My grandmother is a pretty old woman at 93, she’s probably beyond being surprised about anything. She’s had gay grand children, she’s outlived almost her entire family, a son, a husband, all her siblings. She lived through some of the most dramatically different eras in U.S. history, I honestly don’t think there’s anything that can shock the woman.
My grandmother was shocked that we didn’t get rid of the cat before having a baby. She must have asked me about eleventy-billion times “now, what are you going to do about that cat?” (answer…nothing)
Despite her fears, the cat has so far managed to avoid killing either our first OR second daughters
The thing that I have done as a parent that I know would have shocked all of my grandparents is allowing my daughter to go out with a black male friend. I wouldn’t even call it a date, just riding around as friends. My grandparents that grew up in the 20’s are probably rolling over in their graves.
Similar - mine is that my recently-passed father-in-law was black (or, to be accurate, part black, part white, part Cherokee).
I think the world of my Aunt Martha (she played the part of grandmother in my life), and she said she prayed about why it bothered her to see white and black couples, but she would not have been able to get past that.
You are awesome! I’ll bet he grows up to always trust you, while still being independent and free-thinking and open minded.