The other night, my boyfriend was over at my place, and we were curled up, watching TV. I was feeling really “fat”, if you know what I mean, so I popped open the top button on my jeans and unzipped them; I felt like I was going to burst.
He grins at me and says, “let’s go at it.” That’s what he always says when he wants some “hanky panky.”
I roll my eyes and say, “honey, just cause I unbutton my jeans doesn’t mean I’m horny! I’m more bloated than a puffer fish; you’re not getting any tonight.”
Why do we women have to go through those days of hell every 28 days? :smack:
Can you provide a little more information for why we should be upset with your boyfriend? As a gay man who spends no time thinking about women’s periods, I will freely admit I don’t get it. But did your boyfriend know you were on your period and were feeling bloated before he made his “go at it” comment? Maybe he thought you were sending a signal that you wanted sex, and he was offering to do what he thought you wanted. Did he continue to pester you after you said you weren’t interested? What exactly didn’t he get?
He knew that I was bloated (he saw that my stomach was more “puffy” than usual), and I told him that I was PMSing before he came over.
A woman undoing her jeans and sighing usually isn’t a sign that she wants some. It’s usually a sign that she’s eaten too much, she’s on her time of the month, or simply because her jeans are too tight.
I dunno, I just wish men were more sensitive about things like this…
I don’t know if it is a matter of not “getting” it - maybe you need to let him know when you are not feeling the sexy due to your period like I do. Pu on the biggest sweatpants you have and say something along the lines of “Criminy, where are the friggin’ Depends? I’m bleeding like a stuck pig here”. My husband usually picks up that I’m feeling less than fresh at those times.
I’ve only been dating him for about 3 months, so he’s still getting used to my ways.
I should’ve worn sweatpants that night, I’ll admit. It would’ve probably sent him the message. But he already saw that I was bloated, as well as PMSing…
Sex was THE LAST thing on my mind that night; I was way too uncomfortable.
Ok, the “I’m PMSing” should have been a big clue but I must say that, unless he actually said something about your stomach being puffy (and after saying such a thing I would not be expecting happy fun times) that he did not notice a puffy stomach.
I will confidently state that men do not see even close to 20% of the crap that women think we do.
He should have known a few days ago that it was coming. I quickly became very much in tune with my wife’s cycles and knew that three days prior to the period, everything I would say or do would piss her off immensely.
Sure, when you’re living with a woman, after awhile you should get an idea of the timing of her cycle just by what shows up in the trash.
Early in a relationship, not so much. When you’re just seeing each other, and things are just starting out, the woman might just be ‘busy’ the weekend of her period for a month or two while she’s still scoping the guy out.
Some women are extremely regular with their periods, and some women have extremely irregular periods.
