I was listening to an interview with the film-maker of the documentary “Bully”, who was also bullied as a kid. The interviewer asked him why he was bullied, and he kind of huffed and puffed, saying he didn’t like that question because it puts the onus on him, the victim, to explain the behavior of the people who wronged him. It’s like blaming the victim.
I guess that’s true. I don’t know how a person is supposed to explain why they were picked on without sounding either really pathetic or sour-grapey (Because they were jealous!). But is it inherently a bad question? Can’t a person have some insight into the problem that would allow them to answer the question objectively?