Part 1: Your life's main parts are divided into Before and After what?

This is the first of a two part topic about Before and After milestones.

The first one being…your life.

In everyone’s life, there is a defining moment or person or event or place where there was a notable change. It could have been a change for the good…or for the bad…or not even either nessacarily…but just some big change that made things different.

So if you take your life, and put it into two parts, what would be that thing? Or rather, what would the two parts on either side of it be known as?

It would be known as the Before x and After x, obviously. Like Before My Operation and After My Operation.

Before The Divorce and After The Divorce

Before The Lake Incident and After The Lake Incident.

Before Death of blank and After Death of blank.

Those are just examples. So what would your thing be, if your life was split, that would be the Before and After change?

For me, it’s easy. It’s Before Cathy and After Cathy. Ugh.

Before the Hare Krishnas, and After the Hare Krishnas.

Before Puberty and After Puberty.

What? Nothing happens to me. Ever.

Pre-Crisis, Post-Crisis.

Living in Ohio / Living in Chicago

Though I just moved to NYC, I’m wondering if I should change it to

Pre-College / College and Beyond

Before my son was born / after my son was born

Every single day.

Currently, my two eras are Before Sentience and After Sentience. The switchoff occurred in about eigth grade; that was when I finally, truthfully became aware of the actual process of thought and its relation to the things I was doing for which people were calling me “smart”. It didn’t take me long, with the help of my best friend (whom I met around this time, not-so-coincidentally), to start applying this to an analysis of myself, my thought processes and patterns, and their relations to who I was and what I did. Soon thereafter, I stopped being an idiot (despite what my grades, various tests, and my parents and teachers said, I was a complete and utter moron as a kid; I was just a moron with good fact retention and base-level processing skills).

Recently, through application of what I’ve learned about myself to what I’ve noticed about others, I’ve been learning to present myself to people more as a nice, open-minded, caring individual, and less as “creepy psycho dude”, the latter being the vibe I apparently used to give off in spades (and still do, if I don’t provide conscious effort to the contrary). I’ve also gained a far greater understanding of what exactly the human mind is, the processes by which consciousness and its various divisions handle that which we call “thought”, and the ability (and awareness) to consider how each individual element of the innumerable interactions we observe and take part in daily affects the system as a whole.

This is in stark contrast to pre-sentience, in which I did schoolwork, read Calvin & Hobbes books to the point where I memorized every strip, and never really stopped to wonder for even a moment why it was that everyone else seemed to hate me. (Now, of course, I understand perfectly well why some people still hate me…well enough, in fact, to realize that I really ought not care.) Better to spend my time trying to impress my mom by using some more big words, or watching the Ninja Turtles. Yeah. Turtle Power. Roundabouts the end of sixth grade, a spark of awareness did briefly illuminate previously-unseen regions of my mental capacity, but all that served to do was cause me to think (realize?) that most of the people around me were idiots, resulting in a two-year period in which I proclaimed everything to be stupid and became actively, rather than passively, antisocial. Intelligence-wise, not much of an improvement.

So, there you have it. I’m sure that, as my life progresses, there will be some other defining moment that shapes my existence to the point of creating a new dichotomy of lifestyle. For now, though, that’s what I’ve got.

Before despair, During despair.

(Does that count?)

Before I met my husband / after I met my husband

Before I lived in an apartment / after I lived in a house

Before I had internet access / after I had internet access

Before I had my child / after I had my child

Before I had job I liked / after I had a job I liked

Those are the most significant divisions in chronological order.

Before Fresca / After Fresca

Before brain surgery/after brain surgery

Before/After I left the farm where I grew up (when I was 20)

or

Before/After coming out to my mother (when I was 30)

Before the fire / After the fire (Band Name! Oh, wait… already used)
Before meeting husband / After meeting husband

Before joining the Army/ After joining the Army.

So my entire university career fits into the before category.

Before getting married and after getting married.

Or:

Before today and after today.

Before meeting current wife and death of my mother/after meeting current wife and death of mother. All happened in a 3 day period, October 7-9, 1989.

My first major milestone was moving here. So:

Before India/After India

Apparently it totally changed my personality.

Before finding out I was adopted/After (at 14)

Before moving out from under parents’ thumb/After

Before meeting my SO/After

Before son/After son
OR
Before Mr2U/After Mr2U

Before I knew my soul mate/ after he dumped me 6 years later