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. I am 5’ 2" and am FINE with ‘short’ men. As long as they are a bit taller than I am - 5’ 6" is perfect. I was once asked to dance and I stood up and I looked DOWN into a wee munchkin’s eyes. Not to be ‘heightist’ or anything, but … I am totally unimpressed, and in fact a bit turned off, by tall men. My father and brother were very tall and I had sad history with both. Both were freakish and jerks.
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. The size of the unit is irrelevant. It matters only to men. They are obsessed by it. Being rammed with a telephone pole is not fun no matter what porn movies show. If a man has a massive member, he is better off going to a gay bar and flopping it out of his pants to get some real admiration for it.
I’m going to say height is a greater initial filter than penis size. Once you get to the sex phase the penis size might filter you out, but you’ll be getting less dates in the first place if you’re short.
Obviously, height matters more in the dating game, because you actually know how tall someone is when you are considering going on a date with them. Different women have different height preferences, and weigh it differently, but height actually does have a non-zero effect on whether a woman will look at you at the bar, or say “yes” to a proposed date, or …
Whereas 99 times out of 100, the woman knows nothing at all about the guy’s penis. (Rarely someone is interested in a guy her friend has dated, and I suppose there must be cases where they gossip about his dick. It’s never happened to me, and I can’t recall hearing anyone talk about that happening to her, but it must happen sometime.)
The actual question in the OP doesn’t have as obvious an answer, because of the different preferences around height, and because 8" is long enough that it might actually be painful. (and the OP asked which you would prefer, not which you would agree to date.) But most of these appearance things are mostly important in the initial “screening”, “would I date accept a date with this person?”. They are almost always less important than substantive factors (do you enjoy hanging out with this person, do you have compatible goals, morals, habits, etc.) once you get past that initial yes/no.
First I gotta say that your refusal to accept the answer you asked for is pretty unimpressive.
“Is anybody here impressed with my dick?”
“No.”
“Seriously, is anybody here impressed with my dick?”
“Still no.”
“Aw, come on, somebody here has to be impressed with my dick!”
“No!”
And also, come on man, think a little. Outside of men’s locker rooms and Incel forums, men keep their penises contained in this thing called ‘pants’. Pants are often opaque, and (unless you’re David Bowie) often do a pretty good job of concealing the penis from the view of passing women and police. Given that fact, how can you expect the average woman to make her relationship choices based on something she can’t even see during the ‘choosing’ phase?
‘Concealed Penis’ is an excellent band name.
Traditionally, I am attracted to tall lanky men. Think Alex Skarsgard.
So all things being equal (equally funny, compatible, good lovers, considerate to others, etc…) I’d prefer the taller of the two, as I’d be more likely to be physically attracted to him.
Good lovers come in all shapes and sized (penis shapes and sizes as well). I dated a man with an average sized penis that seemed to always hit my cervix (painful) due to his preferred positioning. And I dated a man generously endowed and had no similar issue. Good sex comes with compatibility and communication. Big doesn’t always equal good or satisfying.
Is this like the fourth or fifth “incel-ish” post we’ve had in the last couple of days? Is it incel week?
The only group of people who really care about penis size is men. Straight men, gay men. MEN care. Women don’t as a rule care. Male sexuality is fetishistic and women’s isn’t. By and large.
I’d say the majority of women are going to prefer a guy who is a little taller than they are. A LITTLE taller. But not a great disparity. Almost any guy who is above 5’4" has a sizeable dating pool.
Not that the above info will matter or even perhaps register with the OP.
Definitely the double A’s. We are talking about report cards, right?
I think it has less to do with fetishism and more about our sex’s insecurities. Many of us stay up at night worrying we’re not good enough for the people we have a crush on, and thus will lose them soon as a better guy comes along. And since after 4,000 years we still haven’t figured out the first clue about how you womyn work and what y’alls *want *; we don’t know what “better” really is or could be. So it’s putatively any and everything - but “not being satisfying enough in bed” is of course fear number A.1.alpha.
'sides, women sexuality is plenty fetishistic - it’s just not the same fetishes :p.
Anecdotally—I mean, how could it not be?—width seems to be more desired than length in the male member. Earnest communication, and a knowledge of female anatomy, trumps both. Of the choices, I’ll take 6’4."
It is hilarious listening to women describe a guy who was evidently absolutely gigantic. The lady relating the story said she saw his penis, Nope!'d the hell out of there, to which he replied, “Yeah, no worries. I get that a lot.” And another young woman replied that a guy like that just meant ya needed more lube. Much laughter was had by all.
I’m on a baker’s dozen of closed Facebook groups for gender-variant people. The transgender men quite often have not had any surgery to generate a penis, for a variety of reasons. The ones who date women report that the complete and utter lack of such an appendage is indeed occasionally a dealbreaker, but not as often as you might expect. If there’s good communication and a romantic ignition, it’s something you can work around.
Meanwhile, the lesbians have long been saying that they are better at getting other women satiated and pleasured than men, and claim to have statistics to prove it.
I myself have such a physiological appurtenance. I have no idea if it’s larger or smaller than standard, nor whether I have more or less skill on average in using it. I’m absolutely positive that none of that has more than superficial bearing on whether or not I’ve been in demand or had happy partners.
Nowhere near all men are obsessed with penis size the way some people are, they just don’t have a reason to go to small-penis-related reddits so you won’t see them there. The 4000 years thing is just silly - opinions about penis size are almost entirely cultural (along with things like breast size, fat vs fit vs bodybuilder, body hair, makeup, facial hair, and the like). To use an example from approximately 2500 years ago, the Greeks felt that large penises were gross and uncivilized and used ‘you have a large cock’ as an insult - you can see this aesthetic in the small penises on nude statues.
Also, a little secret about women: they don’t have a hive mind so there’s not one answer for ‘how you womyn work’, and for the most part if you strike up a friendship with some of them, they’ll actually tell you things like what they want and don’t want in relationships. Of course, that requires actually listening to what they say which is apparently tricky for some people - for example, in this thread you have exchanges like “I don’t really care about cock size, I’d choose the short guy because I like short guys” followed by “Oh, so you like the larger cock size then!”.
Hey, there is nothing wrong with enjoying your manly displays of manliness. Have at it!
Sigh.
I withdraw the congratulations I gave in my first sentence quoted above, on the grounds that you clearly have no intention of qualifying for the congratulations in the second sentence.
You’re clearly not trying to get actual information; you’re just trying to push somebody into giving an answer that you like and that fits into the nonsense being passed around your thread full of complainers.
It’s possible that you’ll grow out of this eventually. For both your sake and that of anyone who has to put up with you, I hope so.
If a woman won’t date a short man, how will she discover he has a big penis?
And what about girth?
Yet at the same time and in the same general eco/cultural area Romans and Etruscans couldn’t stop drawing huge, priapic dicks everywhere. Even wore them as apotropaic jewelry.
That being said, obviously I wasn’t being overly serious. That’s twice in this thread I’ve cockwooshed - maybe I really *do *have an outstanding dik-dik.
(emphasis mine) That’s just cheating.
…sounds like Marines…
Well, my penis never fails to make women laugh.
I mean… that’s a good thing, right?
A guy who’s got an adorable dik-dik and knows what “apotropaic” means—okay, I’m impressed. 
(Unless that was somebody else’s dik-dik you sent the picture of?)