I’d never be willing to sign away parental rights. Plus, my wife would never let me.
ETA, I’d reconsider if I could receive a large remuneration. I still would not surrender parental rights, though. I would require partial custody as well as a stipend.
[li](Married women) Assuming the answer to (1) is yes, would you let your husband do this, even by the turkey baster method?[/li]
I’m not married, but if I was, and we were asked to do this, I’d want me and my husband to be the kid’s godparents; ie, we wouldn’t necessarily be in his life, family celebrations, he wouldn’t know about the bio link until he asked if ever but if both parents died we’d then be responsible for the kid.
But then, I’m weird.
Turkey baster was my term. I’m sure she used the correct term, whatever it is; obviously, since I’m not willing, we didn’t get into specifics, as there was no point.
Fascinatiing, especially since about fifteen years ago, my brother received a similar invitation from a lesbian couple he and his wife knew.
He declined.
I’m no expert at all in this area of law, but my understanding of child support is that it belongs to the child, not the mother, and therefore cannot effectively be contracted away.
I would never agree.
No - I don’t loan money to friends, as I’ve noticed a regrettable tendency in myself to feel entitled to judge their spending patterns from that point on (“sure, he can afford a trip, but he hasn’t paid me back in full yet.” or even “he has paid me back in full, but he’s taking that trip, he’d better never ask me for another loan.”) I can’t imagine what it would be like if I gave away my husband’s sperm… I can’t imagine it would be a friendship strengthening experience for me.
And here I thought I was weird. Why did your brother decline?
I’d be for it, though I have to think I would prefer the turkey baster method. Not that I wouldn’t enjoy getting a freebie from an attractive young lady, just that my preference is to avoid drama. Turkey baster would just be a few jokes now and again… having had sex with friends… a bit more awkward.
If they insisted on sex, i would go for it, but it wouldn’t be my preference.
2 for me.
I’d be happy to do it if I had confidence that the two would make good parents and weren’t genetic messes (yes, I’d actually think about that. I’m going to have some emotional attachment to this kid and don’t want them to get huntington’s out of the deal, nor stupidity). If I was in a committed relationship (as I am now) it would presumably have to be done artificially. If I were single-single, it would depend on how hot the prospective mother was :-P.
I’d also be immensely flattered to be asked.
Where da white weman at?
Sign me up, brotha! I’ll hit em both, no extra charge!