In “women seeking men” ads on match.com, I encounter a couple of phrases over and over and over again.
- “I love life.”
- “I know what I want”, and a popular variant, “I want a man who knows what he wants.”
What the hell do these mean?
Despite what it’s done to me.
Buy it for me.
Commit now.
“I like to have fun” = “I’m not good at describing my interests. Oh, and I’m really bad at writing resumes, too.”
I want a man who has a spine. I want a man who will express a freakin’ opinion when asked where he’d like to go for dinner. Any man who says “Whatever you’d like is fine with me” more than three times will be exiled to another dating pool without ceremony.
I second that. I had one that always said “You pick!” or “I’ll let you decide…”, only to try and blame me later if he didn’t have a good time, etc. Ugh.
Have an opinion! Even if you are afraid I won’t like it, dammit!
I’m not entirely sure, but I think they mean
- I have a happy disposition
- I have goals I want to achieve in life
But I’m not sure why someone wouldn’t actually use the words in my example, which I think are clearer.
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not depressed
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I’m looking for a relationship. Not “adult fun”, “new friends”, or penpals. I want a boyfriend that will turn into a husband. You be, too.
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Means absolutely nothing. It’s just blather.
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“I know what I want” means either “I want lots of money” or “I want a committed relationship,” or both. In other words, I want direction and structure in my life.
“I want a man who knows what he wants” really means “I want a man who wants what I want.” In other words, “I want a man who will give me material things and commitment.” Structure.
1 - I’m happy no matter what anyone else says.
2 - I know what I want, but I’m not going to tell you so when we break up I can claim you’re not what i want.
um, yea, the g/f is moving to the other side of the world and i think we’re breaking up very soon… 
I like the ones that say…“Can You keep Up With Me?” Yea, let me just jump right on that treadmill and pursue someone who has no time for me.
…or “I like to laugh”, **Who doesn’t??? **
People who’ve just had abdominal surgery?
Oh, do I have strong feelings on #2.
It means, “if you want a mindless fling, or if you’re not sure what you want, don’t waste my time by stringing me along and telling me that you like me in a relatively deep and significant way, and letting me believe we have an actual future, if you know damn well that’s not the case. Or even if you strongly suspect it.”
But I could just be projecting.
Chicken Lady. Avoid at all costs.
Enjoys restaurants, chooses entrees decisively, embarrassed by dates who change their order three times while talking to the waitress.
Hey, I figured you’d gotten enough semi-serious reponses by now.
- I have a blank stare and a big grin on my face no matter what is going on around me.
2a) You better figure out what that is really quckly and serve it up with a bulldozer.
2b) Assuming that won’t interfere with bulldozer operation in 2a
I thought “Can you keep up with me?” was a sexual reference.