Wherever it is that you are comfortable approaching and talking to strangers.
All my best relationships started after meeting friends of friends or friends of family, precisely because I was never as comfortable approaching strangers as I was approaching somebody who knew we share a friend. You don’t even have to “approach” them, your friend will make a glowing introduction. And if your friends are kind non-crazy people, the odds that their friends are too really increases.
I was never specifically set up with anyone - just met new people through friends and I took it from there.
First be someplace you like to be, doing something you like to do.
If your “like to be” is your room and “like to do” is masturbating, then you are probably not at a point in your life where you are ready to form a relationship.
Of course, we could be talking about one dude who goes out on a date every night of the week, with each date being a first date.
What no “online” or “at work” in the poll? Those are common ways to meet someone.
This. Back when I was single, I met a few of my GFs at school, a few through friends (and another through a relative), a couple of them through personals ads (this being waaaaay before the Internet existed for most of us), and one at a place that we both volunteered at.
Didn’t meet any of them at a drinking establishment of any sort.
Everything you read on the Internet, including this post, is wrong.
Granted I wasn’t looking for a date at the time (I was married), but when we first moved to Denver, I met a number of terrific people while volunteering.
I selected 2, “church” as a stand in for any special interest club and “other” for introductions through friends or family.
I met my spouse, for example, at a birthday party for one of my sisters, then common interests took over. Many churches, BTW, have singles groups.
Called “hypergamy,” and like every other argument points taken up by the MRA, so overblown as to be an invalid topic.
Still, you all saw how the high school football captain didn’t just limit himself to the prom queen. Most everyone gets one or two marriages, but he gets a lot of initial dates because the guy does the asking and he hears “yes” more readily. Extroverted guys will ask out both extroverted and introverted women. Introverted men get sidelined.
Yup. If you are in the top 10-20% of men then online dating is great, if not then it usually isn’t a very good way to meet new people.
Social clubs are a good way to meet people, but you have to have the energy, time and interest as well as have clubs you want to join. Plus you have to sit through a few before people feel comfortable enough to start letting their guards down.
Some bars have pool tables.
What if I “like to be” in my den? How do I court the fairer sex in-between doing what I “like to do”?
I’ve never heard of Bible Study Groups in Britain, although I’m sure they’re fascinating.
Trouble with work is the fall-out continuing to work alongside after the break-up.
friends/relatives: we kinda discourage that sort of thing here.
Me, too. I don’t feel in the US that the difference is really all that much. I kind of tend to think of a pub as more likely having food than a bar, but I use the term pretty much interchangeably. It’s not something I’ve noticed as being explicit terminology for two different things.
I’ll second(/third/fourth/whatever) the “online” option, as a male.
I’ll agree with pub/bar in the US not being that much of a difference. I live in the Atlanta metro area and most “bars” have decent (at least) food. Even the so-called ‘dive bars’.
Anyway, I’ve met plenty of people to date at the local bar/pub. And one of my relationships started with a woman I met at church - so those were my selections.