The bride needs to keep in mind that the marriage is more important than the wedding. The wedding is a one-time party, whereas the marriage should last a lifetime.
A few things I did at my wedding to try to keep the price down:
My wife and I wanted both sedate background music and rippin’ jump swing, so a band wasn’t feasible. After interviewing several DJs, all of whom were some combination of expensive, annoying, and unprofessional, I went out and bought a minidisc player. That way I could record my own compilation of exactly the music my wife and I wanted, it was way cheaper than a good DJ, and I still have the minidisc player. Also, it was a lot easier than burning CDs, because I could change the playlist at any time.
My wife was going to go non-traditional for the wedding dress, and we were looking for them together. And then she tried on a traditional white gown. She says my eyes got real big and my jaw dropped. She liked the reaction, so she searched high and low for a traditional dress, and finally found one on the final clearance rack for $237. It had a full train and everything.
We wanted some flowers for the wedding, but the wedding florists were incredibly expensive. She shopped around, got one relatively small and inexpensive bouquet for herself, and bought the rest of the flowers at a floral wholesaler for very little money. We arranged them ourselves in some cheap but beautiful glass vases decorated with a little ribbon in our wedding colors.
Another idea is to buy live flowers at a nursery. They’re just as pretty as cut flowers, and since you’re having the wedding in her mom’s garden, they could be given to her mom as a thank-you gift.
I bought my tux rather than renting. I dunno, I just didn’t want to get married in someone else’s clothes. But, I bought the tux used from a rental place, and I still wear it to formal events. Of course, you wanted to know how to save money, not spend extra money on clothes for the groom.
We had a friend as the solemnizer (that’s the official term for the minister/officiant/whatever in California) which was of course free. (Although we paid the $50 for her to get her one-day Deputy Commissioner of Marriages license. This price varies by county in CA) It was someone we both loved and trusted and respected. She was great, although it had the unexpected (bad? Good?) consequence of the minister crying during the ceremony.
We also had no wedding party at all. No best man, no maid of honor, nothing. Having seen other people struggle with their wedding party’s strange personal politics, I was happy not to have them, especially if I was going to have to help pay for any of their dresses/tuxes/kilts/speedos/etc.
I drew and hand-lettered our wedding invitations. Contrary to what a previous poster said, people can remember your wedding invitation, if it’s interesting. Mine had a crocodile with two champagne glasses trampling some yellow tulips, and formal calligraphy on the inside. I made color photocopies at Kinko’s onto cardstock and bought the envelopes from the leftovers box at a greeting card store.
We didn’t have a photographer. We weren’t interested in posed shots. All our guests made sure to take portraits of each other. My favorite shot of my grandfather ever was taken by my mom from a disposable camera.
My wife got the champagne (just for the toast) at a local liquor store for $5 a bottle. It tasted better than some of the $30/bottle types we’d tried. Rental for the glasses was free from the liquor store for buying a case of champagne.
For beverages, we had bottles of juice. It felt a lot classier than sodas. We went with a caterer for the dinner, and that was the major expense of the wedding, something like $3500, plus tip. (BTW, we opted to tip separately, rather than have the tip part of the caterer’s bill. That way, we didn’t pay sales tax on the tip)
We ended up keeping the wedding cheap enough to be able to afford a month-long honeymoon in australia, which was more important to us than the wedding festivities anyway.
In general, be wary of wedding-specific goods and services. The wedding industry prices everything ridiculously high, knowing that many people will pay whatever it takes. If you can get the same thing from some place that doesn’t specialize in weddings, you’ll probably get a better deal.
I hope some of this has been helpful. Good luck with your wedding planning, and congratulations to the bride.