.
The Urban Dictonary has an entry, Urban Dictionary: the cake is a lie
My favorite fart joke is “did somebody step on a duck?” whereas The Devil’s Grandfather prefers to blame the barking spiders.